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To not have immediately replied to this text?

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Applesandpears86 · 02/09/2016 21:57

I live just down the road from one of my closer friends. She doesn't drive and we live about 3 miles from our city centre (about a 10 min drive because of traffic).

This evening I was finishing work when I got a text from her asking if I would give her and her friend a lift into town 'to save money on us paying for a cab.'

I have a 50 mile commute and happened to be coming out of a meeting in a city 70 miles away when I got the text. Needless to say I didn't reply as I just wanted to get home.

I've just received another sarcastic message telling me not to worry as she decided to fork out for the taxi in the end 'but thanks for the response'.

AIBU to think this was bloody cheeky in the first place and to therefore not have been so arsed about responding?!

OP posts:
Aeroflotgirl · 05/09/2016 16:27

Op ignore the rest, it is rude and very cheeky and thank goodness most people can see that. not only that, but she has text you in the past at midnight for a lift back from a night out whilst you were a sleep, that does not get more ruder than that! I am a non car driver, and would never send a text or call a friend asking me to go out of their way and take me somewhere or collect me. I use a bus or taxi like most normal people.

GabsAlot · 05/09/2016 16:31

well very kind of you -i did get a taxi in the end though

mummylove2monsters · 05/09/2016 18:14

Did your "friend" get back to you ? Did you txt her back ? XXXX

Louise2092 · 05/09/2016 18:21

I drive and my best friend and her partner (also a friend) don't. I rarely go out and live a 2 minute drive from the city centre whereas they are at least a tenner in a taxi. I've known my friend to walk home when she can't get a taxi from town and despite telling her to call me and i'd be happy to drive her (and her partner) home in these instances neither of them ever do.

These are best friends of mine of about 5 years and they don't even take the offer never mind ask.

She is definitely being riduculously unreasonable and is not a friend

ilovechocolate07 · 05/09/2016 19:32

Your friend is being very cheeky and rude!

donhal1981 · 09/09/2016 13:44

Late reply, but I am in the same situation as your 'friend' in that I don't drive (not through choice). If I asked for a lift, it would be nice to get a reply but if I hadn't heard back from them it means they are unable and I would pay for a taxi.
I work 30 minutes away from home during the week and a colleague/friend lives in the same town as me and work the same hours. I rarely asked her for a lift (which sometimes included taking my DS home from nursery as it is on site), but when I had she said OK, but then in July I got an email saying she doesn't appreciate being used as a taxi service or having to have the car seat in, as it was ruing her interior (I could put a towel under it). Even though I offered her money, as she has car costs which I understand, she gave me a list of taxi numbers and fare costs to use instead. Once I had text her the evening before and said that she expected more advanced notice, (only asked late if I had been let down). AIBU to be upset about this and she could have said it F2F instead?
Fair to say i haven't seen her since!

Original poster
Applesandpears86 · 02/10/2016 10:37

A thread update!

I decided to give this friend the benefit of the doubt for a bit.

Earlier in the week I was involved in a car accident. Not major but I'm very shake up (and in pain) and nervous about driving again, especially in the huge hire car I've been given.

Same friend yesterday asked if I would 'be a good friend and pick her up from town'. When I said I wasn't sure about driving yet, yet again I got an arsey response!

Decided to keep my distance for a bit now as she's clearly taken the piss.

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tofutti · 02/10/2016 10:43

Oh lord...what did she say exactly?

She's the friend that just keeps giving...

USbound · 02/10/2016 10:53

If you dont get anyhing from the the friendship/she wasn't helping yoi out after the accident just go no contact with her and end the friendship

PoppyPicklesPenguin · 02/10/2016 10:57

Sorry to hear about your accident I hope you find yourself on the mend soon.

This woman is not your friend, so you don't need to be a "good" friend to her cheeky cow

Usernamegone · 02/10/2016 12:40

You not her friend. She thinks you are her chauffeur! Surely her text should have said sorry I've heard you're been in a bad car accident, are you ok, is there anything you need me to do/pick up for you? Not asking for a lift into town and sending an arsey response. Just text back. Sorry car in garage. Can't drive at the moment due to pain.

Ginkypig · 02/10/2016 12:57

Reply With that attitude don't bother asking again, and oh by the way the pain is just about ok today thanks for asking. now fuck off

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