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To fork out nearly £100 for DS nursery uniform and his teacher looks like she's a stripper

199 replies

ukulelelady · 29/08/2016 23:13

I'm really pissed off. I thought my DS's nursery uniform was compulsory. I've paid almost £100 for polo shirts, jumpers and a jacket with the school logo and I find out 3 weeks after he has started that it was parents choice.

But what really pisses me off is that the teacher turns up looking like she is coming back from a music festival or night club. She had the tiniest cut off jean shorts and a top that I could see her boobs. She wasn't wearing a bra. God knows what my DS aged 4 said about this because I'm sure he would have. Every time she bent over I was afraid they would pop out of her top. Surely it isn't too much to ask to dress appropriately! I'm not a prude but what is it teaching the kids that they have to be smart but she can wear clothes that wouldn't look out of place on a stripper. I'm going to have to speak to the head but it is so awkward because I know the nursery teacher and head teacher out with school. WWYS?

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ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 30/08/2016 08:20

YANBU.

RhiWrites · 30/08/2016 08:22

Say nothing. Sooner or later one of the toddlers will spot an opportunity for 'milky'. She'll get the idea then. Especially if the toddler is a grabber.

Ew.

Also, she won't be bothered because she's a nursery nurse.

And why should she be? Unless there's a dress for staff she is breaking, unclench.

user1471428758 · 30/08/2016 08:23

OP, you need a hobby. Jeez.

Evergreen17 · 30/08/2016 08:24

Thanks Navy. I am also sure any of my colleagues would agree with me.
I think it is really positive that lots of people here are not bothered about the clothing I think that is good.
But I stand by my reasons Smile

trafalgargal · 30/08/2016 08:24

I suspect there were plenty of workplaces where dress codes weren't as strictly enforced in the unusually hot weather. I work from home but the office based staff were allowed to forgo office dress for shorts in the offices for non customer facing positions (it's a massive UK employer). I'd wear shorts if messing about with water with kids and most nurseries will have some form of water play for the children when it's hot. Shorts generally fit far better than judgey pants anyway.

MiaowJario · 30/08/2016 08:25

Lend her one of your Ds's spends polo shirts OP.

Evergreen17 · 30/08/2016 08:27

Trafalgar there are shorts and shorts. Some of them are the really short ones that show the pockets at the front and your bottom at the back.

TiggyD · 30/08/2016 08:29

Nursery Nurse or Nursery Teacher? A NN would have done a couple of years in collage. A Nursery Teacher might be a fully qualified teacher with a degree.

DeathStare · 30/08/2016 08:29

Some of them are the really short ones that show the pockets at the front

Shock. Horror. Imagine seeing someone's pockets. The indecency.

smellyboot · 30/08/2016 08:29

One of our EYFS teaches dressed exactly like that. She was a senior teacher. She was excellent and the kids loved her. She frequently looked like she had just left Glastonbury. She wore shirts and denin skirts that left nothing to the imagination. She wore leggings with holes in more than once that I saw in winter. We have uniform but it's not strictly enforced.
Uniform in nursery is a god send as it gets trashed big I'd not spend £100 on it - we use supermarket stuff all the way through school.

NavyandWhite · 30/08/2016 08:30

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smellyboot · 30/08/2016 08:35

It never concerned me too much, but can see OPs point. I did double take a few times and ponder if her appearance was entirely appropriate. We are a multicultural school, so I am sure some people would find really skimpy revealing clothes on teachers rather inappropriate. Some parents at our school want stricter enforced uniform but most don't and like that it's not actually compulsory.

bumsexatthebingo · 30/08/2016 08:37

Oh come off it - because sine kids are breastfed it's fine for a woman to expose her bare breasts to random 4 yr olds??? Still waiting for someone to say that it would be fine for a man to wear baggy shorts and no pants so his balls were on show. Or trousers with no belt so when he leaned over his asscrack was showing. That would be fine if he was a good teacher wouldn't it!

Evergreen17 · 30/08/2016 08:38

Deathstare I was describing the type of shorts I mean, no need for the passive aggressive

Evergreen17 · 30/08/2016 08:39

Those with the pockets show your bottom at the back. You might think that is ok but only commented on the pockets Hmm

trafalgargal · 30/08/2016 08:50

How is wearing a vest top exposing bare breasts ? Never mind you can lend her your pearls to cover them up !

SalemSaberhagen · 30/08/2016 08:50

Rhi what was 'eww' about that?

ilovesooty · 30/08/2016 08:57

What does speaking to the Head "informally" mean?

If you don't have the guts to address this directly with the teacher are you going to collar the Head in the pub or something?

NavyandWhite · 30/08/2016 08:59

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SandyY2K · 30/08/2016 08:59

The nursery worker has dressed trashy IMO. The hot weather is no excuse at all and she isn't on the beach. There's a time and a place to dress in certain attire and this wasn't it.

I'm surprised a place you pay thst much for uniform doesn't have a dress code TBH. I'm a HR Professional and I supported the nursery manager with a dress code once.

Transparent, clingy, short and low cut clothing were among the type of clothes not allowed. How anyone thinks she was dressed appropriately really beats me.

Naicehamshop · 30/08/2016 09:14

Some of the comments on here are beyond unpleasant and aggressive. Yes, the OP used a poor choice of words but there is no need to attack her like this. As for those posters who said that it is wrong to be unsupportive to other women, what do you think you are doing to this poster who has just come on here for some advice?

Good post Yellow.

RhiWrites · 30/08/2016 09:43

Salem 'milky' was eww. Not the act, the term.

RunnyRattata · 30/08/2016 09:47

Really? That's what my toddler used to say when they wanted a feed. They weren't quite old enough to manage 'Please may I have some milk mother'Grin

Aworldofmyown · 30/08/2016 09:53

The OP didn't word the post all that well. However I kind of get her point.

It grates on me immensely that my kids have to stick to a strict uniform policy and some of the teachers stroll in like they have just rolled out of bed.

There is such a thing as setting a good example.

RiverTam · 30/08/2016 10:08

Laughably typical MN responses here. I'd love to know in what other work places clothing which actually shows your breasts is acceptable. I've worked with women who don't wear bras, but I've never seen their breasts either. I would leave it for the mo but if you notice anything else I would then mention it.

I would certainly speak to the nursery regarding the uniform, that sounds pretty poor.