To wonder why some people are ignored on MN

[nuttymango]

Some people always seem to be inadvertent thread killers don't they?
What makes people ignore others on MN? Surely somebody who is always ignored (I'm not one of them, I'm sometimes replied to, sometimes not) is not always at fault?

Or is MN just a place for us to spout our views and not listen to the views of others? I'm often never guilty of this of course

[SanityClause]

I know that I have posted something utterly brilliant in the past, and it's not been taken up, and then, a few pages later, someone else will post the same thing , and loads of posters will tell them what an amazing post it was, and I will not have been in the slightest bit bitter about it.

People don't always read every post. They skim a bit. Sometimes they respond to posters they "know". I really don't think it's a big deal. There are a few friendly MN communities posters can join, and there always seems to be some on the go. (There used to be the nobdies, the wavers, and the thread killers, there's currently the night owls and the ninjas, off the top of my head. There's also more specific ones like the stately homes, the brave babes, and the feminist pub.)

I don't think there is some kind of culture of deliberate exclusion on MN. The site is far too big for that, these days, anyway.

[BalloonSlayer]

I hardly ever look to see who has started a thread.

I just respond if I feel like I have something to add.

I was once on a thread where I revealed something that had happened to me in order to reassure the poster she was not alone. I was new here at the time and so it was the first time I had bared these particular emotions; I wasn't sure it was the best idea for me but as I thought it might help the v sad poster I gritted my teeth and posted.

She completely ignored my post and the thread immediately turned to chatting to one of her MN mates who had turned up on it. I was ever so upset and asked MNHQ to delete my post because I was buggered if I was going to lay bare my past for no reason. They did delete it - not sure they would these days! Taught me a lesson though . . .

[ThumbWitchesAbroad]

I hope that the thread you posted on wasn't an old school Threadkillers' thread, Nutty! About 4 or 5 years ago or so? Hope not anyway because, as a regular, I would be very sorry if you were accidentally ignored. :(

I used to be a regular Threadkiller and still am sometimes, because I used to post very late at night in the UK, and now I'm in Australia, I post when everyone else is asleep. So I regularly have "dead threads" in my TIO, often because people don't come back to them, or because they've fallen out of Active by the time everyone else wakes up.

But I have been ignored on other threads where lots of regular posters are having a chat with people they "know" - hence the old term "quiche" (misnamed for clique) thread - never sure if it's because they're not interested in what I've posted, or they've just not noticed it among all the regular posters, or they just don't know what to say to a newbie!

Does suck a bit though.

[acasualobserver]

There is definitely some fairly icky sucking up to certain posters whose contributions are always acknowledged by plenty of . Their posts are often no more brilliant than plenty of others that precede them and which are completely ignored.

[ButteredToastAndStrawberryJam]

To be a well known by many on this vast site must mean they spend most of their life posting on here, Which I find quite sad really.

[Playduh]

If you want to start a thread that absolutely will not be ignored, stick up a photo of a random plant in your garden and ask the gardeners thread what it is.

Not only do they reply in minutes, they're always right. Seriously, MN should monetise it some how, it's amazing.

And it reassures me that my posts are not completely invisible

waits to be ignored

[ButteredToastAndStrawberryJam]

There's a clique on here which I avoid, same as in real life.

[Playduh]

But there's so many of us, we can talk round the clique surely?

[ButteredToastAndStrawberryJam]

Playduh I agree.

[ButteredToastAndStrawberryJam]

• sometimes it means avoiding or leaving a thread. There are so many threads to choose from though which is great.

[FayKorgasm]

That happens to me a lot Sanity . Or someone reposts what I've written and that person gets told how funny/wise/insightful they are.
The only time I posted something of interest (out of shock/ horror /fear and was very identifying so had it pulled. Just wasn't thinking clearly) I was accused of trolling, asked was it a soap plot and contacted by a journo who wanted to help me () . Lots of very helpful posters who I am eternally grateful to did post helpful replies.

[Sparklingbrook]

Hide thread is a great function. Should be used more.

[ButteredToastAndStrawberryJam]

The fawning is pretty nauseating.

[StorminaBcup]

I used to get a bit upset if my hilarious posts were ignored and a bit miffed if my ever so insightful advice was passed over for the exact same comment further down the thread. It just makes me laugh now! I always have to resist following it up with a tumbleweed comment though.

The ninja threads are great - it's a prerequisite that you have to be ignored everywhere else and you absolutely can't kill the thread unless yours is the last comment posted and then you win.

[ButteredToastAndStrawberryJam]

Hide thread is a great function. Should be used more. Why, so the clique can get on with things without being bothered by others.

[Playduh]

Stormin- YY. I sometimes type stuff up imagining that I'm a comedian in an empty club, whilst next door people are going mad for the grand opening of an IKEA.

Maybe we should have massively fawning thread where you get to write your funniest lines and then the next poster has to admire them before adding theirs. Some days my ego just needs it.

[Sparklingbrook]

Because hiding a thread is sometimes the best thing to do Buttered.

[HerRoyalFattyness]

nutty I'm pretty sure I remember you posting on the ninja thread. I said hello to you so you definitely wasn't ignored!

[nuttymango]

HerRoyal oh, that wasn't the ninja thread I was ignored on :)

[Foslady]

Playduh - love your post, you have summed my view up perfectly!!!

[longdiling]

I agree with arf, this isn't like a normal conversation. I only make an effort to acknowledge and reply to everyone when I'm the op and people are clearly responding to me personally.

[HerRoyalFattyness]

Oh that's OK then. Pretty sure I've said hi to you before though.

I'll say it again. Hello. How are you?

[Roussette]

I've been all but ignored (or flying under the radar as I like to call it) for ten years on here and TBH on reflection I think that's a good thing. No one can pigeonhole me, no one can think "oh there goes that Roussette the cow, I don't like her" and it means I can post what I want when I want. I'm pretty invisible to most people.

It is veeeeerrrrrry annoying though when I give good advice and it gets ignored and a few posts on, someone else says the same and everyone fawns over their brilliant advice. Once or twice in the past, I've said "oh I did say that a few posts up" but then that gets ignored too! Good job I'm not paranoid!

So all in all, I'm pretty ineffectual but I don't care.

The only time I ever bond with anyone is on rubbish TV threads as we all have a laugh on there and recognise each other. Apart from that I'm just a little minnow swimming around