texting early morning/late at night

[fizzingmum]

AIBU to think that unless it is an emergency there is no need to text or message someone early in the morning? I have a couple of friends who for different reasons are both early risers and will think nothing of messaging at 6am onwards. I have two DC and we have a very good morning routine meaning that we don't need to be up until 7.30, but I will often be woken early as they are up and have something to say, which could always wait. I've mentioned it to both friends and the response ive received has been that I should turn my phone off if I don't want to be contacted. I don't see why they can't respect my request to keep
To more sociable hours. I need my phone on for actual emergencies. My children may be with their Dad and need me, or my Dad might need me. But getting a picture of my friends son enjoying a party from the weekend at 6am in a Monday morning just maddens me! I think that before 9am and after 9pm it is rude to text. I'm also 35 weeks pregnant so will be needing to get sleep when I can. How do I tell them to stop
This shit!

YABU. Put your phone on silent

And I just put my phone on airplane mode overnight which I find works as I've quite a few friends in the Southern Hemisphere who text at night - I need it on for a nightlight app for feeding baby.

I have my phone on silent and no vibrate. Some of my brownie team work away and may not get to text until after 11. I'm in bed then so I can pick their text up in the morning. I start work at 8.15am so texting after then isn't realistic as we don't have our phones in the floor and I can only text during my lunch because we have our phones locked in the safe until then. My mum can get grumpy that I don't reply during the afternoon but once again my phone is away in the safe!

thunder Rubbish. If something is urgent you call .
If something is not urgent you text. The beauty of texts is they can be sent at the convenience of the sender, but read at the convenience of the receiver.

If it doesn't matter whether or not she sees the message then it didn't need to be sent at all.

If my communications with friends involved only important messages that were needed, they would be rather quiet and joyless relationships.

You can set phones to "do not disturb". Programme the contacts you want to be able to contact you to your favourites and then your phone will be silent except for texts and calls from those contacts. ??
Otherwise YANBU. If they know you'll be asleep why message? They wouldn't call and that's the same surely?

Spider you can customise your do not disturb hours. So you could have it from say 11pm-7am and at 7am it would automatically turn off do not disturb

Just turn off any notification/tone to messages but not calls, it's not rocket science!!!!

People send texts when its relevant. Or when They think of something.
Ditto facebook twitter etc.
They don't expect to to look at it or reply till it's convenient to you.
If it was important theyd phone.

If you must have the phone by the bed, put all tones but actual calls to silent.

Out of interest, Do you have a landline?

My phone lives in the kitchen at night. It is afterall a mini computer doing its job of updating itself all night long.
Any important calls or middle of night emergencies and my family would call the landline as would I to them. If I send a text I don't expect a fast response.

OP - CANCEL THE CHEQUE

Also you cant expect your friends to know your personal no texting cutoff times. By that logic we'd have to remember everybodys !!!!

Shush is quite a good app for temporary silent mode

Can't expect them to know - SHE TOLD THEM!!!!!!

Look op, whether they are U or not for texting when you've asked them not to (they are) you ABU to moan about it when you have solutions.

It's like being annoyed it's raining because you might get wet but not putting up your umbrella.

I don't think anyone on here is saying that expecting OP to be up at 6am is unreasonable, just that if she is the one annoyed by the texts, she needs to do something about it.

Whinging about it when there's a perfectly simple solution is a bit ridiculous, really.

If I don't want to disturb someone I will text them, under the assumption that normal people have their phone switched off or on silent if they don't want to be disturbed.

I agree with OP - you have asked them to respect no early morning texts and they are ignoring you. I set my iPhone so no texts beep between 11 pm- 7 am, except family members. Do the same x

If I don't want to disturb someone I will text them, under the assumption that normal people have their phone switched off or on silent if they don't want to be disturbed.

Yes, quite!

The more I ask the more they seem to ignore it

Funny, that.

I'm late to the thread.

and will think nothing of messaging at 6am onwards.
Don't need to know at 6am that your child ate his first fish finger last week

Do they really bother you with this nonsense, they're tits!, Who sends such banal chat?

If they have ignored your requests for non texting you really have no choice but to adjust your phone to stop them getting through.

I'm with you OP, those who suggest it's you being unreasonable are stark bollock mad.

DanceFloor, the relative in question threatened to turn up on the doorstep because I couldn't reply.

This infuriates me so much, YABU, text and email are sent when convenient and its your responsibility not to be disturbed if you don't want to be

YABVVU.

Just change your settings or turn your phone off.

icklekid at the time it was the perfect boiled eggs. High maintenance because if I'd forgotten about them they'd have been hard. No good for DC who like dippy eggs and soldiers.

I was brought up that you do not call before 8am unless someone is dead or dying and not after 9pm ditto. Up to 2130 if it's urgent. My now DH used to call later and worry my parents! I'm of the opinion that texting or fb messaging has the same rules.