To not have immediately replied to this text?

[Applesandpears86]

I live just down the road from one of my closer friends. She doesn't drive and we live about 3 miles from our city centre (about a 10 min drive because of traffic).

This evening I was finishing work when I got a text from her asking if I would give her and her friend a lift into town 'to save money on us paying for a cab.'

I have a 50 mile commute and happened to be coming out of a meeting in a city 70 miles away when I got the text. Needless to say I didn't reply as I just wanted to get home.

I've just received another sarcastic message telling me not to worry as she decided to fork out for the taxi in the end 'but thanks for the response'.

AIBU to think this was bloody cheeky in the first place and to therefore not have been so arsed about responding?!

Rollonthesummer - does that stop other people knowing I have read their texts?

yeah I've just checked...I don't have that switched on.

it seems the whole thing was int he first text

so i can save on a taxi

so op is a free taxi service then?

i oldnt mind givingpeple a lift to doctors or things like that but a night out im not invited on to save money-idont think so

Are you her mum ?

I remember one day a friend of mine rang me asking me to walk for ten minutes into town to help her carry her shopping as she'd got too much. It was 10.30am and I hadn't got in from work till 3.30am. I was sat drinking coffee in my pyjamas, so I said as much. She got really bitchy about it, because "it's your day off though". I was shocked at how she thought because it was my day off I was automatically available for carrying shopping. It would have cost her £2.50 for a taxi from Tesco to her house.

Rude to expect a lift.

However, text messages don't require an immediate response upon the receiver having read them. That's the beauty of a text, you can reply when it's convenient. Just like emails.

collars I'm with you. My get-tae-fuck button would have been pushed with this one.

My get-tae-fuck button would have been pushed with this one.

Ah, a fellow wee Senga Scot.

Where's the 'love' emoji?

What a dickhead!

When I'm driving texts come through on my satnav screen.

Can't reply to them though.

In fact I can think of a number of occasions where I can read but not reply to a text (at work for example when on a landline call)

Your friend sounds very entitled.

What a cheeky cow!

I am puzzled by the "needless to say I didn't reply" Why woildn't you reply straight away with "sorry, can't do it" or something like that?

You're tired after a long day, you're about to do a 70 mile drive home, you have a quick look through your messages to check whether there's anything urgent. You flip through them quickly thinking "Not urgent - not urgent - not urgent - OK, this one is urgent, I'll answer it." The text asking for a lift definitely comes into the non-urgent category for me and I can exactly see why someone tired would finish that exercise, put the phone down and not give any further thought to the no-urgent messages.

Me too Judy.

Exactly judy. I'd be flicking through quickly to see if there was any messages from dh or the kids for example.

I am puzzled by the "needless to say I didn't reply" Why woildn't you reply straight away with "sorry, can't do it" or something like that?

Its a text ,not a summons.She soesnt have to text her back,if she doesnt want too.

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Its a text ,not a summons.She soesnt have to text her back,if she doesnt want too."

Oh for goodness sake- of course she doesn't. But a 4 word text would have made her life hugely easier and she wouldn't have had to give it a moment's headspace later.

did u reply this morning or hear anything from your friend op?

wouldn't have anything do /say to her in any respect [but then i'm a tough bitch with this sort of crap] no text, no fb, no comment.

OP I'm sorry but this sounds like a close friend I binned when I broke my back and she wouldn't come to the hospital. Well I thought she was a close friend.

Bertrand I feel like your account's been hacked.

Exactly, OP had a couple of minutes getting to her car and setting off on a long journey. I too would have skimmed through my messages in case there was something urgent, then set off for home, where I could reply when I'd had time to consider my response, or just had the time.

It's a text. The fact the friend demands an immediate response to a very rude request doesn't make it urgent.

If I'd been forced to reply immediately for some reason, my response would also have been "get tae fuck". So better all round that I wait

Bertrand I'm genuinely shocked that you see nothing wrong with the original text. If a friend messaged you asking for a lift to something you weren't invited to because they didn't want to get a taxi, you'd really not raise an eyebrow?? Doesn't the fact that you're the ONLY person on this thread that thinks it's okay tell you something?

It's fine to ask for lifts when you're in a pickle; have an important appointment and prior arrangements have let you down, need to get to A&E, car broke down and you have a meeting with an important client to get to... nobody would object to being asked (ASKED) for help in those situations.

But even in those situations, you don't follow it up with an arsey reply. Everybody knows this.

...and anyway, Betrand, OP WOULD still be giving it headspace because she would still have had an arsey text from User Friend for being selfish enough not to be at her beck and call.

I wouldn't have replied either. It wasn't urgent, wasn't my problem. I'd have focused on getting home from work instead of fiddling around with a phone.

You could have just said 'Sorry, I'm in - town', she's right, you could have replied, you said yourself you weren't driving and it meant she was waiting for your reply when he could have been getting on with ordering a taxi. However she also sounds like a user. I haven't asked anyone for transport that I could organize for myself since I moved out of my DPs home at 20.