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to expect to be met at the station?

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JudyGellar · 02/09/2016 22:26

I'm on a weekend away with a friend.

Friend flew out on Thursday. I flew here myself tonight (plus a 2hour train journey). I texted her when I was about 30 minutes out to ask where I was going to meet her and she said to make my way to the hotel. I got lost and was trying to find my bearings and all I got was cross texts telling me to read the fucking map.

So called friend has now taken herself off to bed after refusing to speak all through dinner. I'm sitting in the hotel bar fucking fuming.

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JudyGellar · 02/09/2016 22:50

Presumably, if she went the right way when she arrived yesterday, then that's the only route she knows? How is she supposed to direct you out of somewhere she's never been?

No, when she said to meet at the hotel she said it was a nice walk and gave some basic directions. As I said, it was a nice light night so I felt fine walking.

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ijustwannadance · 02/09/2016 22:51

I bet your friend got a taxi. Don't blame her for you deciding to walk. That's on you.

Costacoffeeplease · 02/09/2016 22:51

Why did you just assume she'd meet you?Confused

Huldra · 02/09/2016 22:51

Hipe after a nights kip it blows over and you have a fun break Smile

FrancisCrawford · 02/09/2016 22:52

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JudyGellar · 02/09/2016 22:53

I do get lost very easily! I texted her saying I was on my way, then again to say I think I'd overshot the turn, and then once saying 'definitely lost, going to ask for help'.

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SavoyCabbage · 02/09/2016 22:53

She's only been there for a day though. If you were going to visit her then it would be different but you are both making your way to one place.

I don't think I would be able to help out with directions if someone got lost in a place I'd only just arrived in the day before.

ijustwannadance · 02/09/2016 22:55

Google maps on your phone?

WipsGlitter · 02/09/2016 22:55

I wouldn't expect to be met. If you're crap maps get a taxi.

LuchiMangsho · 02/09/2016 22:55

If you are on holiday presumably she doesn't know this place well. She knows what you do- from either a paper map or a smartphone.
She didn't plan to meet you at the station so she didn't let you down.
Assuming this is a short break I wouldn't want to spend one evening hanging out at a station for a friend. In this day and age with enhanced technology it is not that easy to get lost. And besides you could have gotten a cab.
It is a bit childish of her to sulk but it is possible she was having a nice evening and was getting irritated by the text messages from someone who she felt, was being incompetent, given that she had made the same journey herself without hitches.

Your getting lost is neither here nor there. What if you didn't have a friend who had arrived a day early. What if YOU had arrived a day early. Assuming you had the hotel information at your disposal prior to departure, it sounds like you had assumed your friend was going to meet you and then you panicked when she wasn't.

Huldra · 02/09/2016 22:55

Basic instructions, she can't give much more.
Turn on data and google, it gets you there, or at least helps corrects a mistake. Quicker than texting someone that has no idea exactly where you are and maybe doesnt k ow the area that well.

BeMorePanda · 02/09/2016 22:55

Yabu. You're a grown up. You got to the airport, got a plane, got a train all by yourself. Why the fuck do you not feel capable of finishing the journey and arriving happy to be with your friend.

Yes it can be annoying getting lost. But I'm not surprised your friend is pissed off with you creating so much ado about nothing.

Sirzy · 02/09/2016 22:56

If you get lost easily all the more reason to just get a taxi

pollyblack · 02/09/2016 22:56

YABU but your friend shouldnt have a strop.

WipsGlitter · 02/09/2016 22:56

Are you a flapper generally?

MirriVan · 02/09/2016 22:56

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madgingermunchkin · 02/09/2016 22:56

If it were me, I'd have met you. Why on earth wouldn't any one do the same?!

Mausageandsash · 02/09/2016 22:56

Why is she being so sulky? Is there a spa at the hotel? Go an treat yourself first thing in the morningWink

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JudyGellar · 02/09/2016 22:59

Turn on data and google, it gets you there, or at least helps corrects a mistake. Quicker than texting someone that has no idea exactly where you are and maybe doesnt k ow the area that well.

I was doing that and trying to keep her updated- I didn't want her to worry when I didn't turn up!

As I said, I genuinely would have gone to meet her if it was vice versa.

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IonaNE · 02/09/2016 22:59

YABU. If you know you get lost easily, why didn't you take a taxi, or switch on Google maps at the station?

LuchiMangsho · 02/09/2016 23:01

But you can see or should be able to see that this would have been a favour (if you had met her) not an expectation.
Did she want to be updated on where you were? Was she in any way worried? Or did she think JudyGellar is an adult and will find the hotel whenever she does.

SillyMoomin · 02/09/2016 23:02

Jeez op get a grip

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JudyGellar · 02/09/2016 23:03

I like to think that a friend (who I see and hear from regularly and asked me to go away with) would like to know why I'm late.

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LuchiMangsho · 02/09/2016 23:04

And also there is a difference between updating here and asking her for directions (which she might not know esp if you went the opposite way). And a whole another level of expectation if you wanted her to meet you at the station.

Having said that I am a tough cookie. I have turned up in three countries as a student not knowing a soul (and in those days not having a smartphone or any phone!) and figured out my own way to campus. Including a non English speaking country.