AIBU to be annoyed when people ask where I'm REALLY from?

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I'm of mixed heritage, my dad is iranian and my mum is english but my dad moved here as a student in the 1960s and kind of turned his back on his home country, so I've never really felt Iranian myself.

However I got all his genes as I look quite dark and nothing like my english mum.

People will sometimes ask 'where are you from' and I usually reply 'stockport' but no, that's not what they mean what they really mean is 'from what country do you get your appearance' so they will say 'no where are you really from'

And it annoys the feck out of me.

Why can't I just be from Stockport, as I just told them? I AM from stockport, I was born there, my mum was born there. OK my dad wasn't but they didn't ask where my dad was from, they asked where I was from.

And if I say no, really from Stockport then I come across as arsey. But I don't see why I should have to start explaining my genetic heritage to a stranger. Then I have to explain that, no, i'm not iranian even though my dad is and no I have never been there and no I don't speak the language.

AIBU to think it is rude for people to ask me this? And then insist on a different response to the one initially given?

I think I've said before, I had a member of my team from South Africa and she was asked often where she was really from.

She said in America people were very rude and aggressive when she wouldn't go into her family history for them.

My mother used to get dirty looks because I had afro type hair. Both my parents are white. I used to get uncalled for racial abuse. I was bullied. People can be so ignorant and quick to judge. These type of people need to fuck off and get educated in genetics & Genetic throw backs.

Urgh, this was a zombie thread for a reason

People are so strange. My mum's from Canada, so I have dual nationality. I've lost count of the number of times people have said they can hear the accent. What accent? My mum moved here (England) when she was 8. I've always lived here.

It's incredibly rude to ask 'where are you really from?' based on someone's appearance and is basically racist. They wouldn't be asking if you were light skinned, even if you had a much more mixed cultural background eg 1/4 each Russian, Italian, Swedish & Icelandic, but had been born in Stockport.

An 'oooh you're not from round these parts' based on an accent is different because it's not specific to skin colour - you'd as easily say it to a white Scot in Yorkshire and is indicative of where someone actually grew up rather than where their ancestry originates.

Yanbu

Someone posted a YouTube link the other day about micro aggressions, compared to mosquito bites, which would be fitting to post here if I could find the link.

It is Othering and I dislike it and judge people who ask me this as either irritatingly ignorant or offensively racist.

I used to get uncalled for racial abuse.

Is there a called for kind?