To find this persons assistance a little sexist?

[rachelmonday1]

This may seem a little confusing, but I'm a crossdresser and am perfectly happy doing the day to day things that people do, whether wearing male or female clothes. This morning though, I went into my local B&Q to buy some paint brushes, masking tape etc for a decorating project that we're about to start. I was comparing paint brushes, when a male assistant approached me saying something like "Are you ok there love? Do you know what you're looking for" I was slightly taken aback, not because I think that he assumed I was a woman, but more about the way he asked his questions. Are women not supposed to know anything about paint brushes, or is it me?

MNHQ unless the deleted posts are personal attacks on other posters I think I'd prefer to see the nonsense being posted. The deleted reply to Bertrand was nonsense.

MRA... can someone remind me?

Ta

Oh dear. What has my original question turned into? :(

LassWiTheDelicateAir Thankyou :)

OK... [steps away from the screen]

Rachel... my last comment was to the now deleted post above yours... without it I seem to be snarking at you

Don't worry rachel, we're used to little boys coming on here to abuse women. It helps them get their rocks off. Think of it as a bit more of an insight to what women have to deal with on a regular basis.

OurBlanche MRA=Men's rights activist.

Irrelevant to this thread although it seems to have been hijacked by one, through no fault of the OP's

To go back to the OP, I hate strangers in shops etc calling me 'love'.
Feel it's patronising, sexist and possibly ageist too. I tend to bristle inside but (usually, when feeling tolerant) remind myself that's just their way of speaking.
I don't think it's the same as 'mate', which implies equality.

Oh and OP I don't think you have been "mansplaining"

If men want to wear fabrics that are currently considered 'female' they need to get on with it instead of trying to parody women

Well given the number of female posters who tells us they never wear makeup or jewellery or high heels or dresses not sure why your preferred style of cross dressing should be called a "parody". From the pictures you like make up and jewellery same as some but not all women.

I don't think it's the same as 'mate', which implies equality

To you it does. To me it implies male, same as guy. I suppose there's no need to use either but I'm not a man and I don't want to be called mate or guy.

Thanks Lass... I knew it was obvious, I may have worked it out if it had more relevance to the thread, and definitely not what the pillock wrote!

"What I find more ridiculous is "madam" is outrageously offensive"

Is it? Gosh- something else I've missed. I thought it was just the feminine version of "sir".

Can't stand Madam either. So archaic. Fair point, lass.

No they are just being helpful, I personally don't like when shop assistants bother me though

But then I also hate being described as a 'lady' rather than a woman, though realise not all women feel the same.

I don't like madam, it just sounds odd, connotations of Best Little Whorehouse in the West. But I doubt I'd complain. I would look though

No vocative noun needed. Just 'can I help you?' in a warm and pleasant manner

btw, v. intrigued by how the Latin in your name works, Ego. Have you elided the 'quis' and the 'sum'? Ingenious.