AIBU to be annoyed at my mum?

[Kidsrulethishouse]

This is going to sound very petty and materialistic. I am very aware of that but its more the principal that gets me.
I have been after a pair of shoes for months, not because I am shoe mad or anything but for sentimental reasons. Said shoes are very rare and SO SO hard to get hold of. A pair came up in my size and I was ready to buy them, financially it was doable but a bit of a push. My mum offered to buy them for me and let me pay her back when I was more easily able to (I must say, I didn't ask. Not even a hint!) I very gratefully accepted her offer and she bought the shoes. They were delivered yesterday and she has now decided that actually she likes them and will be keeping them herself.
I am so upset because not only not going to not get them now, I won't want another pair because the sentimental reason behind them is ruined. She fully understood why I wanted them and how long I had been trying to get them. She wouldnt even know they existed if I hadnt told her I wanted them. I know there are more important things in life but I dont get why my own mum would take away something important to me just because she felt like it.

[hollyisalovelyname]

I just googled the shoes. Dear God, as a granny she'd look daft in them.
If you could buy a pair for yourself, wear them when she is wearing the same pair - she would look pathetic in them.
Your revenge would be sweet.

[Smellyrose]

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[Wolpertinger]

Your mother is horrid. Your story is so meaningful and they would have been a family heirloom.

The shoes look amazing but also unwearable so lets hope she twists her ankle soon.

BTW I told my DH and he has been banished for saying 'but they are just shoes'. Sometimes, he has no soul.

[alphabettyspaghetty]

Wow... I've googled them too. Not my cup of tea but I get your reasoning... Your mum is a bitch.

Maybe some payback find some horrific pair of shoes and go on about them for a few months then tell her you have found them. Hopefully she will offer to buy them then when she gets them be busy for a month or so (so she's outside of the returns policy) then tell her you've changed your mind... That will teach her

[HooseRice]

That's the kind of thing my mother would do. I've escaped, 3 blissful years of peace.

[Shizzlestix]

She's a bitch and will look completely ridiculous in IC shoes. I'd be appalled if my mum did that. What a cow.

[Arkhamasylum]

You need to kill the shoes. Tell her that you're glad she's kept them as they're actually (at this point, pretend you can't contain your laughter and leave the room).

Persuade (or pay) a couple of people to do 'look at shoes, look at your mum's face, do 'f-ing hell' face. As she walks past.

It would have been lovely if you could have enjoyed your shoes, OP. She stole your joy. So you must destroy hers. It's WAR.

(Seriously (although I actually am serious) that is a really shitty thing to do to someone you love).

Kill the shoes. Kill the joy. Make it so she's paid all of that money to piss her daughter off and look like a twat. She deserves it.

[mypropertea]

Hope they give her bunions. If not I would settle for blisters and a scorching case of athletes foot.

[peskyfeelings]

Incredibly spiteful, mean and uncaring of your mum OP. I am so sorry.

[Capricornandproud]

Firstly; shoes are shoes and no justification needed for wanting to treat yourself. Secondly; beautiful reason for wanting to buy them, you sound like a lovely Mummy.... Completely unlike your own mother! How could a parent - at any age - begrudge their own DD this? YANBU at all. Horrid behaviour.

[midsomermurderess]

I'd just googled them. Won't your mother look like a bit of a berk wearing them? Grade A cow in any event.

[BrianButterfield]

That's awful. Surely most mothers would give their kids the shoes off their feet if they wanted them! I know I would, most of us here will feel the same.

[PrimalLass]

OP, your mum is a total bitch.

But the shoes are truly awful.

[PrimalLass]

I know that makes me a bitch too, but you will look back at this and say 'What was I thinking?'

[JellyBelly89]

Wow that's mean! I thought you were going to say she offered to buy them and forgotten, so someone else bought them...

[TheWeeBabySeamus1]

Wow, that's a really snide thing to do. I'm not surprised you're hurt by it.

Ask her what she wants for Christmas, wait until she shows up and just be wearing/using whatever it is she asked for and say "When it came I liked it so decided to keep it for myself".

I'm scared to even compliment my mums clothes as she tries to give them to me - can't understand what your mum was thinking.

[Stevefromstevenage]

They are cool shoes.

Next time you are at her house sneak into her shoe wardrobe find the shoe box, steal the shoes and leave 80% of the money now that they are second hand. You are so far above her on the moral high ground you cannot see her below.

[happypoobum]

Bearing in mind she has form for pulling stunts like this, what were you thinking????

I think you had better get yourself over to this thread and see if you have found your people

YY to stealing them back. In all seriousness I probably would severely restrict contact with her, she sounds horribly toxic to deliberately hurt you like this.

[NoCapes]

Wow they are some fugly shoes!