I know I am unreasonable (Wedding related)

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DP's best mate is getting married next year and we have just been filled in on all the details. I am so horrified by what they have planned I don't want to go but I know it is their day and I am being VVU but I really need to vent about this as it is so ridiculous I am not sure how any one could take seriously as a "real" wedding.

For the record they are not well off and I wasn't expecting the Ritz more like, registery office, social club, buffet and disco or similar.

What they have planned is the following;
A registry office ceremony - full tails for the gents, hats etc for the women are expected by the bride for photos.
A 2hr slot in a pan-asian buffet style restaurant - speeches are banned.
A club night out on the local strip.

For the amount they are paying for the restaurant - buying meals for all guests - they could have had a private room in a social club with a buffet and a disco! I am upset for DP as it is his first time as best man and he has been banned from making any speeches.

I don't understand how this will feel any different from any other Friday night for this couple, there is low key but this is silly! Why go for the big princess dress just to take it to the local Chinese!

Any way I know it is unreasonable but this wedding will be VV weird... can anyone suggest an outfit I can wear to this monstrosity... Must have a hat.
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Hope they have a wonderful wedding day and you stay well away from it. What a twat.

I think it sounds fun. Book into a travelodge on the strip so you can dump your wedding gear.it could be shit and embarrassing or it could be great, it is what everyone makes of it.

Hahahahaha.

Oh, dear. You really do object to this couple's wedding plans? Um, well. O.K., then.

TBH, their wedding plans don't sound markedly different to your ideas about a "proper" wedding. I am scratching my head wondering how exactly a Pan-Asian restaurant buffet would be so inferior to a buffet at a social club. These distinctions strike me as essentially meaningless.

Admittedly, I find the whole wedding culture mostly incomprehensible. But I certainly wouldn't attend a wedding with the attitude of the OP, who considers it to be a "monstrosity," and plans to snigger at the couple's choices with her friends. Jeez.

Why not join in the spirit of it and get yourself a Chinese style Suzi Wong style dress and a facinator .

I used to go to dinner every once in a while with a group who loved dressing it up so we'd end up eating a nice meal with the entire party in evening dress and then go to the pub. It was a bit of fun and most people we encountered loved it as we were doing something a bit fun and out there rather than the usual boring.

I've seen brides tripping down the Vegas strip, people smile and wish them well , sniggerers would be considered a bit childish and conventional.

Go on OP step out of your comfort zone and have FUN you might even like it (maybe if your DP ever proposes you might even decide to have a fun wedding rather than a social club and disco too once you've experienced "the other side")

Ha at snapcrap getting the wrong end of the stick and smugly looking down on everyone else for not getting that it was a made up story which was SO obvious to her... and then the OP clarifying that it wasn't made up.

Glory, indeed.

Sometimes my 8 year old is rude to his little sister and then says; "I'm only joking" when he realises that he's crossed the line.

I want to try Cosmo now as I do love a trashy Jimmy's.

I would piss myself if I walked into a Chinese Buffett and there was people in hats and tails and a wedding dress. Sounds rather chavvy to me and I don't blame you for feeling this way. I'd tell my best mate that he was been an idiot for having this sort of wedding

Awww I was once in a cafe and there was a small group having their reception there. They all looked so chill & happy. I've been to many meringue & hotel dos and I always remember the cafe one because it was so sweet.

Actual lol at 1sttimedaddy83 being all superior about 'chavs' when he can barely string a sentence together...

How wonderful it must be in your glass house!

I'd tell my best mate that he was been an idiot for having this sort of wedding

It's 'being' not 'been' - HTH!

Surely one of the hallmarks of being mature enough to get married is being mature enough to not be so teenage-worried about what people might think and being... gasp... embarrassed.

Getting married is Day One of the road that ends in dad dancing and drunken mum cackling . Leave your cool at the door I say and get stuck in to the buffet in full evening gear

OP, you do realise that this thread is massively identifiable? You've put in a lot of detail about the wedding and who you are in relation to it.

If anyone in the B&Gs circle sees his thread, you are likely to be uninvited from the wedding. But at least it will solve your problem of having to attend such an unseemly event.

Are you in Liverpool? If you are can I get invited. Sounds boss.

If love to celebrate your friends wedding with them.

@1sttimedaddy83
Red pen time!
"...there were people in hats..."
Are you a Cockney?