To be angry/upset about FB 'congrats'

[44PumpLane]

I know in the grand scheme of life it's not a big deal, and if this is the biggest thing in life I have to worry about I'm hugely fortunate.

However, I'm upset and angry that when I popped on FB last night, two acquaintances had posted their congratulations on my pregnancy!

My husband and I only use our FB pages to keep up with friends and family around the country/world. We don't have relationship statuses on there, we don't post lots of pictures of our lives- we are in the process of telling the people we want to know that we are pregnant but we were never intending to put it on FB.

An old family friend and the mother of a friend posted last night- luckily near midnight so very few people would have seen. I've shut down my FB account for the time being- but who does that?!? I mean really?!? There is literally nothing on the page insinuating anything is going on in my life- if you truly want to congratulate me them PM me!

I feel so angry and upset to think some family who we've not yet told may see it. Plus it's our bloody news to tell!!! Grrr!

Sorry just needed to rant!

Twinkleheth - am appalled for you. for you, and sorry for your loss. :(

My husbands cousin was with their grandad when he died in hospital and posted on Facebook less than half an hour later about it. My husband was asleep at the time, phone on silent so missed calls. He started work at 6am and felt it was too early to call people back, not knowing what had happened. He went on Facebook while waiting to start work and found out about his grandad, he was gutted.

When his mum died her friends wrote on her Facebook before a lot of her family knew.

My bloody sister did this to me. Could have killed her. We had ONLY told family and she goes and posts it on FB..... I deleted it straight away, she was quite miffed about it.

I hadn't thought of suspending FB before I make other major announcements. Good idea... especially as I only go on once a blue moon so wouldn't likely see any messages on there.

I personally would not post a congratulations directly to someone's wall. I'd wait for them to make a post about it and then comment on that post. Obviously if they were a good friend/family member I'd just congratulate in person I think the best thing to do really is to say "hey, we have this news but please don't tell ANYONE, we want to break the news ourselves". There are a lot of people in the world (such as myself and it seems like you too) who wouldn't just go around blabbing someone else's news anyway, but some people just get too excited/blurt it out and don't really think about it. If you specifically say "we want to tell everyone, please don't do it yourself" then they'll probably (hopefully) think about it a bit more and won't be as likely to just blurt it out in excitement. Congrats, and best wishes

I do find it odd that they would find out, and post on FB before you've even said anything on facebook about it yourself! Presumably they have your number?! I would be a bit miffed about this to be fair.
I also agree with what some others have said, they may not realise it is so public, I often have distant relatives newer to facebook posting more private stuff on my wall.
I was like this with my wedding, but I just made it clear before my wedding that I didn't want photos going up. Some may like it some don't, but people probably will unless you tell them not too.

I am very early pregnant, only a handful of people know, my friend has already said she can't wait to post 'after keeping it a secret so long I can now talk about it!' To which I have had to say to her please do not to 1. because we might not actually 'announce' anything and 2. others who weren't told might be upset by it.