To find this persons assistance a little sexist?

[rachelmonday1]

This may seem a little confusing, but I'm a crossdresser and am perfectly happy doing the day to day things that people do, whether wearing male or female clothes. This morning though, I went into my local B&Q to buy some paint brushes, masking tape etc for a decorating project that we're about to start. I was comparing paint brushes, when a male assistant approached me saying something like "Are you ok there love? Do you know what you're looking for" I was slightly taken aback, not because I think that he assumed I was a woman, but more about the way he asked his questions. Are women not supposed to know anything about paint brushes, or is it me?

Aren't you a lucky little boy, user? Your mummy has let you use her computer again.

user I can only assume you are the same user+random numbers who was banned a few days ago and have come back with a new set of random numbers.

Ah! Thanks for mansplaining that.

Goady Fucker isn't rude either

Ok love

I am gender neutral so I don't mansplain or cuntsplain, it's just explaining.

You've misunderstood what gender neutral means, User.

It doesn't mean that because you feel that your ex took your balls with her when she left, then you're gender neutral. Poor wee soul.

It's not cuntfusing for me, I cuntpletely cunterstand what you're cuntsplaining.

Hahaha You're funny, User.

Oh, are we getting deleted for using cunt? Sorry if it's offended anyone, I thought we were just having a laugh

Well first of all OP , it's nice to see an AIBU poster responding so cheerfully and reasonably to posts. And the garden furniture is great !

As some one else said "Whether I'm annoyed at being called 'love' all depends on the person saying it and their tone of voice. A patronising estate agent type calling me love and talking to me as though I'm a child would definitely get my back up. A cheery shop assistant who was eager to assist probably wouldn't"

I would not have been offended by the comment. OK I agree he would not have called my (equally clueless) husband "love") but he may well have used "mate". And I've heard female shop assistants use "love" for men and women.

I did breakdown once ImperialBlether, and had to be bump-started by a guy who was actually very helpful, if a little patronising again with "keep the revs up and don't stall it on the way home as it won't start again"!

I don't really see what is patronising about that. If it had been me I'd have found it useful information.

It's also quite obvious you are talking about being a cross dresser so there is no need for this thread to get in to a trans discussion.

Can't remember who said this

Do people really call you Madam?

I'd be insulted with that. And I would walk out the shop but good grief - what an overreaction

S'OK, Fairenuff... deletions were being deliberately 'not really MNs stylee'

No- I think we are being deleted for being MRA trolls.....

"And I've heard female shop assistants use "love" for men and women"
Have you ever heard a male shop assistant use "love" for men?

"But he's a man, that's why he gets called mate and I get called love.

Not sure why mate is ok and love isn't."

i would try to explain, but I'm not in the mood for the torrent of derision that would descend on my head if I did!

No Bertrand you would get people disagreeing with you. "Mate" as far as I'm concerned is like "guys". I loathe being referred to as one of the "guys"

OP the black dress with the lace sleeves is beautiful.

I don't want to be called "mate" either. But if I had to choose between "mate" and "love" by a salesman, I'd choose the term that men use to people they consider their equals.............

Have you ever heard a male shop assistant use "love" for men?

I don't honestly know Bertrand and to be honest I don't care.

What I find more ridiculous is "madam" is outrageously offensive yet, as is seen often on FWR, "guys" is laudable.

Bertrand

Yes, I agree with that

Good for you Bertrand. I would rather be called love than mate.

^^ I meant I agreed with your post immediately under my last one, about Mansplaining