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to expect to be met at the station?

201 replies

JudyGellar · 02/09/2016 22:26

I'm on a weekend away with a friend.

Friend flew out on Thursday. I flew here myself tonight (plus a 2hour train journey). I texted her when I was about 30 minutes out to ask where I was going to meet her and she said to make my way to the hotel. I got lost and was trying to find my bearings and all I got was cross texts telling me to read the fucking map.

So called friend has now taken herself off to bed after refusing to speak all through dinner. I'm sitting in the hotel bar fucking fuming.

OP posts:
Dozer · 03/09/2016 08:06

Unless you are 93 YWBU about being met. Why should your friend lose time in her weekend to trek to meet you and be in charge of directions somewhere she's unfamiliae with? If you want to travel you should be willing to do so independently. Not your friend's fault you got lost.

SWBU to have a go and sulk.

Sootica · 03/09/2016 08:08

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Doobigetta · 03/09/2016 08:17

I may be projecting too much, but it sounds to me as though your relationship is a bit parent/child. If your friend already had misgivings about the weekend and was worried that she's going to have to spend the whole time being the grown-up while you float about being a lily, that would explain her reaction. It gets very tired, very quickly.

LIZS · 03/09/2016 08:21

You expected your Df to do an hour's round trip to meet you ? If you weren't sure where you were heading a cab would have taken minutes or use public transport. She was probably equally frustrated that you were running late. Did she make the same journey or was there a closer airport she had used. Hope today goes better.

Sirzy · 03/09/2016 08:23

I would love to hear the other side to this story!

toptoe · 03/09/2016 08:27

Your friend has overreacted. But why? If it's unusual she may be stressed about other stuff and this just tipped her over the edge. Somehow she got the vibe that you wanted her to meet you - maybe before you've relied on her for this sort of thing? If not, maybe someone else is demanding of her time and she's projected onto you. Only way to find out is ask her if she's ok and listen to what she says.

DementedUnicorn · 03/09/2016 08:34

I think YWBU but I would be really upset if I sent the 3 texts you did if you haven't edited them and got a reply with fucking in it.

WipsGlitter · 03/09/2016 08:34

I also wondering why you expected to be met?

diddl · 03/09/2016 08:36

I think that you were daft expecting to be met, but I would have gone to meet you as I would have been looking forward to seeing you, plus it was only a short walk.

limitedperiodonly · 03/09/2016 08:37

I wouldn't meet OP at the station but after a flight and a two hour train journey, I wouldn't consider arriving 20 minutes after she thought she would, to be late.

I also wouldn't send a text telling her to read the fucking map if she said she was lost. What kind of friend does that? I say: 'Ask for directions. I'll wait. See you soon. x' When she turned up I'd say 'Let's eat' and all would be fine.

What a great start to your weekend OP. I hope she cheers up.

tralaaa · 03/09/2016 08:39

I would of met you at the station, I would have been looking forward to seeing my friend and chatting on the way back. She is sulking as she knows she is in the wrong

INeedNewShoes · 03/09/2016 08:44

Completely unreasonable for her to huff with you for getting lost.

I would generally expect a grown woman to be able to get from A to B without a handhold though. If you know you're prone to getting lost, get a cab.

Having said that, in her situation I would have thought it would be nice to go and meet my friend at the station.

This is why I don't go on holiday with friends (apart from one who would never huff even if I'd been annoying!).

DonkeyHotay · 03/09/2016 08:47

YABU. Hope it goes well today.

Doje · 03/09/2016 08:51

I would have come to meet you OP. I think I read in the thread the hotel to the station was only half hour walk. (And she said herself it was a nice walk!) However, I don't think I would have expected to be met. I'd have asked in advance.

Sounds like she maybe was in a bad mood before you meet her. Maybe she'd booked a table and your delay made you both late for her booking?

Hope breakfast this morning goes better and the rest of your trip is good.

wherethefuckisthefuckingtuna · 03/09/2016 08:52

My BF is not a good map reader. In the reverse situation, if I'd told her to walk it then she was texting me to say she was lost, I would have felt bad for her and probably headed out looking for her since she probably wouldn't be far away.

I actually like my friend though. And wouldn't want her to be lost in a strange place.

I wouldn't get shitty with her for getting lost and asking for help. Jesus.

pictish · 03/09/2016 08:55

How is Miss Lemonface this morning OP?

OliviaStabler · 03/09/2016 08:55

You may have gone to meet a friend at the station, but I doubt many would have. When arriving in an unfamiliar city, I get a cab to the hotel as I imagine most people would do. Unless it is a very short walk that you can learn by Google mapping it in street view, it is the easiest and often quickest option.

Maybe your friend will tired from travelling and the last thing she needed was texts from you about being late / lost etc when in her mind she was probably saying 'why didn't you just get a taxi ffs'.

DoreenLethal · 03/09/2016 09:02

I think your texts were definitely helpless from the start

'Where shall we meet?'
Where else other than the hotel? That's where you were staying. Before I go anywhere new I have researched the hotel/venue/b&b and worked out how to get there. Texting when you get there and asking where you should meet just sets the whole tone up as you expecting her to be running around after you to be honest. I can see why she told you to read the fucking map - but of course you didn't have a map did you as you expected her to meet and greet you.

Motherfuckers · 03/09/2016 09:03

Don't apologise, she is behaving like a twat. You definitely don't need meeting from the station, but she shouldn't be so moody.

JacquesHammer · 03/09/2016 10:36

I'm not sure "where shall we meet" is particularly helpless. If one party was arriving first it's reasonable to assume they might not be hanging around the hotel?

And isn't it only on here OP asked whether she should be met. She never actually asked her friend to meet her?!

Friend then sends arsey texts and sulks through dinner like a child? OP has already apologised.

The friend sounds like immensely hard work.

limitedperiodonly · 03/09/2016 10:41

I'm not sure "where shall we meet" is particularly helpless.

I thought so too but started to wonder whether I was being very needy and whether there was an app I could download to read my friends' minds rather than bothering them with footling questions.

Original poster
JudyGellar · 03/09/2016 10:54

She's got a face on her and isn't making much any conversation. However, she did come and meet me.

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tobee · 03/09/2016 10:57

Here's hoping op is off having a good time now (preferably reconciled to her friend) and is too busy to update!

INeedNewShoes · 03/09/2016 10:58

I'd go off and have a nice day on your own.

I cannot stand sulking/huffiness.

You could always say to her, 'Look you're obviously pissed off with me so I'll get out your hair for the day'. You go and explore and enjoy yourself and then text her later and say, 'I've found a fab bar - do you fancy meeting for a drink?' and hope that she has snapped out of it.

Marynary · 03/09/2016 11:01

How old are you? You both sound quite childish. I wouldn't expect someone to meet me if it wasn't their home town and they were on holiday too. You expect an adult to be able to find their own way from a to b. She is childish to get in a strop about the fact you were lost though.

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