To not have immediately replied to this text?

[Applesandpears86]

I live just down the road from one of my closer friends. She doesn't drive and we live about 3 miles from our city centre (about a 10 min drive because of traffic).

This evening I was finishing work when I got a text from her asking if I would give her and her friend a lift into town 'to save money on us paying for a cab.'

I have a 50 mile commute and happened to be coming out of a meeting in a city 70 miles away when I got the text. Needless to say I didn't reply as I just wanted to get home.

I've just received another sarcastic message telling me not to worry as she decided to fork out for the taxi in the end 'but thanks for the response'.

AIBU to think this was bloody cheeky in the first place and to therefore not have been so arsed about responding?!

Text her that the council have revoked your cab licence as u werent making any money.

Bertrand on the odd occasion that friends or family send me bloody cheeky texts I often delay replying to them to make sure I can reply without telling them to fuck off politely

Why respond to someone like that? Not worth her time.

But a 4 word reply would have stopped the OP needing to even think about this this evening. She is now justifiably pissed off and it's spoiling her evening. 4 words then forget about it. Much better,

She is not a friend. Cut all contact.

She's got a bloody cheek. Bin her off

True Bertrand but if the four words had been "fuck off, cheeky cow" the OP might rather have lost the moral high ground.

I hope this hasn't ruined your evening OP and that you are sitting with your feet up.

She is definitely being unreasonable. How rude! But I don't understand why you didn't reply saying you were too far away ?

Just don't reply. Justifying yourself by explaining that you were 70 miles away somehow implies that her request was reasonable, and if you were nearer you'd have given her a lift.

She isn't a friend.

I can't understand why anyone gets arsey about not getting quick replies to texts. Surely they must be aware that you could be driving, or in a meeting, or have run out of battery, or simply have left it in another room? If they really think everyone spends all day glued to their phone, they must lead very sad lives.

YANBU. I wouldn't have replied to either texts. And I still wouldn't reply. If you ignore all texts asking for lifts when she wants to go out, or be picked up, she'll soon get the unsaid feedback. Please don't let it stress you.

I don't think she sounds like a friend either, just a user

You could reply and ignore her bitchiness with

"Oh good! Just getting back from X so wouldn't have been able to anyway"

OP are you sure she's a friend?

No matter where you were, she was asking for a lift at short notice for no good reason at the end of your working week? So many things wrong there.

She aint no friend of yours- But you know that
Bertrand saying "sorry 70 miles away"implies OP would have if she could have but was unable, whereas she ought to be sending a message of
"Show some class and don't ask"

Are you a taxi driver?

If she asks again tell her to stop going out to the pub with friends and save for driving lessons and a fucking car, like you had to.

Wow what a cheeky bitch. That's not a friend. This is similar to why I ditched a "friend"'because I'm not fucking taxi. Her and her friend invited me to meet them somewhere, which I couldn't do until a certain time . I replied stating this and her reply was "oh well we will be finished by then so you can just pick us up and drop us off! " I didn't bother replying and later got a snotty thanks for leaving us stranded message. Stranded was about a mile from home for them. That was it for me as it wasn't the first time. I can't fucking stand users.

Eh? Texts are for conversations that you'd like the recipient to see within the next few hours. If you want a reply in the next few minutes, call.

What a complete ass. Delete her from your contacts, stat.

Don't have anything else to do with her. If you'd like, call her up (have ready what you're going to say, short and sweet) or a last text and say

"I was 70 miles away when I got your text. I'm not a chauffeur for assholes. Do not contact me again for any reason."

Do not listen to her response, argue, defend yourself, or go back and forth with her. Say the short words above and hang up. Or if texting, delete her right after your last text to her. Block her on your phone & email.

I would have taken great pleasure in texting her back at the time.

"No."

Now though, you should match her sarcasm with your own: "Whaaaat? You mean you had to order a taxi, like everyone else does? You poor poor thing, I couldn't be more sorry. But this is what I'll do. The next time I want to act as a free taxi service for you after a long day at work so you can enjoy an evening out that I'm not invited to, I will let you know."

I wouldn't reply. You don't need to apologise or explain. She's the one who should apologise. If she'd had a couple of shandies maybe she didn't realise how fucking rude she was being. Next time you see her, if she mentions it, just say 'I was in Birmingham working so piss off you entitled twat

There was nothing at all rude about her original text. I am puzzled by the "needless to say I didn't reply" Why woildn't you reply straight away with "sorry, can't do it" or something like that?

Her subsequent text was a bit sarky- but nothing compared to some of the messages suggested by people on here!

Oh, they exist all right. I've come across several. Not in my friendship circle, mind you. Friends of friends, or friends of colleagues. Completely self-centred, don't even think about inconvenience or expense to other people. Obviously you own a car so that you can drive them around, right? What do you mean, it's for your own use? Does not compute...

Do you regulary chauffeur your pal around, OP?

Does she have a job?

What possible objection could she have to taking a taxi?