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AIBU?

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to expect to be met at the station?

201 replies

JudyGellar · 02/09/2016 22:26

I'm on a weekend away with a friend.

Friend flew out on Thursday. I flew here myself tonight (plus a 2hour train journey). I texted her when I was about 30 minutes out to ask where I was going to meet her and she said to make my way to the hotel. I got lost and was trying to find my bearings and all I got was cross texts telling me to read the fucking map.

So called friend has now taken herself off to bed after refusing to speak all through dinner. I'm sitting in the hotel bar fucking fuming.

OP posts:
Choceeclair123 · 03/09/2016 00:03

I wouldn't do any more apologising, I think she owes you an apology herself.

TendonQueen · 03/09/2016 00:09

I think your initial behaviour was unreasonable but you've been very reasonable in apologising and offering an olive branch now. If she's still being sulky tomorrow then she's in the wrong. Go out without her and enjoy your day if that happens.

monkeygone · 03/09/2016 00:10

I would happily meet the friend if they asked. But I probably wouldn't do it otherwise, if I assumed that they could easily get to the hotel on their own.

NicknameUsed · 03/09/2016 00:10

maddening not everyone can afford the extra ££££££££ it costs to use data roaming abroad. Also it isn't always a good idea to rely on your phone for reasons that have already been pointed out on this thread.

tobee · 03/09/2016 00:13
  1. 20 minutes late isn't that late.
  2. Queen. You don't sound much of a friend to the person you describe.
MagikarpetRide · 03/09/2016 00:13

Hopefully she was just a little hangry and tomorrow she will be better. Unless she wants brekkie before 930 in which case you should just enjoy a weekend alone

couldntlovethebearmore · 03/09/2016 00:17

Bloody hell.
What's with this spate of grown adults expecting others to pander to them and not take responsibility for themselves this week?

DixieWishbone · 03/09/2016 00:18

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QueenLizIII · 03/09/2016 00:21

I got lost and was trying to find my bearings and all I got was cross texts telling me to read the fucking map.

Then

I arrived at the hotel and she was in a total funk, refused to speak all through dinner and then flounced off to bed.

That is uncalled for. All the OP did was tell her she was lost and as the friend already knew where the hotel was, it was not unreasonable for the OP to text her asking for a little help when the friend said it was walkable and easy to find.

I'd see the city myself, fuck her. If she doesnt meet you at breakfast, just go off on your own.

SanityClause · 03/09/2016 00:22

I don't know where you are, Judy, but you can usually down load a sat nav app on your phone. You don't need data roaming to use it.

You probably need to do it when you have wifi, but it might be useful in the future, if you are good at getting lost. (I have a terrible sense of direction, and often get lost. Blush)

Arfarfanarf · 03/09/2016 00:22

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Ninasimoneinthemorning · 03/09/2016 00:25

If actually get the first train home if my friend did this to me. If I'd fucked up and got lost I'd half expect my friend to be half pissed or come out to meet me. As that's what I'd do. I wouldn't expect them to throw a bloody strop.

If it was op Dh he would be getting slated but posters are just saying op is hard work

op she sounds like hard work!

alafolie29 · 03/09/2016 00:28

I think that being only 20 minutes late actually works against the OP. 20 minutes is insignificant in a situation like this. Totally not worth mentioning. You friend was probably sick of your pointless texts and helpless attitude. If it was hours I would understand but 20 minutes?!

You sound like a nightmare.

sandragreen · 03/09/2016 00:32

Judy - I think we share a grandchild by the way - I think you may have been a little flaky in not getting there on time, but it does sound like your "friend" has been a real sourpuss about this.

I actually wouldn't have apologised for being 20 mins late arriving somewhere (in Forrin?) that I had never been before.

If she doesn't manage to crack a smile by the morning I would make my own plans to have a great weekend.

QueenLizIII · 03/09/2016 00:33

But even if the OP did have a panic....is the friends behaviour warranted? Sulking and flouncing off to bed?

No it isnt.

QueenLizIII · 03/09/2016 00:37

2) Queen. You don't sound much of a friend to the person you describe.

Was that directed at me? I supported the OP. Sad

amammabear · 03/09/2016 00:42

I think it was unreasonable to expect someone to meet you unless you'd discussed it before, although I agree it's what I'd have done.

However, I think your texts were perfectly reasonable. You were updating her so she knew you'd be late and you didn't ask anything of her at all! Her response to that is utterly ridiculous!

tobee · 03/09/2016 00:46

No, no, so sorry, didn't see there were too Queens. I meant Queenbean! Sorry. Would do embarrassed emoticon if I knew how.

tobee · 03/09/2016 00:46

Two Queens not too.

QueenLizIII · 03/09/2016 00:51

That is a relief tobee I went back over my posts incase I had not been clear to the op. Grin

raspberrysuicide · 03/09/2016 01:01

I would have picked a friend up at the station if it were me x

Carriadd · 03/09/2016 01:05

If its only 30 mins then I would have happily come out to meet my friend since I had already arrived a day early and got my bearings. Your friend sounds like she may have the hump about something completely different but is taking it out on you. Could her other half be giving her grief from home or something like that? If she continues to be sulky and childish Im afraid I would have to either go off by myself or come home as I cant stand atmospheres.

EttaJ · 03/09/2016 01:14

YABVU , you should have just got a cab to the hotel. All this hassle is sure to going to ruin your weekend if you're not careful!

Ditsy4 · 03/09/2016 01:32

I would have thought my friend who had been there a day would have met me. I would have if I had been the friend and my best friend would have. Considering you got lost I don't think 20 minutes late is unreasonable. Your friend expecting you for the weekend then doesn't speak to you during dinner is very rude and childish. If she was the same at breakfast I would go and pack, leave my luggage and leave to have a day out exploring the city that way you won't have wasted your weekend.

QueenLizIII · 03/09/2016 01:36

All those saying the OP is BU...under what circumstances would show zero sympathy to a friend, whom you had told to walk to the hotel, who had got lost and sent you a few texts and then eventually found it 20 minutes later?

Under what circumstances would that sending you flying into a rage and make you storm off to bed.

I'd never go away with the friend again. She sounds an intolerant old cow.