Gran to mind special needs baby while parents go on bender at festival

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Title says it all.

Baby with special needs to be left with recently widowed granny while parents go to a three day festival as they need a break.

Does anyone else see this as entitled behaviour or am I just a complete bitch to think this is taking advantage?

Some background:
Parents are in their mid-40s and will be taking drugs at said festival
Food will not be supplied to granny, despite the fact that the baby is only 7 months and is in the process of being weaned (yet won't always take bottles and eats very little)
Baby wakes multiple times throughout the night
Granny will have to drive 50 miles to collect baby
Baby makes strange, is very unsettled
Granny is recently widowed and has no support

...but apparently they need a break...they have had a hard few months but how is going to a festival and going on a bender a break?

I have 2 children with SN and my mum has looked after them for a few days on a couple of occassions. I asked, she said yes.

I really hope she doesn't go round criticising me behind my back like this

So essentially you're not happy but rather than just saying that to your child, you want an objective assessment that they were unreasonable to ask?

Of course they weren't. They can ask anything and of course they want a break. They may have thought you actually liked spending time with your GC.

The arrangement is worrying you so say no for sure, but that's your personal viewpoint and you can't say it's because a bunch of strangers on the internet said the parents were entitled

Also YABU to use the word entitled which I'm super sick of.

I went and got 'off my brain' at Download in June. No drugs, just booze. I left my kids with their Dad. Had I been a lone parent or had husband wanted to come I'd have asked my Mum or MIL, no question.

Would still love to know if baby is actually SN or just high-needs, and OP has mixed up the terms, but I have a feeling she ain't coming back...

Surely the issue with OP minding the child is the fact that she is recently widowed?!

Perry, if the post had been, "I promised a while ago to babysit DGD this weekend. I was widowed last month and don't feel up to it, what should I do?" then the responses would've been overwhelmingly to pull out.

I suppose I think there's two things. One you've assumed the drug thing because you've heard it from a third party. Unless to you speak to them you could be wasting a lot of anger on something that isn't real. Second thing, if you don't want to babysit, don't. But again you must speak to them. Silently fuming by yourself will do nothing but harm.