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To pick the bigger/nicer house

425 replies

SiriusBlackDeservedBetter · 25/08/2016 21:47

All names/locations have all been changed.

My Great Uncle had no kids and passed away months ago, recently his solicitor got into contact, which was rather suprising as although he had some money, I didn't think I'd get anything at all.

He's left my sister and I a house each, the issue is with the way his Will is written. It states:

'I leave Rose either the Birchwood house or the Maple house to choose from and then Lily may have whichever one has not been chosen'

This means that I get first pick of 2 houses and then my sister can have whichever one I don't pick.

I don't know why he's written it up like that, we both barely saw or even knew him.

My sister and I both have homes of our own, I have a 2 bed house with 1 DC and she has a 3 bed house with 4 DC.

Birchwood House is absolutely lovely, it's 4 beds, a dining room, a massive garden and it's only 20 mins away from our current location.

Whereas Maple House is an hour and a half away, in a rural area, it's a bungalow with 3 beds.

I want to pick Birchwood house and live in it and either sell or rent out our current property, DSis thinks that that would be really selfish of me as she needs the space more and as her kids are older it would be too disruptive to move them any further then our current location, but I think she could sell Maple House and her current house and upgrade and stay in the area, she argues that I could do the same, which is true.

OP posts:
Creampastry · 28/08/2016 09:21

Dsis not days

Alleycat1 · 28/08/2016 09:29

I have read the post in its entirety. Op's sister already has a bigger house in the preferred catchment area, now she wants an even bigger house in the same area. Op loves Birchwood and living in it would give her Dc a better education. Dsis would move into Birchwood in a heartbeat leaving Op having to sell 2 houses (Maple and her own) to enable her to move into desired area. Wtaf! Dsis 'doesn't want the hassle' of selling 2 houses but she is happy for Op to have it whilst also moving into Ops preferred house. Hello?! Dsis is taking the p##s big time , sounds entitled and spoilt. Op please do what is best for you.

waterlily200 · 28/08/2016 09:42

I haven't managed to read all the comments but if it was me I'd take the house I wanted . I'm better off then my sibling so I would probably offer them money HOWEVER I wouldn't if they behaved as your DSIS has, I'd simply explain that I got first choice and that is the house I want and I'm sorry if you're disappointed but if things there the other way round I would accept that.

Although saying that. The guilt would probably get to me and if I really did have a bit spare money I'd probably save it and give it to nieces/nephews when olde . After that behaviour DSis wouldn't get anything.

Good luck what ever u decide OP.

SiriusBlackDeservedBetter · 28/08/2016 10:39

I picked Birchwood and DSis was annoyed but not devastated/horrified/ready to go nc.

She doesn't want the financial difference as in her own words, she already has money, she just wanted Birchwood.

She's dreading having to deal with Maple House and her current home and then look for something new but with good humour and not a stream of hate. I offered to help her deal with it and she took me up on it.

So this inheritance saga has a happy ending and I've learnt firstly to be as iron clad and as clear in wording as great uncle was in my own Will and to tell everyone before hand what they may or may not be getting.

OP posts:
Bobochic · 28/08/2016 10:43

Well done!

Helping your DSis out "in kind" with selling and buying and moving is a very good compromise.

bumbleymummy · 28/08/2016 10:51

Great news :) Good luck with all the packing!

Benedikte2 · 28/08/2016 10:54

Great result and well done Sirius. I hope you are very happy in your new home

Alleycat1 · 28/08/2016 10:55

I do love a happy ending! Really hope that you will enjoy your new home and that Dsis (not, thankfully, as entitled and spoilt as I thought) finds a home she loves too. Good luck to you both.

Sciurus83 · 28/08/2016 11:15

Ah well done, I was just coming to comment to tell you to take the house you want! Enjoy it! X

beepbeeprichie · 28/08/2016 11:15

Fair play to you OP! I wish you happiness in your new home and smooth sailing for your DSis with Maple

paddypants13 · 28/08/2016 11:44

Glad it has worked out well op. Enjoy your new home.

LightDrizzle · 28/08/2016 12:38

Hooray! I didn't comment as I had nothing new to offer but I really wanted you to take the house. Wishing you and your family many happy years in it.

RedHelenB · 28/08/2016 12:43

good news!

MrsJ1205 · 28/08/2016 13:10

Do as the will states. It's your great-uncle's, albeit slightly awkward, wishes that you should follow. Pick the one you want to live in! Your sister will get over it, inheriting a free house should help! And if she doesn't then maybe she's not so great a sister after all.

SquinkiesRule · 28/08/2016 14:36

Wonderful outcome, enjoy your new home.

TheInternetIsForPorn · 28/08/2016 18:51

Good for you OP.

ShelaghTurner · 28/08/2016 19:06

Great news! Hope you are both very happy in your new homes! BrewCake

Rumpelstiltskin143 · 28/08/2016 19:27

Great news. Here's to years of happiness in your new home.

RedLarvaYellowLarva · 28/08/2016 19:32

I am desperate to see photos of Birchwood!

SisterViktorine · 28/08/2016 19:59

I would love to see a photo too!

mygorgeousmilo · 28/08/2016 21:18

Oh what a fantastic ending! So lovely to hear of someone getting their dream home... Alls well that ends well Wine

LittleBeautyBelle · 29/08/2016 19:05

Well done! Glad your sister was reasonable about it. You did the right thing by not giving in. She probably respects you more now.

I too would love to see pictures of Birchwood.

LittleBeautyBelle · 29/08/2016 19:07

Let me clarify that. You deserve to be respected regardless. I meant to say that your sister now sees that she can't bully you and so your relationship with her will be more evenhanded.

EweAreHere · 31/08/2016 21:01

Pleased for you, OP. Good outcome.

albertgirl · 02/09/2016 13:33

What a great end to a really interesting thread! I'm so pleased you got the result you wanted, and without a horrible falling-out with your sis. If only all families could be like that. Well done for sticking to your guns and going for what works best for your family, rather than trying to keep the peace and pleasing other people. I'm sure your great uncle would be pleased, too

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