To wonder why some people are ignored on MN

[nuttymango]

Some people always seem to be inadvertent thread killers don't they?
What makes people ignore others on MN? Surely somebody who is always ignored (I'm not one of them, I'm sometimes replied to, sometimes not) is not always at fault?

Or is MN just a place for us to spout our views and not listen to the views of others? I'm often never guilty of this of course

DIY - AF = anyfucker, NN = nickname :)

Hello. I was drawn to this thread as I am a ninja (from the ninja threads)
No one ever gets ignored there
Roussette - you're not as invisible as you think. I've seen you around
wanders off to start a 'we love Roussette' thread

Kitty I agree with your take on it all, I also post and don't care. It's only an internet message board site (albeit a big one). I started a thread yesterday that no one responded to but didn't care as I'd got my little rant out so my selfish objective was achieved!

My favourite threads are those that are a discussion. I like it when people are not necessarily agreeing but also not bun fighting/goading one another.

Jealousy is a terrible emotion

I wish people would be nasty about posters who are on the site a lot.
There are probably lots of people who use the site a great deal. Posters can have very difficult lives - being a carer for example may mean you are trapped at home. If MN gives people a way to engage with other adults I don't think that's a bad thing.

When I was first using MN I was on here a great deal. It was a combination of things, including have a child who did a lot of activities while I sat and waited. Plus I am a carer. It was nice. I met people who were funny and interesting. I became somewhat recognised because I didn't namechange.

None of those things made me a sad loser. It was actually all quite positive and helped me think about things outside what was at that time quite an enclosed experience.

I dislike the idea that people with disabilities, with limited circumstances or just people who enjoy the site have to be sneered at just because they chose not to namechange.

I probably meant 'would not be nasty'. But who knows.

If everyone is "ignoring" you it just means your posts are really boring to the majority,. doesn't it?

When I first joined Mumsnet it took me ages to work out that it didn't work like an actual conversation. So you make your comment and hopefully someone will read it but you hardly ever get a personal reply. You just need to get used to it. And I do feel genuinely sorry for the utterly pathetic inadequates who get so het up about cliques (for which read friends or people who have made a connection in some way) both on Mumsnet and in real life. I cringe at your paranoia and neediness and hope you find a way to be more relaxed and less bitter somehow in the future.

Of course it doesn't!

If ten people post a similar comment most OPs only name check one or two. That's all it is most of the time.

If you want to get name checked then agree with the OP on an AIBU. In a sea of posters saying 'op yab incredibly u' anyone saying 'YANBU' usually gets 'thank you so much for that incredibly brilliant post'

Just wanted to say wedonttalk I hear exactly what your saying. I've been lurking for so long and finally built up the courage to post and nothing. I work nights as well and it would be nice to feel like I'm not the only one awake.

I was joking. Was trying to say that then lost signal as we are driving through mountains.

I agree with Pag about people having different reasons to use site. Being a carer can indeed trap people (I am lucky to be working and to get out with DH every week and to meet friends at least once a week IRL but I know many arent).

There are worse things for people to do than use a website a lot without hiding behind a name change.

wombatto Not sure if I'm touched or scared hehe!

I lurk far more than I post.

NickName!!! Of course! Thank you.

No I have been in the darkest Highlands with not much signal Dixie. How are you?

Have had a pretty good school holidays. One week to go here. Hope the rest of yours goes well :)

I always look at the name to see who's posting, always.

Me too but often it's a name change so doesn't mean much