texting early morning/late at night

[fizzingmum]

AIBU to think that unless it is an emergency there is no need to text or message someone early in the morning? I have a couple of friends who for different reasons are both early risers and will think nothing of messaging at 6am onwards. I have two DC and we have a very good morning routine meaning that we don't need to be up until 7.30, but I will often be woken early as they are up and have something to say, which could always wait. I've mentioned it to both friends and the response ive received has been that I should turn my phone off if I don't want to be contacted. I don't see why they can't respect my request to keep
To more sociable hours. I need my phone on for actual emergencies. My children may be with their Dad and need me, or my Dad might need me. But getting a picture of my friends son enjoying a party from the weekend at 6am in a Monday morning just maddens me! I think that before 9am and after 9pm it is rude to text. I'm also 35 weeks pregnant so will be needing to get sleep when I can. How do I tell them to stop
This shit!

Thanks nocabbage!

I cannot believe people are so self absorbed that they think they can send a text at a stupid hour about something that is not an emergency and think that is totally reasonable.

The actual thought that it is the fault of the sleeping person because they have not set their phone to "DND" is ridiculous.

You expect calls and texts in the middle of the night and very early morning to be an emergency, you get woke up in a panic thinking something has happened.

You should not be expected to put you phone on silent all night in case someone thinks it's more convenient to them to text then.

Some people have family with lifeline alarms for example, they can't turn their phones off, not everyone has a landline now. Many other reasons.

Just because it's convenient to you doesn't mean that it's convenient to others.

Have consideration.

Well said, cat loony!

If you can't be arsed to learn how to use your phone properly, then you can't complain if it disturbs you when you don't want to be disturbed.

I am not going to keep a note of all my friends' preferences of when it is convenient for me to message them, my friends are perfectly capable of managing their own phones.

OP if you tell us what kind of phone you have I'm sure someone will be able to tell you how to put it on do not disturb while still getting calls from your dad/DDs/other important people

But Anecdotal, do you limit you texting to urgent messages or do you blurt whatever springs to mind?

It seems to me that e-mail is the better choice for UNsolicited, NONurgent thoughts, images or information.

No texting past 8pm? I don't think i'd ever leave the house!
My friends and i are never bothered if we text early in the morning though, we put texts on silent.
Maybe the reason your friend text you her child eating something for the first time because she wanted to share the moment with you?

WanderingStar your phone alarm will still go off if on silent. Most people must know this.

It is absolutely normal for me to wake up to 5-100(at points) whatsapp messages/Facebook messages/texts. None of which have woken me.

It's YOUR phone, it's your responsibility to ensure it fits around your life.

It is so easy to set it to automatically not give you notifications during set hours (and those hours can be different every day if you want), but have some contacts marked so the notifications still come through regardless of the time. It all happens without you having to do anything.

So a one-off 5 minutes of effort to set it up and the problem is completely solved vs constant whining about friends sending messages and waking you up.

I have email notifications on my phone. Would it be ok for me to rant about people sending emails at all hours because it was disturbing me, or would you tell me to turn the notifications off when I didn't want to be disturbed?
I have Whatsapp group notifications for family who live overseas - should they only send messages during the hours that suit me?
What is the difference?

OMG, third world problems! You asked a question and on the whole people think you're being unreasonable..like it or not! You have choices, but you don't want to take them. You can't control other people, ie: your friends annoying behaviour, you can only change yours. If you don't want to (take the options several others have mentioned) then you need to build a bridge and get over it!! Or if this is a deal breaker, block or delete them. There's the options. You've asked nicely and it is clear they are ignoring you, so you decide what option to take.

First world problems

I think I am a rare breed in that my mobile phone is switched off once I get in from work. Family and friends know the landline number and can get me that way if an emergency. Anything else can wait.

sam but op believes she is not bu at all, no matter what anybody says

I think I'd just stop texting the OP full stop.

Personally I think yanbu. I was raised with actual manners which dictates that unless it's important you don't text someone between 8pm and 8am, and if it's not urgent then not between 11pm and 7am.

LOL@ actual manners

So you don't have manners if ou text between 8am-8pm? That's brilliant

Gosh there are some actual self important people on this thread aren't there

OP - why won't you employ any of the various solutions that people on here have recommended?

Deadbored - I'm quite bored now. I said in my very first response I didn't realise I could employ these functions on my phone and that I would look into it. Not once have I said that I won't employ them. I do however think I shouldn't have to. Example just today I left my whatsap on as my bff has a very poorly baby in hospital. Awaiting lumber puncture results and I said I would be there for her anytime of day or night. Previously mentioned friend messages and woke both me and my friend at 4.30am to say "thinking of you". Surely a heavily pregnant woman and a woman in hospital with her baby can expect to leave their phones on without fear of being woke at 4.30am. Anyway as I said it is boring me now. Maybe next time read the full thread before jumping to conclusions!

How bloody long does it take you to "look into" the do not disturb function op. Just do it (or turn the phone on silent) and stop moaning that your friends actually care about you. You are really coming across as a bit of a princess now

Good Lord

What a terrible friend to text the friend in hospital to say she was thinking of her.