Being annoyed at DH for constantly referring to our 3 year olds erections?

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Whenever my ds gets an erection dh says something like "oooh you could have someone's eye out with that" or similar. Ds looks slightly confused and I think it's too soon to be drawing attention to things like that.
AIBU to try and stop my DH for saying these things? Don't want ds to start feeling ashamed...

To the poster who said their 18 month old pulls his willy out of his nappy and then puts it back in again- how is that even possible if the nappy is done up securely? Genuinely curious

He fiddles with the nappy he keeps on trying to take it of and then he puts his hand down their and pulls it out. I am going to try pull ups and I am thinking about potty training him. He peed on me earlier today it's a nightmare. I don't make a big deal of it but I do encourage him to put his willy away.

So, how is the general opinion changing on this thread.

It certainly seemed to me that the general consensus was that the OP's DH is a weirdo as well as being a host of other thing.

But opinion maybe leveling out.

Poor bloke, just being a dad, completely ignorant of the fact that thousands of MMNers around the world are judging him for single comment.

Coconut am I read your last post right that you son can walk around in his underwear until he's older but your daughter never can? Why's that? Just curious and not trying to get at you.

My DH lounges about in his pants and DD unfortunately also strips the moment she can. It annoys me a bit because it looks like I haven't bothered to dress her, but I have! And I have to do it again to leave the house. But I don't mind nakedness per se.

DD is 3.

Can't understand the whole naked is bad / sexual thing. My dd who is 6 also happily dances around naked and regularly just wears pants around the house if it's hot. In fact I've joined her in running naked round the garden on a particularly hot day in the rain (we've no near neighbours!). It's just a body.

It's just a ficking joke fgs

Just don't get this buttoned-up angst over little children being naked, like it's something unsavoury and dirty???

It's such an unhealthy attitude to have, and a really unhealthy attitude to pass on to your children

Blerg

Curiosity killed the cat lol

I just don't want my daughter to think it is fine to walk around in just her underwear and without a top on.

Me myself I'm very self conscious, not because I have any body insecurities I just always make sure I'm covered up.

And I wouldn't really be happy if my DP thought it was ok to lounge around the house in his underwear (which he doesn't, even if he gets up in the middle of the night he will make sure he puts pyjama pants and a t-shirt on)

I've never allowed bare bums on the sofa - that's a matter of hygiene - but as far as I'm concerned any prepubescent child can be as naked as they like in their own home. Unless there are visitors who might be as uptight as posters upthread.

Mine are past this stage, but they loved running around naked before and after their bath when they were little.

But coconut it IS fine for your DD to wander around in her underwear, when she is little.

And, why on Earth would she have to wear a top? What, pray tell, do you think the top would 'cover up'???

You are telling her that her body needs to be covered up. Like there is something wrong, or bad about it.

MaQueen
It may be fine for you but it isn't fine for me or my DD. We all have our different ways of parenting and we should not be judged or questioned about it unless we are doing something wrong.

I don't think anyone's judging you Coconut, saying you wouldn't allow it isn't really answering what you see as wrong with children being naked in their own home.

I believe that teaching a little girl that her naked body is something shameful, that must be covered up is very wrong.

We all have our different ways of parenting and we should not be judged or questioned about it unless we are doing something wrong

Yet you were very quick to tell others including me that allowing kids to run around naked was wrong.

Coconut, the above posters have a very good point.

Again I mean this kindly because I sense a sort of innocence and naivity about your posts which seems fairly genuine (they are certainly consistent). I almost feel a bit defensive of you.

You mention being a Netmums user - I have never been on Netmums but I am now wondering if over on NM there is kudos associated with being a bit of Stepford wife?

On that other thread (the cheating husband / posh wank one) you had some rather quaint views about masturbation, and here you imply a similar buttoned-up, inhibited approach.

I dunno, maybe that is exactly the way you really approach life, but you won't get much buy-in on MN. There is a more candid, all hanging out, women-supporting, respect for all our flaws style here.

And while I entirely respect your choice to live any way you like (as an adult), I would be very sad to know that any 3 year old feels he or she should always be dressed at home. Personally I am with Maqueen here. I respect your view if it is authentic, but I do judge it.

Anyway, you might enjoy what MN has to offer for some of these reasons and I like your participation. You liven threads up!

coconut I hope you don't feel I'm personally attacking you. But, this is Mumsnet. We tend to be quite a frank and feisty lot.

But, you admit that you have always been very self conscious, and keep covered up.

Don't you want something better for your DD? Don't you want her to feel better about her body, than you do?

Coconut why is it one rule for your son and another for your daughter?

I'm from Netmums, and they don't have threads like this
Welcome to MN Coconut. You ain't in Kansas anymore. You know, we actually can use rude words here without people fainting?
Op, your dp is being a dick. My ex bil was like that, it was all "Look at my manly son!" ( and therefore by extension look what a man I am.)Yes, DN got a bit funny about his body when older.

DS (2) loves nothing more than stripping off after nursery and running around in his sisters sparkly shoes with air on his butt.

DD (nearly 4) also regularly strips off, though she does tend yo put a pair of knickers on and nothing else.

I let them (though I close the curtains). Its their home and they are kids...

I believe that teaching a little girl that her naked body is something shameful, that must be covered up is very wrong

^^ this.

And I the difference in allowing the little boy and not a little girl makes my teeth itch.

I just don't want my daughter to think it is fine to walk around in just her underwear and without a top on

Most young girls start to get self conscious as they get a little older and take their cue from school. How horrible it's being imposed already on a 9month old

Like I have said we all have our own ways of parenting, I'm not justifying myself anymore.

In all honesty, I don't think there is anyway to justify this...?

Thanks for your response Coconut. I would say each to their own but I do think a double standard for son and daughter is a bit sad. My Dad inadvertently shamed me about my body and it affected me.