Being annoyed at DH for constantly referring to our 3 year olds erections?

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Whenever my ds gets an erection dh says something like "oooh you could have someone's eye out with that" or similar. Ds looks slightly confused and I think it's too soon to be drawing attention to things like that.
AIBU to try and stop my DH for saying these things? Don't want ds to start feeling ashamed...

Stiffies are, by and large (excuse the pun), funny. Aren't they?

At 3 they will barely notice them the whole family notices them as ds was very proud of his willy and even prouder when it got bigger!

I find the comments on here that the husband is weird/ thick/ immature really odd tbh .

Stiffies are, by and large (excuse the pun), funny. Aren't they?

When you're three years old, yes.

For adults? Er...

Ofgs , 'you'll have someone's eye out with that' is hardly reason to sign the kid up for a life time of therapy!

I have two DDs and had no idea that this happens to young boys!

I missed the bit where the OP's son is actually 33, not 3

This thread is barking.

Surely all kids do this?

For now, we call 19mo DD's vulva etc 'private parts'. She frequently greets nappy changes with joyful shouts of 'PARTS!!!'

I think the DH puerile humour is better than being weirdily awkward and stiff about it, but he could probably do with getting over it all, too.

I think I'd just laugh at him and say 'stop saying that, you'll give him a complex! Seriously you don't need to comment every time.'

At 3 they will barely notice them

Really? My 3 year old is obsessed with them and announces loudly when his willy has gone hard. He is always touching it, I had to tell him the other day to be gentle as he was squeezing himself so hard.

Yes to making sure it's pointing down before going to the toilet. My son has nearly caught me before with that.

Well other people may not make a song and dance about it but my DS did. We were treated to the Willy Dance after every bath.

Just wait til he discovers it has a mushroom hiding inside it!! My ds (6)spent weeks proudly showing everyone he had one hiding inside his foreskin. Knocked it on the head (not the head of his penis) my other little ds is 2 and we talk about private boobs and private willies!! Can't go through that again!

I used to take DS1 to a toddler group at the local library. One week, it was closed for a refurb so I went to one slightly further afield in a much more Yummy Mummy area. As soon as I went in, I felt really intimidated - it was full of women with designer handbags and swishy hair accompanied by beautifully behaved children. A member of staff came over to read a story. DS1 then announced really loudly 'My willy is hard'. The look of horror on some of the women's faces was something to behold. I didn't go back.

I know a little boy who is, ahem, rather well endowed. His dad, and other male members of his family made such a fuss over it they made him self conscious over it, he was embarrassed over it. His mother sternly told everyone to back off and stop mentioning it. They did so but he is still self conscious over it.

Agree totally with LH and ginandbearit

The thead had moved on by the time I posted my support for LH and Gin.

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But apparently the obsession is all down to 'weird' and 'thick' parenting. I think much weirder to pretend that a toddler's full-on-display erection isn't happening, as if it is something 'rude' or embarrassing.

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^if parents over react then that's where shame and confusion start .
I remember my little cousins being screeched at and shamed by their parents because after bath stiffies were on parade..funny how hung up adults can be about children's bodies .^

It doesn't sound like the boy in the OP is being shamed or made to feel guilty.

Maybe she is, but quite how anyone can establish that from this thread is beyond me.

These sort of threads high light just how joyless some people's lives are imo dh is a creep and weirdo because he comments on his son? Dear Lord, at that age don't we all comment on just about every little thing they say and do,I know I did!

All the creepy comments are ridiculous.

He's not just 'commenting on his son' - he's making smutty sexual remarks about a 3 year old.
Disgusting.

I'm giving the OP's DH the benefit of the doubt - maybe he just feels awkward about it, possibly not realising it is normal and making a crap joke as a coping mechanism.

I think he needs to be told not to make an issue of it though.

And I didn't know this would happen. I have a baby son and DH warmed me.

Don't be silly surferjet next you'll be calling him a pedophile.

paedophile. My spelling gets worse as I get older.

I'll draw the thread to its natural conclusion and suggest that the OP's DH is a paedophile.

Are you serious, or just being sarcastic? I can't tell, because it is a ludicrous suggestion