To fork out nearly £100 for DS nursery uniform and his teacher looks like she's a stripper

[ukulelelady]

I'm really pissed off. I thought my DS's nursery uniform was compulsory. I've paid almost £100 for polo shirts, jumpers and a jacket with the school logo and I find out 3 weeks after he has started that it was parents choice.

But what really pisses me off is that the teacher turns up looking like she is coming back from a music festival or night club. She had the tiniest cut off jean shorts and a top that I could see her boobs. She wasn't wearing a bra. God knows what my DS aged 4 said about this because I'm sure he would have. Every time she bent over I was afraid they would pop out of her top. Surely it isn't too much to ask to dress appropriately! I'm not a prude but what is it teaching the kids that they have to be smart but she can wear clothes that wouldn't look out of place on a stripper. I'm going to have to speak to the head but it is so awkward because I know the nursery teacher and head teacher out with school. WWYS?

[SandyY2K]

Any work attire that exposes your breasts oil inappropriate unless your working in the sex industry or modelling.

[PaulAnkaTheDog]

Well you admit to being jealous of her breasts so I'm going to say that's coloured your judgment. You really don't come across well here. All I can imagine is some nice nursery teacher dressed comfortably for running about with the children and her being judged by mum's because of her cracking body.

[mumofthemonsters808]

Ive never, ever seen a teacher dressed as you describe, if I did, I'd be shocked too.I don't think it's suitable clothing for any workplace, maybe Hooters.

[TaraCarter]

Don't approach the head. If you come off half as badly as you did here, she or he will think you are absolutely bonkers.

There is no way in hell that nursery teacher looked like a stripper, absolutely no way ever.

[ukulelelady]

I'm first to agree stripper as wrong choice of word, but she did have tiny cut of jean shorts and a loose low cut top that when she leaned over I could see her naked breasts.

[Hockeydude]

If her bare boobs are showing someone within the nursery will raise it with the head. Save yourself the bother and embarrassment as if it's that bad the nursery will just deal with it. Your ds won't remember his nursery teachers boobs in later life don't worry about him.

Re the uniform, it's done now, chalk it up to experience.

[ukulelelady]

Paulanka, I was joking when I said that. I'm not jealous of her at all. She is nice and good with the kids which is why Ibe never said anything.

[WanderingTrolley1]

I have to say, OP, that I wouldn't be particularly impressed with a teacher dressed in that attire, either; totally unprofessional.

[PaulAnkaTheDog]

Of course you were joking...

[TaraCarter]

Yes, it was the wrong choice of words, but that's the way your mind went. Unless you can guarantee being the Ice Queen if you approach the head, it seems safer to assume you could lose your temper again. You exaggerated in this thread because you were cross and undermined yourself. You really need to avoid that with the head.

[IceBeing]

I don't think you need to worry about nursery aged children seeing breasts...I mean they are probably best placed in society to being used to seeing naked breasts...many of them will still be seeing them on a daily basis unlike non-sun-reading adults.

[MiddleClassProblem]

Short cut off to me, show bum. It sounds like that's what you're implying. I'm waiting for the next bit to say "tbf it was a hot day but then she poured a plastic cup of water all over herself and shook her hair singing "pour some sugar on me" so I might report her.

[catkind]

You said you know the teacher outside school? Could you not just quietly mention to her? ("Couldn't help notice you were flashing boob at me at school on Monday, I thought you'd want to know...") Otherwise I think you have to leave it for her boss to point out the dress code if there is one.

I'd be fine with shorts and t-shirts myself. It's an active job. We also had very informal teachers in reception class where the kids were forced to wear shirts and ties, so I kind of see what you mean, it did look odd. IMO the teachers were in the right gear for the job, the kids were in the wrong gear for theirs.

[MiddleClassProblem]

She may not realise that her top was gaping too. But as pp said, not sure nursery kids would be too offended

[UmbongoUnchained]

I always wore a bra when I was a stripper

[LuluJakey1]

AS you say, you could have chosen different words but actually, I think the sentiment of it is fine OP. She is in an occupation where appropriate dress does matter and I am shocked by what you say she was wearing. At DS nursery, the staff would never be allowed to dress like that. I have yet to come across a school that does not have a Staff Dress Code which are usually pretty clear about no shorts, leggings etc, the length of skirts/ dresses, being appropriately 'covered up'.
If Ofsted inspected they would likely comment to the Head about what the member of staff was wearing if it was not decent and would ask for the dress code.
I would speak to the Head.

[RunnyRattata]

Say nothing. Sooner or later one of the toddlers will spot an opportunity for 'milky'. She'll get the idea then. Especially if the toddler is a grabber.

[trafalgargal]

My childminder was highly qualified in the childcare field , had worked both in nurseries in socialsettings and also as a nursery nurse for one of the London teaching hospitals. The OP would have hated her as she was very attractive, fantastic long blonde hair and was very slim despite having two kids. In the summer she'd wear denim shorts (although not Daisy Dukes) and a nice top sometimes with a bit of cleavage on show. Shorts and a cotton top were entirely appropriate as she and the kids were always busy with activities, play and outings. Court shoes and a tight skirt together with a bag on her head wouldn't have been practical. She was a valued professional looking after my child .....as is the worker at your son's nursery ....... Where do you get off demeaning professional women by calling them strippers ? It really is true it's women who make life harder for other women with their jealousy and bitchiness.

[mummyto2monkeys]

As an ex primary school teacher, there is not one school that I have worked at that would have tolerated the type of outfit you describe op. In fact in one school, all women were expected to wear long skirts with high necked blouses. If its warm I would have thought a cool summer shift dress or smart knee length shorts would have been worn. Is this a teacher or a young nursery nurse?

When you say short cut off denim shorts, how short? Are we talking bum cheeks hanging out? Or are they cut mid thigh? I just honestly can't see a teacher, choosing to go into work wearing clothes that left her arse hanging out and her breasts on display. If your description is accurate then I would imagine that the head teacher would have already had a word. In fact I would not be surprised if she was sent home to change.

[ImissGrannyW]

I think what she's wearing is none of your business. It's got nothing to do with taking care of your child. If there is a dress code, it's up to her line mangers to take up with her/enforce. If there isn't a dress code, and she's dressing in an inappropriate manner, then they have to deal with that. It has literally nothing to do with you.

RE you buying uniform - that's fine... the clothes are going to be screwed from all the artworks the class will produce this year. Just be grateful their bestest clothes aren't going to be ruined and it's only school uniform!

[rubbishbin]

I agree, homeschool your dc and leave professional teachers alone.

Hth

[bumsexatthebingo]

I'm sure the 'we mustn't judge' brigade would be exactly the same if it was a male nursery teacher wearing baggy shorts and no underpants and showing his knackers every time he sat down .
Tiny denim shorts and a top that gapes when you bend to show bare tit is clearly not appropriate attire for a teacher! Weather is no excuse. A linen skirt/trousers would be much cooler than denim.
I agree with others I would take the teacher to one side and tell her about her wardrobe malfunction. Though if she wears that kind of outfit a lot I imagine the head will be having a word before too long.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

My cousin's a teacher and dresses how you describe. She is one of the most energetic, fun, warm, wonderful teachers you will ever meet. A friend of mine's child had her and said to me, "she dresses very umm interestingly. But she's amazing". And she is.

She's not working right now so I know it's not her. Don't judge until you know how she teaches.

[bumsexatthebingo]

She's not judging her teaching though. She's judging the breast flashing. Is it not possible to be a good teacher and also cover your private parts?

[MrsTerryPratchett]

Well naked breasts are where developmentally normal food for 3 year olds comes from so seeing them shouldn't traumatize anyone.