To fork out nearly £100 for DS nursery uniform and his teacher looks like she's a stripper

[ukulelelady]

I'm really pissed off. I thought my DS's nursery uniform was compulsory. I've paid almost £100 for polo shirts, jumpers and a jacket with the school logo and I find out 3 weeks after he has started that it was parents choice.

But what really pisses me off is that the teacher turns up looking like she is coming back from a music festival or night club. She had the tiniest cut off jean shorts and a top that I could see her boobs. She wasn't wearing a bra. God knows what my DS aged 4 said about this because I'm sure he would have. Every time she bent over I was afraid they would pop out of her top. Surely it isn't too much to ask to dress appropriately! I'm not a prude but what is it teaching the kids that they have to be smart but she can wear clothes that wouldn't look out of place on a stripper. I'm going to have to speak to the head but it is so awkward because I know the nursery teacher and head teacher out with school. WWYS?

Hadn't read liz70's post, apologies.

english state schools are still on holiday. Whereabouts are you OP?

Dont get the need for this comment, you see it a lot when English schools are still on holiday and others arent - such as Scottish schools - and its posted as in a "I dont believe you" way. I'm sure thats not what you meant though .

the pp who suggested linen skirt/ trousers was BVVU

I agree with Laguna

Scotland! How could it have been hot enough for that clothing?

"Is it not possible to be a good teacher and also cover your private parts?"

I believe that good teachers are among the most valuable members of society and that, the younger the child, the more important it is that they have a good teacher.

Unfortunately there are not enough talented teachers around to meet the demand. Anyone can put so-called "professional" clothes, so IMHO, the way a teacher dresses is the least of my worries.

Sorry to turn the conversation away from boobs, but the uniform...

Were many kids not wearing it? Is it too late to return? If nothing else, you could just let him wear it fairly lightly then sell it on when he grows out of it.

Is it a nursery? Did you look round while kids were there before you signed up? Were all the other kids in uniform?

In the long run I think that having a uniform will make your life easier, as you won't have to wonder what to dress your DS in every day.

If I went to work with my breasts in full view I would be asked to go home, totally inappropriate.

I assume OP is in Scotland, as it was a Bank holiday Monday Dahn Sarf when she made the thread.

"I assume OP is in Scotland, as it was a Bank holiday Monday Dahn Sarf when she made the thread."

It was BHM up here yesterday too.

Schools were all open as normal here in the West Scotland.

I'm not sure they said it happened yesterday

I don't see anything wrong in the wording of the original post. I didn't feel that the cost of the uniform was particularly relevant to the main issue, but apart from that it was fine ant to the point.

I don't understand why support for other women is relevant to this situation either. The nursery worker was dressed inappropriately and there's nothing that requires support in this situation. Unless she needs support to know how to dress properly for work.

It seems some people take pleasure in being as mean and nasty as they can be on MN.

For what it's worth I don't think it's very appropriate for anyone in a professional setting to have their tits hanging out. If you feel uncomfortable mentioning it directly OP just hint at it next time by tucking a fiver in the back of her shorts

The nursery worker was dressed inappropriately and there's nothing that requires support in this situation.

Apart from her boobs probably

rhi my almost 2 year old calls it milky moo moo. I have no idea why. I die a little every time she loudly requests it in public.

I'm going to teach mine that runny

I live in the west of Scotland and it wasn't a bank holiday for us.

It's a small nursery, the other kids wear the uniform though, and before my son joined only 1 pupil was there. Where I live comes with the choice of this nursery, or no nursery. Which don't get me wrong, apart from this I'm happy with them and more importantly he is too. Typical man! (Joke)

Some of these messages I just don't get, why does her experience or qualifications matter, I suppose a more experienced nursery teacher may not dress as if she were skipping off to the beach?

i wasn't staring and I find it insulting that perhaps I fancy her.

Some MNers have suggested I need to get a life, and yet they are the ones totally judging and ripping me apart.

Cheers for some of the comments. X

OP,

On a public forum like this you'll always get some less than intelligent comments and outright rude, that make no sense at all. Just ignore them. Unfortunately, common sense isn't that common after all.

I'm starting to see that, thanks for the insight Sandy!

I'm not trying to rip you apart, Ukulele, but I don't agree with your OP.... you brought uniform when you didn't have to (your bad, but I think it'll work out fine for you because those clothes will get trashed and your child's actual clothes will remain fine, so you forked out when you didn't have to,but heigh ho - put it down to experience and watch those clothes get covered in glue, glitter and paint!). And you object to how the teacher is dressed. I think how the teacher dresses is literally nothing to do with you, but your post(s) are as if it's your problem to solve.

So, hypothetically, imagine you are someone about to be evicted from your home.... you are facing homelessness. So you go to your local council for advice. The person on the desk who you talk to about your issue is wearing a t-shirt which carries the slogan "charity begins at home". You take offence at this, as you are potentially homeless. Is her slogan'd t-shirt more or less important than the advice she gives you? Do you really put in a complaint (or comment to her line manager, who you know personally) rather than listen to what she's telling you and understanding if it's good advice, and you're going to be able to put a roof over your head, or crap advice and you're going to be on a park bench. And if those are your choices, why are you even noticing her t-shirt. It might be policy that staff shouldn't wear t-shirts with slogans. Pointing this out to her manager stops you sleeping on that bench or keeping your roof overhead exactly how?

This person (in your OP) is going to be v important in your child's life until next July.

I'm gently suggesting that your OP isn't the most important thing between now and when schools break up, and (in any case) not your business to point our or correct.

And supposing you do raise this. And then, in 2 weeks time, your child comes home crying. He is saying his teacher doesn't like him. Gives favouritism to others, is mean to him. You've already complained about how she dresses. How do you go into school with these issues if you're already seen as someone who's down on her because she wears shorts when it's hot? I think you should save your complaining for when you've got something really proper to raise. Unless you're comfortable with block-booking the manager's diary out for every Monday morning with your list of complaints about what happened last week.....

I thought this thread was a joke at first. Still not sure..! But having been inclined to say teacher can dress as she likes as long as she's doing her job, I cast my mind back to when I was doing music workshops in schools a few years back

A primary school where teacher was wearing jeans so low slung, her full ass crack was on view every time she bent over or reached to get something. Now, you'd surely realise wouldn't you, with the breeze across your bare ass?

Secondary boys school - female teacher whose skirt was so short my jaw dropped - complete with tight fitting white blouse which covered but revealed at same time, nippleana was it. The boys were Year 9s & 10s blatantly ogling and she was very much aware of this

In same secondary school finished one class went to another and was greeted by adult in the room, I was waiting for teacher to arrive as they normally like to say a little intro first. So I went to him after a few minutes and asked if teacher was on their way.

Only to be pretty mortified when he said I AM the teacher. This man was like an Ali G/Dappy caricature complete with corn rows gold chain blue tracksuit and trainers, and "ya get me doh"accent

If I hadn't gone into schools I wouldn't have believed teachers could dress like this and get away with it - but Im aware they can, and do

This is hilarious! The best part is the worry over what a 4 year old will think! You know what? A healthy 4 year old couldn't care less! Seriously, what are you teaching your child? When you go to the pool does he gawp at all the scantily clad women? Does he too think they look like strippers?

She takes care of your son and does a good job. Don't rock the boat. It will be winter soon enough and her boobies will be safely locked away for another year.

I must say, I have seen plenty of women in office environments wearing shirts or dresses that provide a clear view down their tops if they bend over thoughtlessly. I haven't felt the need to complain about any of them. Sometimes breasts get in the way for the amply endowed.

You know the primary purpose of breasts is feeding? People need to chill the fuck out about the sight of them.