texting early morning/late at night

[fizzingmum]

AIBU to think that unless it is an emergency there is no need to text or message someone early in the morning? I have a couple of friends who for different reasons are both early risers and will think nothing of messaging at 6am onwards. I have two DC and we have a very good morning routine meaning that we don't need to be up until 7.30, but I will often be woken early as they are up and have something to say, which could always wait. I've mentioned it to both friends and the response ive received has been that I should turn my phone off if I don't want to be contacted. I don't see why they can't respect my request to keep
To more sociable hours. I need my phone on for actual emergencies. My children may be with their Dad and need me, or my Dad might need me. But getting a picture of my friends son enjoying a party from the weekend at 6am in a Monday morning just maddens me! I think that before 9am and after 9pm it is rude to text. I'm also 35 weeks pregnant so will be needing to get sleep when I can. How do I tell them to stop
This shit!

Get a new phone.
Give number to emergency people.
Switch old phone off over night.

Yep YABU. Use the DND or phone on silent, whichever best for you!

I can only catch up on texts at certain times of day when I have a minute to do so. I can't possibly think about whether the other person is going to be ok to receive it. They can look and consider it at their convenience IMO. If I need them urgently I would ring!

So several people told you the perfect solution but you chose not to implement it and now you're annoyed again. OK

35 weeks pregnant ? well very soon you will be keeping your own early hours...use it to reply to texts...I reckon a few 2am/3am texts will have people seeing your point of view

I think it's rude that your friends keep doing this even when you've asked them not to. It would fuck me right off as well. If a friend of mine told me I was regularly waking them up with my inane pointless text messages at unsociable hours I'd be mortified.

Personally I don't have space in my brain to remember to constantly re-jig my phone settings any time I want a bit of peace.

Oh and I wish people would stopping twatting on about DND or getting a new phone...not everyone can do that

What a bizarre thing to get worked up about. My phone is set to bedtime mode automatically from 10-7. It's a non issue.

If there wasn't a technological solution then I would agree with you OP, but there is. You can solve this very easily by using do not disturb and favourites. So YABU not to do that.

My mantra is My phone is my servant - I am not its slave

That said refusing to set your phone up correctly is unreasonable. If you don't know how to set that particular function then wander into your local phone shop for help (or ask one of your texting friends I bet they know how to do it )

See I wouldn't text at 6 but might text at 7, having been up since 6 and not thinking other people might still be asleep 😳 If asked I would stop but that would mean I would probably text you less

On my windows phone you can have quiet hours but allow breakthrough numbers

Turn off your text notifications. Problem solved!

I 100% agree with you especially if you've asked the friends to stop texting at the crack of dawn. I had a friend who was the very same.. Regular texts at 6.30am on Saturdays/Sunday's. I asked her repeatedly to stop, she didn't. So I started texting her when I finished work at a nightclub.. So at 3am I'd send 5 whatsapp pictures of whatever so she got five pings. We're not friends anymore.

Ah but the OP has already said she's too busy in the mornings to turn it back on if she blocks texts overnight

Do you need help on finding the volume settings op?
On my Samsung Galaxy it is on the pull down menu, click the gear wheel, settings, then My Device, then Sounds and Notifications. You will then be able to slide the volume to mute under Notifications. Hope that helps.

I really don't get why the op is getting such a hard time over this. Being a cow to ger friends? Controlling? Really?,

So we all just text freely whenever we feel like it, despite being asked not to as it is disturbing sleep. Why does the need to write pointless messages trump the need to sleep? And before people say change the settings, not everyone's phone can do this. Particularly older phones.
I have a friend who often texts at 6am and who posts on FB at that time and tags me in. It's no problem as I keep my phone on silent at night anyway. The one time I was awake at 7am on a Saturday I sent her a text and she posted on fb saying she was having a lie in and I had disturbed her. She actually tagged me to illustrate her point. Now that IS weird.

Op I think yanbu

I agree that there are ways to block your phone but also your friends sound incredibly unsympathetic and somewhat immature if they are really sending texts about their child eating a fish finger . Are they such good friend that you really have to have them in your life - I would just block them completely.

YABU. Unless your friends are all psychics, how would they know you don't put your phone on silent at night, like most people??

I'm with you op yanbu, no way would I text or ring anyone at stupid o'clock for no reason, I wouldn't text someone about my child eating a fecking fish finger at any time or the day or night, how annoying

Fgs stop being so bloody Mumsnet!

Of course it is unreasonable to send non emergency messages outside if sociable times (I'd say 8-10 myself). 6am is clearly rude. Like they can't possibly wait to tell you their dc did something fabulous or their cat ate the dogs toe (or whatever other shite).

Op yanbu, they are rude but they're not going to change by the sound of it.

I don't put my phone on silent at night for various reasons, and also don't want the palaver of remembering to change it back in the morning etc.
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Have had friends that I have had to have this conversation with, and it is most annoying. Just because you are up at the crack of dawn doesn't mean everyone else's day has begun. I'm very much a night owl and wouldn't dream of texting someone at 3am just because it suits me. and just at the idea that there is never an unreasonable time to text someone.

I'm agog that so many on here are calling you unreasonable OP. To put it into context, if you were here saying that a boyfriend was overstepping the boundaries in contacting you when you had specifically asked them not to, been very clear with them and they were still ignoring your requests, the whole thread would be filled with YANBUs and LTBs. If he can't respect your boundaries then what is next...blah blah blah.
OP has said that she has asked them politely not to text at that time, why should friends not be allowed to ask such a simple request.

And if I got a picture of someone else's kid eating his first fish finger at that time in the morning I would be fucking apoplectic

But this is mumsnet...

I agree it's unreasonable to phone at unsociable hours, but texts and emails are different because they can wait! So you can send them when it suits you, and read them when it suits you. That's the point of them.

What a bizarre thread. Texts at 6am = unreasonable. Yes settings can be changed on phones these days but that may not solve things on all phones. If someone asked me to stop doing it, I would! (And I can sympathize OP -I have a lovely friend who thinks nothing of a 530am Saturday morning text).