my daughter wants a new wardrobe...50 mile ikea drive???!!

[user1471353057]

my daughter (14) has been trying to persuade me for months and months for me to buy her a brand new wardrobe as hers is "too small" "doesn't go with her room" or whatever and I completely understand why she'd want one. at first, I was reluctant but offered £45 towards a second hand one if she could find anything half decent,but she now wants a brand new one from ikea that is over £100. she has saved up the other money for it herself (she has a job) and i don't know if i'm being mean or not when i told her that I won't drive fifty plus miles all the way to ikea for a brand new wardrobe in the middle of the year. it isn't her birthday, it isn't christmas, it's a big long excursion for one very expensive item she just happens to want. am i being unreasonable??? pls help!!!

[imwithspud]

YABU, she has saved up more than half the cash herself. At that age that sort of money will seem like loads! She must really want that wardrobe, im sure if she could she would drive there herself.

Either drive the 50 miles or fork out for delivery, seems a bit mean not to help her out a bit here.

[ScatteryCattery]

it's only 50 miles ffs

[Damia]

Does it have to be Ikea? Have you taken her to other shops closer by to help her if its so important to her? You can google wardrobes and find ones similar to what she likes, find stores that are closer to you and more accessible, and may even be cheaper?

[ShatnersBassoon]

I think you need to break your 'furniture is only for special occasions' rule in this instance. She's saved up a load of money and I think you should compromise by taking her up there to get it.

It's there anything else you could do near Ikea while you're up there to make the journey seem more worthwhile?

[snowgirl1]

I think taking her would show that you support behaviour that you surely want to encourage, i.e. saving up for things, contributing and not expecting hand-outs? Alternatively, could you find the same wardrobe on ebay?

[winewolfhowls]

That's cheap for a wardrobe

[BestZebbie]

If she has been asking for months and months then it is a bit unreasonable to now penalise her for it being the middle of the year!

[steff13]

50 miles isn't so much, and it could be a fun day out.

[MrsLouisTomlinson]

I find this thread utterly depressing. Your poor daughter. You say yourself you understand why she wants another one and she has saved up hard so the burden doesn't fall entirely on you and now you won't take her to the shop that stocks it because it isn't her birthday or Christmas?!

[Cackleberry4]

Get off your arse and take your daughter out for a mum and daughter day wandering the aisles having meatballs for lunch and letting her get the wardrobe she is contributing to.

You are being extremely mean and a fifty mile round trip is nothing to get het up about.

[LizzieVereker]

She's done really well to save up for a "boring" item like a wardrobe at 14. I would drive her there.

[Smidge001]

I don't know why you think delivery is twice the price of the wardrobe. I had 3 pax wardrobes delivered plus all the insides, and it was £35. I think that's the maximum price. Well worth it as apart from not fitting in the car and saving me the journey, the delivery men carried all the boxes upstairs for me as part of the price.

If she bought a second hand one wouldn't you still need to get that delivered? And I suspect you'd have you're a van and do all the heavy lifting (at both ends) yourself.

Also, as other people have said, it's only 50 miles! Could be a nice day out with your daughter, and surely you should be pleased with her saving up, instead of acting a grump because she hasn't picked exactly what you suggested.

She may also be able to eBay the old one, to recover some of that £35 delivery cost.

YABU

[Jessbow]

I didn't know that anywhere was 50 miles from an IKEA!

Unless you live on mountain, in the middle of nowhere, I think you are being a bit mean. She has made the effort and you don't want to play ball

[YelloDraw]

What is 50 miles? An hours drive?

You sound a bit mean. Have a nice trip to Ikea together, eat meatballs and spend too much money in the market section :-)

[ShebaShimmyShake]

I bet you'd drive 50 miles any time of year to get something nice that you'd saved for and really wanted.

[Floggingmolly]

Would you seriously consider it a suitable birthday or Christmas present, op? A wardrobe that she's saved half the money towards?
And delivery is £35; not double the wardrobe cost.

[sizeofalentil]

Would she complain if you got her the same one, but secondhand from Gumtree or eBay etc?

That way you might find one closer as well as cheaper. And she could always spend the saved money on new clothes.

However, I do think you're being a bit mean and should take her.

[eyebrowsonfleek]

Is there a shop that does a similar style that's closer?

[fastdaytears]

OFGS take her! You'll have a lovely day.

50 miles is really nothing.

[PinkyPlumet]

jess I love about that distance from ikea, I'm in torquay and the nearest is Bristol.

[PinkyPlumet]

live ffs.

[fastdaytears]

I'm 50 miles from Brizzle, Southampton and Milton Keynes Ikeas.

[diddl]

Would it fit in your car & would you be able to lift it?

Could you get it cheaper elsewhere?

[amidawish]

she sounds incredible tbh
ffs take her to ikea or pay the delivery!