Baby nephew announced on Facebook

[Peach16]

Hi all, we have just found out my sister and BIL have had their baby, they told both sets of parents but not siblings, baby had only been born an hour and one of BILs colleagues has posted a message congratulating them, we've seen the Facebook post before we got the message from my mum telling us the baby had been born, AIBU for being upset? I haven't told my sister I've seen the post as don't want to spoil their special moment but I'm still hurt that this has happened, I know it's the colleagues fault for announcing but am annoyed with BIL for telling a colleague before making sure all family know! WWYD? X

Long live King Whooo

My SIL did this to us. I had to have an emergency section under general anaesthetic with DS1. We were both quite poorly afterwards and SIL took it upon herself to post an announcement on Facebook, along with the picture of DS1 that DH had sent her, before I had even seen him. I was still out cold. So everyone we knew saw him before me and I then had to deal with a bunch of my upset relatives that we hadn't told them before it appeared online. DH and I were fuming. She has since built up a nice catalogue of overstepping the mark in relation to my children.

*because we hadn't told them, not that we hadn't told them.

BigW that's awful, I'd be cross in your shoes too, that's way overstepping the mark!
AhAgain, I don't think that's a problem as it was yours and husbands news to share you can do with it what you like, I know new parents have other things to be thinking about, it wasn't really about me not finding out directly from them, it was the fact a random work colleague really shouldn't have been the one to post it online within an hour of the birth before grandparents had managed to even ring round all the relatives to inform them, it overstepped the mark and wasn't his place to put the message up congratulating them.

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3680397/Furious-aunt-moans-nephew-s-birth-announced-Facebook.html

Did you mean to be famous, Peach

what 6 is going on int he DM?? that's at least 3 mumsnet based "articles" in the last few days

Oh no........... not the Daily Mail again.

"National Newspaper oversteps the mark by publishing article about overstepping the mark"

FFS

Glad to see my ploy of having a sweary name means I don't get quoted or screen shotted in the DM.

My husband and I removed access to post on our walls for this very reason as it happened to a friend of mine.

Facebook is one of the scourges of our age and I would never have an account.

Welcome to the bold new world where Facebook knows first.

Might be wise to remove to remove this whole post. I know the family.

I am with you on this! I found out my sister was in labour on fb and I did moan and they did apologise and could see why we were all upset. I have had 4 babies and told family first before Facebook!

whothefuckis it didn't work for randyMagnum!

when my brother had his baby, he called to tell me which was fine but I found out her name on facebook when he posted it the next day. I was quite upset about this.

Personally I think YANBU. When I had DD, DH and I made sure that our parents knew and were going to tell our siblings straight away before we announced it to friends, and put the FB announcement up the next day when we were more with it. I know my sister would have been incredibly upset if she had found out through FB and I would have felt bad for her!

No one has announced anything "for us" on FB but I have had several friends who have had pregnancies/birth/engagement congratulations posted before they could share the news themselves, none of them were pleased about it. I don't understand why people feel the need to do that and I think I'd be pissed off too if it happened to me.

I'd be a bit miffed yes but to say anything is unreasonable. It's not about you. And she's just had baby, give her a break.

When I had ds we rang everyone and told them. But I then posted the name on Facebook. We live in the States bit all my family and friends are in the UK and there's a LOT of them (11 siblings alone!) Phoning each one isn't possible so we announced the name on FB.

Forgetting that dh's sister doesn't have Facebook. (She heard at the same time from his parents.) We had dh's parents ring up THREE FUCKING HOURS after I'd given birth demanding we call her and apologise and how I'd hurt her feelings at this special time.

Some people are idiots with Facebook, saw a message recently, congratulating a friend of mine on their pregnancy, even though neither of the couple had mentioned it at all on facebook - so obviously were not ready to share their news with the entire Facebook world.

Just PM already!!!

There are a certain amount of idiots around who like to be first with any news or gossip, they are quite thoughtless by nature I guess.

YANBU. Pre Facebook, my sister had a baby girl, I knew she was in labour, I thought for days. Found out through a friend my niece was 2 days old. I had stayed in waiting for the phone call. My relationship with my sister hasn't quite been the same. I told people that my children had been born in order of importance in my life. My parents, sisters, friends, etc so I suppose I felt less important to her as my son was minutes old when she knew and she didn't ever bother to tell me herself that my niece was here x

Spot on

i dont think yabu at all

if i found out my sister had her baby via fb id go postal esp from some dumb colleague

why are people saying its up them how to announce it

they didnt!