To think my husband is a complete c***?

[Whatiswrongwithmykid]

He had a work lunch today. He has said all along that it's a lunch so therefore he will be back this evening. We have kids including a non sleeping baby. He has already been out the past 2 nights. He knows I'm exhausted and at the end of my tether.

I dumped the baby on him at 6.30 am this morning as I just couldn't take it any longer and needed sleep. I told him before he left that I needed him home tonight.

You can guess where this is going can't you! I text him at 5.30 to see if he was finished. He eventually replied an hour later to say he needed " a pass" but wouldn't be too late. Not heard a word since. I'm fuming! I have no help at all, except him. So I've not had a break or any help with the kids since Tuesday night. I'm shattered and I face another night of being up every hour.

Well said Misnomer

Dreams me = done it myself

Sally - how do you expect women to,realise some men are rubbish fathers BEFORE the babies are born?

Well at the very least he's got no respect for you has he? I can't imagine that feels very nice.

If ring him now. I'd ring his mother tell her to phone him saying it's urgent. I'd phone any friends he was with if I had their number. If post loudly on Facebook on his wall saying I needed to speak to him quickly. I'd use Find My Phone on his computer if I could, even if his phone is silenced it would ring out loud.

And then, when he rant I would bollock the fuck out of him and tell him to come home right now. And then I would bollock him some more, make him drink water and send him to bed with paracetamol to tame any hangover.

I would absolutely do all that. He is treating you like shit.

Good point Goingtobe - I guess it just makes me extra glad to be child free.

Aye, YANBU.

YANBU

It was a lunchtime awards do and he is about to leave his job, so no it's not necessary for him to still be there at home 8.

The other 2 nights were parties held by contracting firms that do work for the company he currently works for. No real reason why he had to go or couldn't just have showed his face and come home.

as a single parent of three children two are hideous sleepers i can honestly say its easier alone as you have no expectation of help from anyone yes im fortunate to have a 16 year old but the amount of time i spend hassling her into doing her own chores? i might as well do them myself

i have low expectations co-sleep use Netflix as i can snooze and smack the x button from time to time while it just plays kidshit tv to keep my early riser quiet after ive been up all night with my night owl the one thing i can get my teen to do is move her youngest brother to bed if we fall asleep together because i do try and enforce a bed each rule its just they prefer mine

i would not expect to live like this if i had a partner

Glogirl I think op would make a fool of herself doing that!

Op he is a cunt. Leave the kids with him tomorrow.

Before we bandy around the 'C' word - some people don't have the depth or warmth to be a cunt.

I'm with GloGirl. I would be using every method at my disposal to make his life a living hell. And then I would be leaving him with the kids all weekend and going somewhere with my phone off, or at least on silent.

I'm on maternity leave with a young baby... I'm not a sahm. Not that it should matter!

OP, sending huge sympathies. I have a non sleeping grumpy baby and a DH who works long hours. Last week he was barely around because of work. It's not usually that bad but just bad luck with diary commitments. I was losing my mind (in face I posted on mn about how useless he was being). We talked, he took the next day off work and took the baby all day. I had my nails done, had lunch with a friend, spent time with DD1, had a bath, read a book.

This is how it should be! Make it clear to him that this is what you want.

Peach, this is not he fucking 1950s, get a grip.

When he gets in, sit him down and say you are feeling worn out and he let you down. Make sure you get him to take the children tomorrow - even if the baby is bf, they can be carried around in a sling between feeds. Just be straight with him, he's been thoughtless so tell him.

Well aren't you a peach peach pudding.

OP he is a cunt and a giant wanker bastard responsibility dodging fucking man child. I don't know what to suggest because whatever you say or do won't change that fact.

Yep, cunt.

I'd hand him the baby at 5 or 6am tomorrow. For the whole day. And night.

Pearlman I am in favour of brexit, am upset that some mothers have it so much easier than me but still complain. Unless she has a full time job I have no sympathy.

Nob. Utter nob.

He already knows I'm worn out. I told him I was on the verge of snapping. He isn't being thoughtless he is just being a selfish dick.
He did just text to say he had met up with his soon to be new colleagues so would just " take the beating on this one". So clearly he thinks it's a joke.