AIBU to be annoyed at my mum?

[Kidsrulethishouse]

This is going to sound very petty and materialistic. I am very aware of that but its more the principal that gets me.
I have been after a pair of shoes for months, not because I am shoe mad or anything but for sentimental reasons. Said shoes are very rare and SO SO hard to get hold of. A pair came up in my size and I was ready to buy them, financially it was doable but a bit of a push. My mum offered to buy them for me and let me pay her back when I was more easily able to (I must say, I didn't ask. Not even a hint!) I very gratefully accepted her offer and she bought the shoes. They were delivered yesterday and she has now decided that actually she likes them and will be keeping them herself.
I am so upset because not only not going to not get them now, I won't want another pair because the sentimental reason behind them is ruined. She fully understood why I wanted them and how long I had been trying to get them. She wouldnt even know they existed if I hadnt told her I wanted them. I know there are more important things in life but I dont get why my own mum would take away something important to me just because she felt like it.

[ImissGrannyW]

OMG... I want those shoes. I want them SOOOOOO bad. They'd be perfect for when I walk the dog!

But another one who thinks you have pixie feet, OP. Mine are a strapping size 7!

[Kidsrulethishouse]

With a lingering coccyx injury and a very clumsy streak, I have come to the regrettable decision that skates would be a terrible idea for me 😂

[Kidsrulethishouse]

My feet are less like pixie feet and more like weird elf flipper feet! 😂 I have terribly ugly feet, lumps from various fractures and middle toes that do an odd curling under like odd prawn type things.

[Kidsrulethishouse]

I NEED this! My hair is like this right now too 😂

[Oldraver]

That's a very mean thing to do, I think you now need to find the most hideous panda stuff and buy her for Christmas forever...if the Panda theme wasn't yours though.

My Mum used to have form for buying the same clothes as me. It was back in the 90's when I was bigger and there were limited high street places to buy plus size. She would say "ooh look what I have bought", almost goading me to say something. On several occasions I have picked up her larger size item and she has giggled when she saw me trying to figure it out. She now gives me stuff several sizes too big and tries to say she bought it for herself but it doesn't fit..Why you would buy a size 20 when you know you are a minimum 24 beats me.

I realised a couple of years ago things were amiss when I bought a handbag I had lusted after and realised I couldn't let her see it as she would 'spoil' it for me with her snidey-ness.. She saw a coat I bought last year and went on and on about how she wanted one...in the end I did calmly say they didnt do her size (true) but she whittled on that she would of fit in it a year earlier..and kept going on about how she wanted it, that it felt like it took the shine off for me. It was the first really nice smart coat I had bought So I know what you mean by its not just a pair of shoes

[CoffeeAndEnnui]

A sad but pragmatic decision. And there will always be panda Converse out there in the world to cheer up your feet if the shoe cravings grow too strong.

I too am loving the panda tat gifting revenge. It's been making me chuckle all weekend.

[LaContessaDiPlump]

What a complete cow!

I bet you a million pounds that once you say you're not that into them, she will be all 'Oh well I was going to ask if you wanted them because actually I don't want them anymore.' Whatever you do, DO NOT ACCEPT this shit offer. They will be forever spoilt for you. Let them gather dust in her cupboard as a reminder of her own twattiness.

[Kidsrulethishouse]

Oh I expect that she will eventually offer them to me sooner or later. I won't be accepting them though, the sentiment is ruined for me.

[TaLLyHOnellie]

That's so so nasty of her.

Has she done it because she knows what the connection is and so can have "that" with the children instead

[NeedsAsockamnesty]

PaulAnka

Shit I think I may be your friend.

I borrowed my friends tape measure pair and didn't give them back for ages. This was years and years ago and in my defence she still had my shirt dress that she had had for almost 2 years.

[Kidsrulethishouse]

Sockamnesty-
PaulAnka-
Now now! No falling out over shoes 😬😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[blueturtle6]

After reading the sentimental reason she is being so unreasonable it brings a whole new level.not only don't you have them, but she's wearing them in front of you.

[Kidsrulethishouse]

I'm even more annoyed now! She's avoiding me, I expect because she knows my OH will have something to say to her (as he always does when I won't)
My dad had made sure that they both booked this week and next off work so that they could spend time with my children. So far they haven't even phoned!

[MillionToOneChances]

She's a proper cow.

[Choceeclair123]

Awful!

[Choceeclair123]

I'd get them back

[Vickyyyy]

YABNU, this was a really really shitty thing for her to do.

[Zucker]

Yes she's a cowbag. PLEASE PLEASE do the panda tat gifts for her every birthday and christmas. She deserves it after all. Plus we all know now how she loves pandas too! Win win for all.

[Kidsrulethishouse]

Oh but she does love pandas 😒
She once made a donation to WWF and was sent a panda pin thing.
This was part of her reasoning as to why she wanted the shoes. 😡😡😡😡 I had calmed down but I am making myself mad again now!

[5BlueHydrangea]

Well if she really loves Pandas, you've had some great advice here! Check out Etsy too, always weird stuff on there...

[RhiWrites]

I so wish you would tell her "mum you offered to do something nice for me and then took it yourself, how do you think that makes me feel?"

[coolandcalm]

Next time it's her birthday ask her well in advance what she wants. Let her believe you've bought it her. Then on the day hand her the present beautifully wrapped. Watch her excitedly open the present and then when she opens it and sees a cheap bit of whatever just say. "Oh yeah I got you that present you wanted but when I saw it decided it was too nice to give you so I kept it for myself, sorry".
Might seem childish and nasty but so what, just lets her see what it feels like.

[LadyClegane]

There is a range of toys called Furry Bones. They are zombie teddies. Dd has a bunny. I'd recommend this one for your mother (they do plushies and all sorts of weird looking shite things)

[MrsJayy]

Aww thats out of order what is she thinking call her out on it is she really going to totter about in your shoes ? Is she akways been so horrible ?

[THirdEeye]

What a cowbag....

I'm loving the panda gift giving revenge

You could also pretend to luffs other random or ugly things.....like gnomes...just come up with some bullshit to reel her in.

IMO those converse and the other shoes are really nice....just don't wear them when she is around.