Any others who truly prefer to be alone?

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Just that. I can only completely relax when I'm totally alone and there's no prospect of anyone bothering me any time soon. I prefer my own company, and don't like watching films, TV programmes with others. I've always been like this and it doesn't bother me. It only bothers me when other people insist it's odd, and try to pressure me into being a person I'm not. I live alone and am more than happy with this; think it would kill me to have to share a space with someone else!

So, I'm just hoping to hear from others who perhaps feel the same. To reassure me that I'm not the only one

Possibly more people might choose to live alone were it not for the economic advantages of cohabiting, two can live as cheaply as one etc

I would opt for a solo living in a small dwelling over sharing a much larger place, but we all weigh the pros and cons differently don't we!

I can't tolerate ticking clocks😨
All mine have to be silent😇

As for clocks that chime😱😵

OP I'm the same
In fact I'm having a bit of an issue
I am normally away with relatives at Xmas and this year I want to shorten it or possibly even stay home - anyone who wants to drop by is more than welcome but as we're in London and only the olds have a car, only they can do it and they are quite wobbly driving these days.

but I really struggle with the few days of having to converse with others most of the day. I get bored! I need to read or watch DVDs, or draw, or be on MN!!

I like chatting to people online, you can come and go as you please.

glassgarden - I'm so happy to know I'm not the only one that can't bear ticking clocks! Once had to take the batteries out of a clock in a holiday cottage as there was no way I could get to sleep with it doing it's ticky thing.....I was upstairs and the clock was downstairs but I could HEAR IT...There's a clock on my wall here in the living room that I bought because it would suit the room (it does) but of course, it never shows the correct time as the batteries have long been removed. I'm so glad you posted about that

TooMuchMNTime - yes, chatting online with people is much better, isn't it? You don't feel quite as pressured. And you can just leave whenever you've had enough

Sadly I live with 2 constant running commentary types. Every minute has to be 'doing something'. I hide out in the loo sometims to try to get a bit of peace and quiet.

It's not just clocks, I can hear a fridge humming 2 streets away and various other mysterious low frequency noises...but that's another thread😉

I think online interaction can make a big difference to the lives of introverts, a low stress way to interact with other people😊

I am very sensitive to certain noises, I hate clocks ticking loudly but I do have one that chimes - set to the lowest volume possible so it can only be heard in that room and I'm in a tiny flat.

I don't do well with noise but in a way I sometimes think houses can be worse. I don't have a garden and sometimes I wonder if that's best - you can't control who lives next door or how they behave and the garden could be an issue!

I can also hear noises that other people can't - in my previous place I was convinced someone was doing laundry at 4am but they weren't.

Some bastard what put a fan or something on a roof somewhere near us - must be a hotel or office block - so if it's quiet I can get it whoooooooshing away and it drives me bonkers. It's worse in the winter.

I like open fire crackles.

just thought - you can put triple glazing on a house.

is triple glazing any good?

We are getting new windows soon but I like to have them open for fresh air, and in summer our flat is like a greenhouse.

original - my flat is like a greenhouse at anything above 5c. I hate the cold but it is getting annoying tbh - windows wide open to the world's noise 9 months a year.

I must look into 'white noise'. Can't that Dyson chappy invite an anti noise machine?

Invent not invite...

We have triple glazing at our house in Ireland. It is on the Atlantic coast so the winds can really howl around it but it stays snug inside. It isn't three layers of glass though, just two layers with a big gap in the middle filled with some sort of gas.

thanks Liiinoo - how is it for noise reduction?

Me!

It is pretty good. It is very rural so the only real noise is the wind and I have been caught out before because there wasn't much wind noise audible inside and then I have stepped outside and actually been blown off balance by the strength of it.

oh that must be good then!

still pondering the Xmas stuff. Hmm.

I notice the OP said about having a relationship - I've never known anyone okay with meeting up once a fortnight and tbh I've reached a stage where once every 3 months would be enough!!

Ragwort
You wrote that you hate the compromises family life brings - so glad you said that - I've felt like that for 19 years - and when I try to explain why I need space my family say " but you live / have chosen to live , in a family " I feel it's just me sometimes and I do nt fit in - so glad you said what I feel - thanks .

Yes. me.
Ive always preferred my own company.

More so as a disabled person with a disabled child, and the constant comments/judging (ive posted on a thread in AIBU about the comments).
Ive lost so-called friends because of their comments, I know who I am and how I am, and what/who I should be.

I enjoy socialing on MN (sometimes!) and just a couple of frinds in RL is all I need.

Its all peer pressure to have a million 'friends' on facebook/twitter/in RL (I don't do FB or twitter, MN is the only social media thing I do).

I can do what I like, when I like (disabilities allowing).

Heard that Joan Armatrading song the other day, 'me myself I', and thought I could have written that!

My dream Christmas would be spent in a remote cottage On. My. Own!

This thread has really made me think. The post about my family all seating reading in silence made me realise my FOI are probably inclined to be introverted.
And our cleaner has commented that sometimes me, my DH and my DDs will all be in the house but in different rooms doing different things, so perhaps they tend that way too. I hadn't noticed it until she commented on it and we are all quite happy with it (WE DO do stuff together too) but when she said it I felt the need to make excuses for us.

Liiinoo, what is FOI please?

I really needed to go for a walk after work tonight. I didn't because I couldn't face seeing people. It's very overcrowded where I live.