I know I am unreasonable (Wedding related)

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DP's best mate is getting married next year and we have just been filled in on all the details. I am so horrified by what they have planned I don't want to go but I know it is their day and I am being VVU but I really need to vent about this as it is so ridiculous I am not sure how any one could take seriously as a "real" wedding.

For the record they are not well off and I wasn't expecting the Ritz more like, registery office, social club, buffet and disco or similar.

What they have planned is the following;
A registry office ceremony - full tails for the gents, hats etc for the women are expected by the bride for photos.
A 2hr slot in a pan-asian buffet style restaurant - speeches are banned.
A club night out on the local strip.

For the amount they are paying for the restaurant - buying meals for all guests - they could have had a private room in a social club with a buffet and a disco! I am upset for DP as it is his first time as best man and he has been banned from making any speeches.

I don't understand how this will feel any different from any other Friday night for this couple, there is low key but this is silly! Why go for the big princess dress just to take it to the local Chinese!

Any way I know it is unreasonable but this wedding will be VV weird... can anyone suggest an outfit I can wear to this monstrosity... Must have a hat.
HA

"Not sure why the night club part is any more "thoughtless!"

Because at a function room you can sit in the same place with your bag under the seat all day for starters. Are they all gonna stick their suitcases in the middle of the dance floor at the club and do the Macarena round them?

Plus kids can stay all day at a social club. It's very, very clearly not this couple's priority to make it a family occasion, but anyone who actually wanted the whole family there would not reasonably expect people to travel to only be included in two hours of the day's planned activities.

Eh?

Why would anyone staying the night not have dropped off the suitcases at their hotel first?

CBA with this thread now.

saucy we don't know whether kids or great aunts are invited though do we?

This couple might not have a big family, a large amount of the guests might be friends?

I wouldn't plan a wedding I didn't want just to please great aunt rosie who I only see once every five years.

Surely nobody is obligated to go the club anyway, just as you're not obligated to stay all night at any venue.

You are right, And don't like your attitude. I think you are being a complete bitch about this and a snob. If I was the bride and I saw this (it's VERY identifying) you'd be uninvited immediately.

Also if this was my other half taking about my best mate I'd be having some stern words with you.

It doesn't say they want the whole family there.

You sound VV jealous and bitter, you don't like the bride, you think it's a shame HIS family will miss out. You've conferred with the other members of your friendship group and they agree it's naff.

Are you the bitches from mean girls or do you just want the groom for yourself instead of settling for his bf ?
Yes you're BU now have a

Fucking hell I genuinely thought this was going to be one of those threads that was taken from a TV show, or a reverse.
I really hope you don't go. The thought of you eating food they have paid for while you titter behind your hand to your fellow bitcher is awful. The wedding isn't about you or your partner or the guests. As the popular MN saying goes -it's an invite, not a summons.

Perhaps in a few years, if you truly reach adulthood, you could read this thread with special attention to your posts and realise you're coming across as a prize bitch. Do you mean to? Possibly not. But the facts speak clearly.

This poor OP! So many of you have sharpened your claws here this morning.
Wow. You are the ones who need to use the MN cliche: "Get a grip."

Lol

Rather hilariously there are some "prize bitches@ actually accusing OTHERS of being "prize bitches"!!!!

Hahaha

..."prize bitches..."

Haven't waded through the entire sorry thread but have seen enough to be struck by the irony!!!!

Actually, it seems to me some of you - most? - are mobbing the OP and behaving like hyenas. Lol

Saucy how many people do you think are invited?! They don't have exclusive use of the venue. I'm guessing 20/30 people if that. That probably doesn't include extended family and loads of kids. There may not be any children in the B&G family (there weren't in our families when we got married). The two elderly couples who attended our wedding cried off early to go back to their snazz hotels they'd booked, and there was no ill will towards our evening plans.

Obviously none of us know their situation but it's perfectly possible the majority of guests are fine with the arrangements (not the OP though of course....)

I had the bog standard 3 course wedding breakfast, disco, speeches etc (as dictated to me by MIL). I spent thousands accommodating family members I barely knew and haven't seen or spoken to in the 13 years since we married. It was fucking ridiculous, wish I hadn't been pushed into doing what I didn't want to. I would MUCH rather a chinese and a nightclub, what a laugh! Surely any children and other relatives that don't fancy a nightclub can just leave after the meal? I don't see the issue.

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DelicatePreciousThing1 Have you got lost on the way to Netnums? Seems more your kind of place.

IceRoadDucker

Sabine guestzilla hahaha

It's not what I would have chosen but it sounds like the makings of a great wedding. And a wedding that will be remembered and talked about. Some of the best wedding are the ones off piste.

Friend had a great one, reception was back at her house, garden decorated tons of handmade flags and lanterns and the local chippie delivered 100 portions of fish and chips in boxes. Pudding was an ice cream van which you could visit as many times as you want. After that it was a trip to the local Hall for a school disco. Great wedding

IceRoadDucker You seem to be under the impression that your behaviour is the MN way? Instead of the wit and humour that is to be expected, you're just behaving as a bit of a bully.

Have you got lost on your way to year 9? Grow up a bit.

Delicate I said "coming across as a prize bitch". I did not say that op is a prize bitch. Can you understand the difference? One is an observation, the other is an attack. Did you RTFT? Nope you admitted it yourself.

Oh wow. So droll.

Nope, I used to frequent TES.

My points are valid, however. What a bunch you lot are and how dreadfully uncouth. You swear a lot so clearly have a massively undeveloped vocabulary.
Haha

My response to Ice Trucker. Have you ever considered how utterly silly your usernames are?

Compared to DelicatePreciousThing1?

Agreed, Claudia. At last someone with a sense of fair play.