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nasty people

244 replies

roundtoit · 07/09/2016 14:35

I was a massive user of Mumsnet , but i hardly ever visit now because i can guarantee within 10 replies on any thread it will have turned nasty. Why ? I spent many an evening having a real good laugh at some of the stories but now it seems to be who can be the nastiest first . Shame shame .

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ilovesooty · 07/09/2016 16:16

bibbity ditto mean.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 07/09/2016 16:18

Another one of these threads slagging MN off? Really? What sort of reply do you expect exactly?

Thefitfatty · 07/09/2016 16:20

I actually joined in 2011 after having DS and posted an AIBU about giving up trying so hard to lose weight (weighed less than I do now funnily enough) the verbal bashing I got frightened me away till 2015. Grin.

I think it's actually gotten a bit gentler....or maybe I've become more of a bitch :p

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 07/09/2016 16:20

Here, OP, is the link to the last thread about this if it helps ... LAST THREAD

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 07/09/2016 16:21

You could join in on that one or just read it to save everyone time Smile

CoconutAndVanilla · 07/09/2016 16:22

Well I have been on this site for a few days I was previously a member at Netmums, since joining this site I haven't logged back on.

I have found some of the months on here rude, judgemental and very sarcastic... I can't believe that some individuals would be rude to someone they don't know or have never met... It must make them feel better in themselves by acting like this!

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 07/09/2016 16:24

What are 'months'? Did you mean 'mothers?'

You do know that it's not just mothers on the site?

Saucery · 07/09/2016 16:24

God yeah, it's ridiculously mean and horrid. If only it wasn't compulsory to post on MN.

NerrSnerr · 07/09/2016 16:27

I don't know. There are so many topics and threads and the vast majority are fine. I only see arguments on chat, AIBU and the feminism boards. The great thing about the Internet is that if you don't like something then press the back button and ignore it. There are some topics I find upsetting so I just hide those threads and go on others. If someone was particularly mean to me I would argue back if I felt like it or I'd hide the thread and forget about it. No ones forcing anyone to read any particular threads and some of us quite like reading the occasional bunfight. Most controversial threads are started by trolls anyone I reckon.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 07/09/2016 16:28

And if someone is acting like a cunt, they get pulled on it.

Agree with PP that PMing posters asking if you have upset them is creepy as fuck

Crispsheets · 07/09/2016 16:30

Just scroll down.
Don't take it personally.

MaQueen · 07/09/2016 16:32

Gawd...posters actually PM others to ask if they have upset them? Really? [cringes]

I love AUBU (most of the time) because it's frank and refreshing, and one of the last bastions of when MN used to be far more robust as did its posters

CoconutAndVanilla · 07/09/2016 16:33

"Mothers" Blush sorry...

That's an example you knew I meant mothers and months was a spelling error but you still took the time to ask what months was Confused

Well it's called Mumsnet so I assumed it was a site for mums.

Crispsheets · 07/09/2016 16:36

Some people are just too over invested in threads. They like the drama of a missing dh or whatever.
Most of the threads are posted by trolls.

NavyandWhite · 07/09/2016 16:37

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GinIsIn · 07/09/2016 16:38

Coconut with respect, you assumed wrongly. Perhaps spend a bit more time reading different threads and topics and really get a feel for MN before making a judgment. There are many on here who aren't mothers.

CandyMcJingles · 07/09/2016 16:40

I got my arse handed to me recently and I totally deserved it. Generally I'm nice (I hope) but can get it wrong.

I would say I've seen threads where it is almost like a sport to gang up against other posters and it all gets very snotty.

But more than than I've seen support and kindness.

PrivatePike · 07/09/2016 16:46

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Babyroobs · 07/09/2016 16:51

YANBU. There is one particular poster who has to get a little dig in at me whenever she can. I'm not sure what I have done to upset her. My comments don't seem to upset other people but she clearly has it in for me !

Ginslinger · 07/09/2016 16:51

Oi MaQueen I once PMd an apology to you - (at least I'm assuming it was you) That must have been a cringefest of epic proportions Grin

LEIGH350 · 07/09/2016 16:55

Haha... funny you should start such a thread, when I have just been savaged myself in a thread. Yesterday, people were being really helpful and kind, not that I necessarily agreed with what they said, but I knew they were genuinely trying to help.

Then it all turned bad this morning, with a couple of people mis-quoting me, lying about what I'd said, and shaming me when I am vulnerable.

I had to walk away.

But it cannot be helped. All online forums attract people who go looking for someone who is down, so they can kick them and then feel superior and smug. The bashers won't reveal any of their own weaknesses, though - oh no, they won't open their soul and risk being savaged.

But still, 95% of MN are great!

MrsDeVere · 07/09/2016 16:55

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Ginslinger · 07/09/2016 16:57

anyone who ever says "I'm not being funny' never ever is. It's like a badge of shame.

MaQueen · 07/09/2016 16:59

Gin my memory is shite, so have no idea? But, it doesn't matter as I likes you, I does [pats Gin approvingly]

Waltermittythesequel · 07/09/2016 16:59

Leigh, was yours the cake thread?