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to expect to be met at the station?

201 replies

JudyGellar · 02/09/2016 22:26

I'm on a weekend away with a friend.

Friend flew out on Thursday. I flew here myself tonight (plus a 2hour train journey). I texted her when I was about 30 minutes out to ask where I was going to meet her and she said to make my way to the hotel. I got lost and was trying to find my bearings and all I got was cross texts telling me to read the fucking map.

So called friend has now taken herself off to bed after refusing to speak all through dinner. I'm sitting in the hotel bar fucking fuming.

OP posts:
AmserGwin · 03/09/2016 11:03

Well yes YWBU to expect to be met at the station, however she has now taken it too far and the sulking is ridiculous. So now she is BU, hope that helps Confused

limitedperiodonly · 03/09/2016 11:14

'I've found a fab bar - do you fancy meeting for a drink?'

And when she asks where it is tell her to read a fucking map

SpookyPotato · 03/09/2016 11:46

I think she sounds like a child OP. I wouldn't expect anyone to meet me at the station as I would like the walk but most would anyway, but if I got lost on the walk a friend would definitely not get mad. She sounds pathetic. Who gives a friend the silent treatment because they're a bit late? Awful woman.

GrumpyOldBag · 03/09/2016 11:54

Judging by her posts I'd guess that the OP was being a total PITA & that's why the friend went off in a huff.

But unless the friend also posts her side of the story we'll never know.

runslikethewind · 03/09/2016 12:14

I must admit that whilst I probably would meet them at the station that would be because I just wanted to, I would actually expect that rather than presume I'd be there they would have expected to have the ability and desire to just he'd to the hotel and act like an independent capable adult instead of wanting their hand held. It's a bit of an irritation of mine that people would just presume others will do stuff for them instead of taking care of themselves

StuffYouAllInTheCrust · 03/09/2016 19:00

Blimey OP she's sounds bloody awful! For what it's worth I don't think you did a thing wrong. I would've met a friend at the station just because I was excited to see her and start our holiday. She sounds a nightmare tbh. Ditch her and go and enjoy yourself.

LagunaBubbles · 03/09/2016 19:04

Doesn't sound much of a holiday now!

JacquesHammer · 03/09/2016 19:13

You expect an adult to be able to find their own way from a to b

I am hopeless at navigating. Absolutely hopeless. It's not being childish, it is just something that I find impossibly difficult. I have no idea why.

I would have used a map/app whatever but in the OP's situation I would have also asked my friend to tell me how she got their as I find that so much easier.

diddl · 03/09/2016 20:05

I'm shit at finding my way as well, that's why I print out train times, platforms & changes & also walking directions from A to B as necessary.

I check & recheck & often ask as well!

I think if you relying on her to meet you & therefore weren't prepared to find your own way then ywbu.

Marynary · 03/09/2016 20:22

I am hopeless at navigating. Absolutely hopeless. It's not being childish, it is just something that I find impossibly difficult. I have no idea why.

You don't have to navigate though. If you can't read a map or follow directions you can get from a to b by getting a taxi.

LyraMortalia · 03/09/2016 20:27

I would have gone to meet you and all of my friends would have come to meet me yanbu

YawningKasm · 03/09/2016 21:05

YABU

HTH

Lilaclily · 03/09/2016 21:55

How is it going OP? Has she cheered up?

Lilaclily · 04/09/2016 07:15

Update ? Grin

hotdiggedy · 04/09/2016 08:12

I would have come to meet you. Why not? You went to spend the weekend together so surely she would be happy to come and see you as soon as possible. She sounds odd.

PanGalaticGargleBlaster · 04/09/2016 10:02

If someone despite their best efforts becomes lost then of course I would go off and find them, probably tell them to grab a glass of wine in the nearest bar and then text me the name of it. What I can't stand is people who use their crap sense of direction as an excuse not to even bother to try and find their own way instead expecting others to guide them remotely. I used to have a friend who had this annoying habit of popping up outside a tube station and by default calling me up and asking 'where do I go from here' when she had been aware of the venue for days and a cursory 2min search on Google would have given her concise directions before she left the office. But no, she expects you to leave the noisy bar and friends you are in and stand outside so you can hear her muddle her way through the streets while receiving unhelpful updates on her progress 'I'm by a bus' , 'I'm looking at an office building (oh really, in the city of London)'. Its incredibly flakey and lazy behaviour.

anotheronebitthedust · 04/09/2016 10:56

I would never expect a friend to come and get me if it was a new place to both of us (but probably would if I was visiting them in their home) - why would your friend want to walk an hour just to meet you and the go straight back to the hotel? If it took about half an hour that's probably a good 3/4 miles walk, which if she's already been out and about today might be a bit knackering if she just wants to chill at the hotel and have a drink.

However if you honestly didn't make any passive aggressive remarks about this she is now being much more unreasonable by sulking over it. Even if you had both been snarky with each other on Fri (I understand from your point of view it was only her) she's now being doubly unreasonable not to have gotten over it by today after you've reached out to apologise.

DonkeyHotay · 04/09/2016 12:14

I wonder what the other side of this is? Anyway I hope you've both had a better time.

TheNewSchmoo · 04/09/2016 13:14

What sort of friendship is this that you can't say "You're not yourself, what's up?" (or you've got a right face on you, you mardy cow, this weekend is going to be shit unless we have it out - if going for brutal honesty)?

WaitrosePigeon · 04/09/2016 13:20

How are things today?

Amelie10 · 04/09/2016 14:48

Yabu, I would be annoyed with you too if this is how you behaved. You aren't 5yo and if you get lost easily then that really is a problem you need to sort out for yourself.

Lilaclily · 05/09/2016 07:51

Still no update Sad

Queenbean · 05/09/2016 08:16

LilacLily, you've posted 3 times asking for an update - maybe let it go!

Topseyt · 05/09/2016 08:36

Why should there be an update??1

DonkeyHotay · 05/09/2016 08:50

Who's counting Queen? Wink