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my daughter wants a new wardrobe...50 mile ikea drive???!!

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user1471353057 · 16/08/2016 14:36

my daughter (14) has been trying to persuade me for months and months for me to buy her a brand new wardrobe as hers is "too small" "doesn't go with her room" or whatever and I completely understand why she'd want one. at first, I was reluctant but offered £45 towards a second hand one if she could find anything half decent,but she now wants a brand new one from ikea that is over £100. she has saved up the other money for it herself (she has a job) and i don't know if i'm being mean or not when i told her that I won't drive fifty plus miles all the way to ikea for a brand new wardrobe in the middle of the year. it isn't her birthday, it isn't christmas, it's a big long excursion for one very expensive item she just happens to want. am i being unreasonable??? pls help!!!

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Chippednailvarnishing · 16/08/2016 19:00

Annie I like fairy cakes too Wink

Gottagetmoving · 16/08/2016 19:01

I think it's madness to drive even 2 miles to IKEA.
I hate the bloody place.

Get your DD to save up for delivery too. Grin

AnnieOnAMapleLeaf · 16/08/2016 19:01

Chipped I always knew you were evil but I never knew precisely how evil until this moment. Fairy cakes? FAIRY CAKES??!! Won't someone think of the children???

PrimalLass · 16/08/2016 19:02

Ok, they might fit, but you do realise that if they aren't held in place by a seat belt they risk being flung out of the windscreen in an emergency stop?

If you pack the car the way I do then the front seatbelt goes round the wardrobe/bookshelf box.

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 16/08/2016 19:02

OK Bettyboop - what do you do when your children need new furniture?

Chippednailvarnishing · 16/08/2016 19:02

At 13 I didn't have a wardrobe, 'cause my bedroom was a cupboard under the stairs.

I also hate ikea

AgentProvocateur · 16/08/2016 19:02

I think you're being quite mean actually. Would you really have given her a wardrobe for Christmas? It's 50 miles. That's a commute, and she saved up for it herself. Do the right thing, OP.

NotYoda · 16/08/2016 19:03

Betty

Then say that. Instead of fucking swearing at us fuckers.

FFS

teacher54321 · 16/08/2016 19:03

I can't believe a flippant comment about cupcakes kicked off a minor shitstorm. I feel like a proper mnetter now Wink

Bettybooop25 · 16/08/2016 19:04

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe I mostly order it from a catalogue or it's passed on from family.

NotYoda · 16/08/2016 19:04

I am enjoying the fucking to a worrying degree.

I might go onto Baby Names and suggest someone calls their son FuckFace

Bettybooop25 · 16/08/2016 19:05

NotYoda Sorry.

Mothertoasuperhero · 16/08/2016 19:05

I drive 50 miles to work and then 50 miles back a day.. It sounds worse than it is! Bless her I think she's earned it for working to pay for her part.. As others have said, make it a nice day out xx

AnnieOnAMapleLeaf · 16/08/2016 19:05

Why is it frustrating, Betty? What an odd choice of words. I had to pay my own way as a teenager as well but I have not become jaded because of it and I certainly would not have been so aggressive to strangers on a forum simply because of it. £100 is not expensive for a wardrobe and 50 miles is not a great distance to travel.

NotYoda · 16/08/2016 19:05

Betty

It's Ok. I feel like in some small way we've bonded. You old slag

ThisIsStartingToBoreMe · 16/08/2016 19:06

But why is it ok for you to order it from a catalogue but it's not OK for the OP to buy it from IKEA?

teacher54321 · 16/08/2016 19:06

betty isn't catalogue furniture much more expensive than IKEA though? We got our last wardrobes from there for less than £60 each.

Chippednailvarnishing · 16/08/2016 19:07

Notyoda now I'm properly laughing.

But tell me do you like cupcakes?

FurkinA · 16/08/2016 19:08

Some posters think sitting on a horse's back is great fun.

I think riding around on a 500 mammal with hooves is fucking psychotic.

But different strokes eh?

Just because some posters are having to drive 50 miles does not mean the op should have to

PuraVida · 16/08/2016 19:08

I largely agree with the comments about her having saved and it not being a usually extravagant outlay but August is a tough month for many of us £ wise. School holidays / holidays / lots of social stuff / new uniform etc. I know I'm always properly skint in August

Bettybooop25 · 16/08/2016 19:10

teacher54321 Yes it is but you can pay monthly which makes it easier.

FruitCider · 16/08/2016 19:10

Get her the wardrobe, get it delivered and give your DD their money back to spend it on something nice. Your poor child!

LittleBearPad · 16/08/2016 19:10

I'm bewildered as to why a new wardrobe causes this degree of angst. She's saved the majority of the money for it. Can take it with her when she leaves home (IKEA disassembles well these days). It's only 50 miles, that's an hour or so.

Bettybooop25 · 16/08/2016 19:11

NotYoda Ha!

Lweji · 16/08/2016 19:12

Why do I ever leave home?

Not to get cupcakes. At least that would make it worth it. While MNetting and catching up with the latest cupcake fight.