To be too stunned to react?

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Long post, sorry. I just don't want to drip feed.

So I was out yesterday with my DD (2 & 1/2) and my DM at IKEA. My DD and I were queueing up for an icecream at the end and DD went on the other side of the barrier to me but just stood there, no intention of running off so I wasn't concerned and I could reach her easily. A little boy (maybe 3) came up to her and with no provocation or reason just shoved my DD. Not hard particularly but she did hit her head on the barrier. Kids will be kids and all but his mother just called after him and he ran off even though she had seen him shove my DD (I know because she had already been calling him before he did it). No apology to me or concern for my DD, just following her little devil treasure. My DM said loudly that it was shocking but I was just too stunned to say anything. The man in the queue behind me said "that boy needs a good slap" but I was too shocked to even respond to him.

My question is, should I have reacted? Said something? My first concern was making sure my DD wasn't hurt (luckily she wasn't). Has this happened to anyone else?

Hope you're not my ks2 dd teacher, by the afternoon you've had enough!
Charming, can only imagine if you said that at parents evening. I find when I've had enough of something, it shows!

My goodness. When I said that by the afternoon I've had enough I was not being serious. I was using people's examples of parents being tired by the end of the day to make a point. As a teacher and a parent, it is my job to ensure that I keep control of my class and child throughout the WHOLE day, regardless of how tired I am.

Leggytadpole wait until ofsted inspects then tell them what they are doing wrong. Not every teacher is cut out for the job. Where I get my knowledge from is the parenting courses the school offers what they teach the parents is how they treat kids in school.

Where do you work in the country.

Sunshine, my behaviour management skills were rated as outstanding thank you very much. Just saying.

Sorry but I'm a bit concerned that a KS2 teacher with experience in a playgroup would have been stunned by what happened in your op. Irritated yes. But stunned? Surely you've had experience of parents who would do well to attend parenting classes?

Totally agree with headinhands. The op is stretching my credulity to breaking point expecting us to believe she's an experienced teacher,,particularly the "has this ever happened to anyone else" line.

If she really works in a school she'd witness similar situations every single day.

Yes, I do witness these things. All the time. However, my shock was that it was completely unprovoked. No toys had been taken unfairly, no toddler injustice had occurred. My DD was just stood there. And then the mother said precisely nothing to me and didn't show any sign of concern for whether she was ok. So yeah, I was shocked at that, not the behaviour of the child.

You can believe that I am a teacher or not, I don't care. I won't lose sleep over that.

She doesn't mention any of this if she works in a school she would have first hand knowledge.

I'm not suggesting you don't, just a bit surprised that what happened threw you. Teachers are pretty much at the rock face of society so usually well aware of the yawning spectrum of proficiency amongst parents.

Thanks sunshine I'll do that.

Omg this thread has gotten ridiculous.
Op makes a very obvious joke yet people jump on her
Now NickiFury a longterm poster is accused of being a troll!
Has everyone been in the sun too long today?

Ha! The heat is intolerable. Like previous poster said; anyone in IKEA with kids during the summer holiday is doing a grand job.

You've already been deleted once for saying that Harry.

You should be grateful considering how the little "I'll just alert you to your behaviour..." speech you also gave her in that post was making you look.

harry you're making yourself look really foolish. Someone who starts shrieking troll because they were disagreed with really needs to take a good look at themselves. My posts all stand fortunately so people will be able to see for themselves what was actually said and make up their own minds . You demanded answers from me repeatedly, you got them. As I said before please do report any post of mine you deem to have broken talk guidelines and good luck with that!

As I have said a couple of times, Nicki, I don't have an issue with it. I was just pointing it out in the context of the discussion.

The different views on forcing children to apologise are interesting, though. If our nursery teacher was of the mind to force apologies out of children, I would change nurseries. I believe it's that much of a fundamental issue in child development.

You speak of children feeling humiliated if "forced to apologise". It makes me wonder just how much "humiliation" you are feeling at being disagreed with, that you have to make claims of being trolled in order to attempt to shut another posters opinion down and end the discussion. Are you perhaps projecting your own discomfort onto your children when it comes to something as simple as making a deserved apology I wonder?

Anyway as I said, all my posts stand so people can make up their own mind can't they?

I believe in children being taught the social " niceties" as soon as possible. Hello, Goodbye, Thank you Please Sorry Excuse me.

Oiling the wheels and all that.

Peace, Nicki.

My 2.5yr old could easily pass for 3 years old, and isn't talking/fully understanding yet.. He has sometimes slapped another child on their arm if they get in his way, I always tell him no but he still does it sometimes. I find it a bit embarrassing so just want to get out of the situation and never look for the parent incase they're off with me, but do say sorry to the child.

Were you in IKEA the other day, spooky?

Haha no! I try and avoid it as much as possible.. Anyway I said "if they get in his way" so usually happens if they come up too close.