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Being annoyed at DH for constantly referring to our 3 year olds erections?

156 replies

1ittlegreen · 07/09/2016 21:05

Whenever my ds gets an erection dh says something like "oooh you could have someone's eye out with that" or similar. Ds looks slightly confused and I think it's too soon to be drawing attention to things like that.
AIBU to try and stop my DH for saying these things? Don't want ds to start feeling ashamed...

OP posts:
CoconutAndVanilla · 08/09/2016 13:35

Can people from either camp just accept that not all children are like theirs?

I fully agree with what you have said, some parents on here do think if their children is doing something, other children are doing the same thing.

IS normal for a three year old to parade around naked dancing, it's equally normal for kids not to

Sorry but I will never seem what you've said as normal there's no excuse for a child not to have a pair of underwear on whilst at home.

IceRoadDucker · 08/09/2016 13:36

A child doesn't need an "excuse" to be naked in his/her own home.

DropYourSword · 08/09/2016 13:40

there's no excuse for a child not to have a pair of underwear on whilst at home

No excuse Coconut?!

Sunshineonacloudyday · 08/09/2016 13:43

My child is 18 months and he keeps on ripping off his nappy it is really annoying. This has really turned serious now -slowly walking away-.

LHReturns · 08/09/2016 13:43

Coconut, I remember you from other threads. I mean this kindly - and I am in no way criticising your brain power - but you are a prude.

Sunshineonacloudyday · 08/09/2016 13:44

Its not a problem the op just has to tell him to rein it in.

SleepFreeZone · 08/09/2016 13:45

I mention my three year old's erections to my partner, ie. I walked downstairs to find him playing with his willy whilst watching Peppa Pig and I will relay that as a funny story to DP. What I don't do is mention it to DS, that's the bit that I think is unnecessary.

I do sometimes say, 'stop playing with your tinkle', or 'go and wash those tinkle hands' - if I know he has fiddled with it after a wee. Otherwise we don't mention it at all, no need.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 08/09/2016 13:47

It's a sad state of affairs if you don't think a 3 year old walking round in its own home is something to be ashamed of.

I'm a mum and a have nannied for 20 odd years so lots of experience with young children, young kids ime love to streak around in the nuddy.

CoconutAndVanilla · 08/09/2016 13:49

LHReturns no offence taken, I am here from Netmums and there wasn't any of these kind of threads on there.

And yes I can admit I am a bit of a prude, always been like this.

Gottagetmoving · 08/09/2016 13:51

Sorry but I will never seem what you've said as normal there's no excuse for a child not to have a pair of underwear on whilst at home

Seriously?? Some children love to be naked. Some adults do too. Whether people wear clothes or go naked in their own home is their business.
When I was a child we played in the back garden naked when we had the paddling pool out. It's perfectly ok if that's what you want to do.

user1470043860 · 08/09/2016 14:30

Bloody hell, talk about being uptight people.

There is nothing wrong about having a bit of a laugh/discussion about your wee man's wee man.

user1470043860 · 08/09/2016 14:33

As for the OP, I take it the DH is a SAHD and is present at every nappy change? If that's not the case I would say you're massively exaggerating.

user1470043860 · 08/09/2016 14:35

He's not just 'commenting on his son' - he's making smutty sexual remarks about a 3 year old.
Disgusting

Jesus.

IceRoadDucker · 08/09/2016 14:46

your wee man's wee man.

Oh dear lord.

furryminkymoo · 08/09/2016 14:48

Nor me Lorelei76 !

I have a DD and must have always look after girls!?

Ninasimoneinthemorning · 08/09/2016 14:50

mynest that just actually really made me cackle Grin

Ninasimoneinthemorning · 08/09/2016 14:53

what you've said as normal there's no excuse for a child not to have a pair of underwear on whilst at home

Whaaaaaat? Dd2 (3) strips the moment she gets in!

LagunaBubbles · 08/09/2016 17:01

Sorry but I will never seem what you've said as normal there's no excuse for a child not to have a pair of underwear on whilst at home

Why ever not Coconut? What is wrong in your mind with a naked child - in their own home? Im not trying to be horrible, really curious in what you see wrong with it?

Believeitornot · 08/09/2016 17:05

What fundamentally is wrong with a child being naked at home?

Fundamentally please explain.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 08/09/2016 17:13

Nakedness has nothing to do with sex.

A child (or anyone else for that matter) being naked DOES NOT turn them into a sexual being.

I fucking hate this prudish British attitude to nudity and natural bodies. Angry

DubiousCredentials · 08/09/2016 17:20

Personally I don't like bare bums and genitals on my furniture. But I don't think families that allow it are weird.

MaQueen · 08/09/2016 18:09

Christ, some people are unbelievably uptight and depressed and joyless [shudders]

When DD1 was 3 she would regularly parade around the house, in nothing but her favourite Peppa Pig socks.

Whenever DH was having a soak in the bath, she would always immediately strip and climb in with him.

Totally, totally normal and natural.

MaQueen · 08/09/2016 18:10

That should be 'repressed' not depressed...

toptoe · 08/09/2016 18:19

He just needs reminding that your ds doesn't need comments made infront of him about his penis. A little chuckle about it now and again between parents is harmless. Maybe he doesn't realise your ds is now at an age when he'll start analysing what his dad says about his body.

CoconutAndVanilla · 08/09/2016 18:24

LagunaBubbles Nothing is wrong in my mind, I just wouldn't allow my children to do so, yes my son does sometimes walk around the house in just his underwear, which is fine because he is only 6 but as he gets older he will be told to wear shorts/bottoms. DD is only 9 months old and I don't think I'd allow her to walk around just in her underwear.

DubiousCredentials Thank you for making me not feel weird.