my daughter wants a new wardrobe...50 mile ikea drive???!!

[user1471353057]

my daughter (14) has been trying to persuade me for months and months for me to buy her a brand new wardrobe as hers is "too small" "doesn't go with her room" or whatever and I completely understand why she'd want one. at first, I was reluctant but offered £45 towards a second hand one if she could find anything half decent,but she now wants a brand new one from ikea that is over £100. she has saved up the other money for it herself (she has a job) and i don't know if i'm being mean or not when i told her that I won't drive fifty plus miles all the way to ikea for a brand new wardrobe in the middle of the year. it isn't her birthday, it isn't christmas, it's a big long excursion for one very expensive item she just happens to want. am i being unreasonable??? pls help!!!

[ShatnersBassoon]

You're decided beyond doubt that there will be no new wardrobe from Ikea. Fair enough. So what are you asking here?

[cardboardPeony]

Minus your petrol money form the 45 and make her pay the rest if she has it saved up anyway and you're so reluctant

Why can't she have a new One?

[OhSoggyBiscuit]

What, are you expecting Santa to bring the wardrobe?? Don't think it'll fit on his sled either. Just go take her to IKEA.

I want to go to IKEA at some point. Desperately need new desk and bookshelf!!

[MunchCrunch01]

it seems to me as though you set her up to fail - she saved the money, and now you've found a reason not to make it happen. She's 14, not 21 and she's saved up a LOT of money so she clearly really wants it.

[MunchCrunch01]

can you ebay/sell the old wardrobe to raise petrol money/delivery?

[YoureAllABunchOfBastards]

We once bought so much from IKEA that I couldn't fit in the car to go home. DH drove home and came back to get me: I went back in, bought a wicker chair and a hot dog and had a nice sit down outside while waiting for him to do the trip...

[Mrsderekshepard]

50 miles is not far, don't be so tight and take her.

[Lovelongweekends]

I'm 121 miles from my nearest IKEA (sob)!!

[RhiWrites]

When I was 15 I saved up my own money for a chest of drawers from Ikea. It's big and black and built to last. Over 20 years later I still have it. My taste has changed a bit but it still works in our dining room. That was a quality purchase.

Glad my parents drove me to IKEA.

[MrsSippy]

In your OP you asked if YWBU, I'd say yes. yes you are!

A little encouragement for independence goes a long way, your DD sounds fab!

[Mrsderekshepard]

50 miles is not far, don't be so tight and take her.

[TheFullMinty]

OP you sound awful, like the kind of person who takes home a half finished bottle of wine from a dinner party.

Doubt you are coming back but on the off chance: take your daughter, buy the wardrobe and stop being so selfish.

[OohMavis]

Well how about this. Charge her petrol money and then you'll not be out of pocket.

Maybe a bit extra for your time.

And a little bit on top of that for wear and tear of the car. Make her buy the car snacks since you're being so generous driving her there.

You massive scrooge.

[YelloDraw]

PrimalLass we are clearly superior polo PAX packing creatures :-) I got a double and 2 single tall pax wardrobes in the polo like that.

Fitting in the car was easy. Carrying them up 3 flights of stairs when I got home (on my own) reduced me to near tears and I I had to take the packages apart and carry up prices individually.

I did have a word of warning from my cousin tho - don't try and shut the boot door with a slam on a bully book case that is lying between the front seats.... Smashy smashy windscreen!!

[MrsLouisTomlinson]

OP you're being mean. In all senses of the word.

[Wondermoomin]

Very mean not to take her or pay for delivery, and I also think it's mean you're making her pay about half of it anyway. As a parent I see it as my job to pay for that sort of thing at that age, you said you can see why she wants a new one so it's obviously not just on a whim. I'm reminded of the friend I had whose parents bought a nest of tables... and gave her the smallest one for her room as her Christmas present

[BumWad]

Gosh, you sound mean

[teacher54321]

My mind is boggling at this. I regularly drive 100 mile round trip to meet friends for lunch, with 4 year old ds and think absolutely nothing of it. It's under an hour on motorways or A roads. Hell I made dh drive an 80 mile round trip just to go and get the cupcakes I like for my birthday. She's saved the money, it's an opportunity for a nice day out.

[Floggingmolly]

Why, Betty?

[NotYoda]

betty

Eh? What a total over-reaction.

[SquidgyRedBall]

YABU and this breaks my heart.

I'll take her if it's that much trouble!

I cannot imagine at 14 having £60 - let alone spending it on a wardrobe!

[ShatnersBassoon]

Bettybooop25, where did that come from?

[NotYoda]

Maybe the mention of cupcakes set you off

[idontlikealdi]

I think you're being mean op. And it's def £35 for delivery.