To not wipe my 6 year olds arse and ignore his current meltdown?

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He wipes it in school, but refuses to do it at home insisting me or his dad does it. I'be just refused and he's currently having a meltdown on the toilet.

AIBU to expect him to wipe it himself?

youarenotkiddingme my question about cutting up meat was to Javabeansaintgeorge and no one else. Hers was the last post on the thread when I started typing mine, but unfortunately I only realised that I hadn't made it clear I was addressing her until I posted. I apologise for that.

I cut up my sons meat, but as pointed out up thread he only has 3 digits, makes using cutlery hard. I'm hoping by the time he's an adult we we actually have the specially made Knife he requires.

I guess that makes it more okay to attend to his needs?

FFS! I have already said that my question was to Javabeans and no one else and also apologised that I didn't make that clear! There really is NO need for all the nasty sarcastic comments!

There really is NO need for all the nasty sarcastic comments!

Wahhhh?

Isn't that a bit hypocritical?

Seriously is it so hard for people to realise that when talking about these scenarios people obviously arent talking about children who have extra needs due to disabilities.

It's like people want to be offended.

I fucking give up. I have not been sarcastic! I asked a question because I remembered some threads about MILs cutting up sons' meat and there were no SN of any kind involved. Since Javabeans wipes her 12 yr olds bottom it occurred to me that she would be like those MILs in doing something for her child that he can do himself. That's a simple question NOT sarcasm!

Why people wilfully ignore explanations and apologies for lack of clarity in order to take offence at something that was addressed to a specific poster and that has been made clear, I have no idea.

people obviously arent talking about children who have extra needs due to disabilities

If a 12 year old has his bum wiped then there is an additional need, diagnosed or not there will be a need there. As other people have pointed out most 12 year old would refuse to be wiped, So it doens't take a genius to realise this 12 year old isn't like most.

For pps with DC with 'short arms' have you tried getting them to stand up and then wipe? I literally cannot do it sitting down, I only realised this was unusual about two years ago, and when I've tried I nearly fall off the seat!

In fairness I'm dyspraxic and hypermobile, but dear gods I would not have allowed my mum to help me! I remember being young enough to still have an emergency potty under the bed, but still wiped my own backside.

The kids I worked with used to shout 'Seryph! I did a poo!' or I'm finished!' to which I'd reply 'That's nice!' and 'What would you like me to do about that?' This normally led to giggling and a cheeky 'wipe my bum?' but they knew it wouldn't happen. I was happy to check until they got used to it though. But at 5 and 7 I was finished with that noise.

Just because something deviates from society's idea of normal doesn't mean there's something deeper going on that warrants a diagnosis.

Well it often does.

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3769061/How-old-old-Mother-sparks-fierce-debate-revealing-wipes-six-year-old-s-bottom-admit-doing-kids-12.html

Is his name Kevin ? Seriously though I would leave your DS to it OP

his mother has taught him that it is quite normal for your parent to do this when you are 12 so he just isn't bothering to do it himself

If you read my comment you'll notice he does it himself He's crap at it but he does it himself.

I wipe when his tummy is upset.