my daughter wants a new wardrobe...50 mile ikea drive???!!

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my daughter (14) has been trying to persuade me for months and months for me to buy her a brand new wardrobe as hers is "too small" "doesn't go with her room" or whatever and I completely understand why she'd want one. at first, I was reluctant but offered £45 towards a second hand one if she could find anything half decent,but she now wants a brand new one from ikea that is over £100. she has saved up the other money for it herself (she has a job) and i don't know if i'm being mean or not when i told her that I won't drive fifty plus miles all the way to ikea for a brand new wardrobe in the middle of the year. it isn't her birthday, it isn't christmas, it's a big long excursion for one very expensive item she just happens to want. am i being unreasonable??? pls help!!!

Betty u ok Hun??

SquidgyRedBall

Seriously?

There are starving children in the world and this "breaks your heart?"

Betty

It's a turn of phrase. Like fucking stuck up snob.

Aaah I see now

I think YABU, furniture is not a gift. I would drive 50 miles just for the meatballs!

Is this real???!!! Can any mother be that mean?

Mycraneisfixed Erm yes. There are actual mothers who abuse their children.

a) I refuse to believe that delivery is £200
b) 50 miles is hardly a "big long excursion". Jesus how do you ever get to the airport or somewhere?!

Either have a nice day trip out, or wait until you are going somewhere vaguely near, or just get a grip and pay for the delivery if she is 100% that's the one she wants. I can't imagine being so enamoured of a wardrobe aged 14 that I'd spend my own money on it, but fair play to her.

Just out of interest, what job does she have age 14, btw?

Also lots of places are more than 50 miles for an ikea - there is only one in the whole of wales, it is even called 'Wales' Ikea rather than Cardiff ikea to clarify this for some reason! So anyone further than Swansea would be mroe than 50 miles away - sometimes up to 150 to get either there or to Birmingham from mid Wales.

Re. packing large boxes etc into small cars. Ok, they might fit, but you do realise that if they aren't held in place by a seat belt they risk being flung out of the windscreen in an emergency stop? I concede, ok, that some packages fit into some cars, but I'm really concerned to hear about people putting lots of heavy boxes into cars like Corsas if the packages are not stable in an accident- plus the weight will affect the handling of a small car. Not really sensible driving.

It sounds like you thought the obstacle of saving the money herself would be too much. To be fair, my parent thought the same when I announced I wanted completely new bedroom furniture at a similar age. So they said they'd help build it if I bought it. £200 I had to save for a double bed/wardrobe/bedside drawers and chest of drawers set from Argos. And I bloody did it (on my very meagre part time wage).

I actually think you are being quite mean wanting to change the goalposts now she has reached them. I get that IKEA might not be your thing, but your dd has met the agreement. Perhaps you needed to include fuel money if that's an issue but you didn't. So I think you might have to suck it up a little and take her. Enjoy the drive, find somewhere nearby that you want to go to so you don't feel like her just going to ikea and get the wardrobe.

Fwiw we go to ikea with a list of things to get which we build over a period of time. It is a day out from where we are 1.5 hours each way on a busy route). But we'll have wander round the showroom, get dinner. Then go to the market place, load. Up the car and return to the cafe for a drink and cake then head home. If we have time we go to the massive ASDA Walmart next door and maybe even over to the outlet shops.

bettybooop25 maybe I am. I don't care!

And I like cupcakes. And IKEA. So am frequently happy to travel to get either of them.

teacher54321 Yes but that's you though. Not everybody is in a position to drive 80 bloody miles for some fucking cupcakes.

Your post hasn't taken this into account.

Have you posted asking on the Fb selling pages? If she finds a nice one for half the prices she will probably give in

at posters saying you must drive an hour and half away because a 14 year old is insisting

14 and saving up for a wardrobe? I think I'd be so chuffed at that I wouldn't have the heart to actually take the money from her. Not all of it anyway. I'd buy her the wardrobe and let her pay the delivery if you're against taking her.

I'll ask again. How did your current furniture get to the house?

Snappy

I think it's maybe therapeutic to launch into a thread, throw a few fucks around, and fuck off. Gets it off your chest.

She hasn't mentioned that she can't afford to drive to IKEA, just that she doesn't want to. And plenty of other posters have said that they'd happily drive there and you haven't been as rude to them. But I mentioned cupcakes so therefore I am evil and spoilt and a princess. My friends all live a long way away, I am happy to drive long distances to see them. My point was mainly that 50 miles to me Isn't a long way to drive to get something so I didn't understand why that was the problem.

OP

Please can you link the wardrobe. Maybe we can find something similar for less money/delivery charge?

Crikey, this thread took a turn. Child abuse and starving children all in a matter of moments and all because of cupcakes. You ought to be ashamed of yourself, teacher54321. How dare you like cupcakes when there are starving children in the world!

It's not like the 14 year old is insisting. she's wanted something for a long time, worked hard for it, at it's not like it's a hand bag, it's a bloody practical thing!

snappy you've beaten me to it.

You lot must lead a very different life to me.

From 13 onwards when I first got a job I had to save for anything I wanted. Including furniture and essentials such as sanitary products.

It's frustrating that most of the posters think that driving 50 miles and spending that much money on furniture is normal.