texting early morning/late at night

[fizzingmum]

AIBU to think that unless it is an emergency there is no need to text or message someone early in the morning? I have a couple of friends who for different reasons are both early risers and will think nothing of messaging at 6am onwards. I have two DC and we have a very good morning routine meaning that we don't need to be up until 7.30, but I will often be woken early as they are up and have something to say, which could always wait. I've mentioned it to both friends and the response ive received has been that I should turn my phone off if I don't want to be contacted. I don't see why they can't respect my request to keep
To more sociable hours. I need my phone on for actual emergencies. My children may be with their Dad and need me, or my Dad might need me. But getting a picture of my friends son enjoying a party from the weekend at 6am in a Monday morning just maddens me! I think that before 9am and after 9pm it is rude to text. I'm also 35 weeks pregnant so will be needing to get sleep when I can. How do I tell them to stop
This shit!

Another vote for YABU.

At the risk of repeating points already made :) :

Text messaging, like emailing or sending postcards, is asynchronous communication. You can send the message when it's convenient to you, and the recipient can read/deal with it when it's convenient to them. Messages are not guaranteed to be delivered in a timely fashion, in order, or indeed at all.

If you want to be alerted to incoming messages, you can choose to so be. Or not, if you don't. Your device. Your job to set it up how you want it to work.

Anyone trying to break the beautiful simplicity of this communications method by shifting the responsibility for notifications to the sender is being unreasonable.

If you really don't know how your phone works, I guess it's OK to ask the sender to modify their behaviour. But they are not required to do so, and the more insistent you are, the more likely they are to ignore your demands.

Unreasonable: "Please don't send me letters which will arrive on a Saturday as I like to lie in and the dog barks when the post arrives if we haven't bothered putting him in the kitchen overnight"

Unreasonable: "Dear BBC, please hold off from breaking any news stories after 9pm as it makes my iPad play the BBC News theme and it makes me jump"

Unreasonable: "Please don't @mention me on any posts you make on Facebook this afternoon because I'll be driving and I don't want the notification to distract me"

OP - I know you said that. But it has been a week. If you'd replied way back when, "oh! Didn't know I could do that. Problem solved - thanks all!" then we'd all get the message.

Instead you continue to impart stories of how simply awful your friends are, instead of accepting that you can't control their actions and protecting yourself from them. The only conclusion that I (and 99% of other posters on this thread) have come to, is that you quite enjoy bitching about your friends and how miserable they make you.

You shouldn't have to change for them? They could say the same about you. They clearly don't have the headspace to remember your schedule. They are writing to you when it is convenient to them, in an effort to keep your friendship alive.

If you put your bff as an exception you can ensure that her messages get through but unwanted ones don't disturb you.
You said you were going to look into the functionality but all you've done is continued to complain.