I know I am unreasonable (Wedding related)

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DP's best mate is getting married next year and we have just been filled in on all the details. I am so horrified by what they have planned I don't want to go but I know it is their day and I am being VVU but I really need to vent about this as it is so ridiculous I am not sure how any one could take seriously as a "real" wedding.

For the record they are not well off and I wasn't expecting the Ritz more like, registery office, social club, buffet and disco or similar.

What they have planned is the following;
A registry office ceremony - full tails for the gents, hats etc for the women are expected by the bride for photos.
A 2hr slot in a pan-asian buffet style restaurant - speeches are banned.
A club night out on the local strip.

For the amount they are paying for the restaurant - buying meals for all guests - they could have had a private room in a social club with a buffet and a disco! I am upset for DP as it is his first time as best man and he has been banned from making any speeches.

I don't understand how this will feel any different from any other Friday night for this couple, there is low key but this is silly! Why go for the big princess dress just to take it to the local Chinese!

Any way I know it is unreasonable but this wedding will be VV weird... can anyone suggest an outfit I can wear to this monstrosity... Must have a hat.
HA

Just stop pretending it sounds like a great idea to traipse round town all day dressed like a plum.

OOH excellent outfit suggestion Mango just what I was looking for!!!

I really need to know if this nightclub has a cloakroom - this could be vital Otherwise nowhere to ditch the wedding hats and tails and wedding presents and so on. Mind you I was once at a large hotel where wedding cards with hundreds of pounds in cash and gift vouchers were stolen from the wedding do.

I am not really going to say whether you're being U or not you've got enough people doing that,
But I am very sad for the bride and groom :(
They've clearly tried to make it more personal to them.
either don't go or go and make the best of it. remember its about them for one day...

Claudia. This is why I find what the bride said abhorrent:

"The whole thing sounds like a joke"
"All you lot are doing is making me want to go and enjoy the hideous show"
"the other best mans GF agrees with me too so we can just snigger about it together"

I had a lot of people at my wedding, who I subsequently found out didn't like me. Jealous female friends of dh, who didn't think I was good enough for him. No one would have been unless it was one of them. I was the wrong nationality, that's why they never accepted me. Perhaps I'm ultra sensitive on this front. However, I think it's really really bad form to go to a wedding just to laugh at the b&g.

Personally I think it sounds fantastic, and if I ever do remarry () it's EXACTLY what I'll do- except without the stripping.

And if any of my friends feel like you do, then I will be over the moon for them to turn down the invitation.

OP you didn't answer me! Are you in Plymouth lol

Outfit suggestions? Am I missing something? A nice dress and a hat can be bought at just about any big department store

New are you the bride?

My response to Ice Trucker. Have you ever considered how utterly silly your usernames are?

Not compared to DelicatePreciousThing1, no.

No I am not in Plymouth New

....again the outfit suggestion remark was a joke.... like thia whole thread 😅

Oh. Such crushing disappointment.

I think it sounds lovely to model your wedding day on a "typical night out" - what an excellent way to keep it real, grounded in the fact that what is important is the marriage lasting a lifetime not the wedding lasting a day. Every time they go out for a Chinese and a bit of clubbing will be like a renewal of vows for them. But to make the day itself a bit out if the ordinary they will do it all in full wedding regalia. Sounds great.

I haven't FTFT. I read the first two pages which were so breathtakingly nasty I felt quite .

Does it get any better? Is it a reverse?

I quite like the idea of a wedding in a Chinese restaurant though. Can't see anything wrong with that.

OPs just said the thread is a joke, are we all glad we wasted our time on this shite

FFS a joke? What's the point?

Omg was your office thread not true either?

New I did say the whole thing wasn't to be taken seriously about page 2 or 3...

Why would I be angry at somones choice of wedding. I do think the whole idea is stupid however.

OPs just said the thread is a joke, are we all glad we wasted our time on this shite

How ... odd.

People are so gullible.

It was clearly a bunch of shite and no-one on this thread have covered themselves in glory. Nest of vipers indeed!!

*has not have

I don't think she means a joke as in not a true story...
I think she means a joke as in she meant to create a thread for a lighthearted moan, but everyone's take it very seriously.

Right just to clarify, the wedding is real, my feelings towards the wedding are real, but this thread was not meant in a serious way and I am not labeling anything as lighthearted ever... hope this makes sense

Sorry for poor grammar am on my phone

I had a Chinese restaurant and a club for my wedding nearly 20 years ago. I didn't invite dickheads though.

No speeches sounds great to me.

Worst thing about most weddings is the crashing, waffling bores who don't know when to shut up.