Any others who truly prefer to be alone?

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Just that. I can only completely relax when I'm totally alone and there's no prospect of anyone bothering me any time soon. I prefer my own company, and don't like watching films, TV programmes with others. I've always been like this and it doesn't bother me. It only bothers me when other people insist it's odd, and try to pressure me into being a person I'm not. I live alone and am more than happy with this; think it would kill me to have to share a space with someone else!

So, I'm just hoping to hear from others who perhaps feel the same. To reassure me that I'm not the only one

Me too. I loathe mobile phones and may have to rip off/out my own ears and eyes when they make it possible to get a signal on the underground.

Mobile phones are a total pain. Though it's ok when I'm using mine, obviously Seriously, I feel self conscious talking in public and having people overhear my conversation, so try to keep it brief. Other people obviously don't give a flying fencepost....

I think needing alone time and preferring to be alone are different.

Needing time away from your husband and children is understandable. Most people would not choose to be without their families surely?

Choosing to live alone, relationship free is completely a different thing. It is a state of aloneness as a natural state of being.

Some people feel incomplete unless they are part of a couple.

I would love to have a relationship, to have that special someone. But I'd be quite happy just to see that person once a fortnight, or maybe even just a few hours a week, with a definite cut off time. I can love someone madly, but for me that doesn't equate to wanting to see them all the time, or even often And there aren't that many people out there who feel the same. They simply don't believe that if I "love them as much as I say I do" then why don't I want to be with them LOTS. And then I'm sucked into having to explain my need for solitude and how that's just the way I am.....and then I feel resentful at having to explain and justify. It's so tiring. So, more box sets and salted caramel chocolate it is then ......

I wouldn't want to be on my own all the time but definitely need some alone and quiet time to destress every day. Found that the hardest part of being a mum. I hit a point around 5 pm (so roughly 13 hours after baby wakes me) where I just need quiet and calm so no other people. unfortunately this time coincides with whrn baby needs to cluster feed and toddler is most overtired and grouchy

I love being alone, and with 2 kids and a dh I do have to make sure I carve out alone time. Thankfully a few times a year dh takes the kids away for a long weekend and it is BLISS. I rarely arrange to see people for the whole 4 days, I go to the cinema, listen to music, mooch around shops, cycle, eat out ALL ALONE it is bloody amazing.

Ooh me, me, me!!! I relish any time I get totally alone, I have one friend who I've known since schooldays who is very similar (thankfulky) we also work together and when it comes to holidays always say we might do something but probably not as it means joining society & having to do the people thing again

I spent a lot of my childhood doing my own thing, in my teens I suddenly became very sociable though? The older I get the more alone time I crave, long baths every night after work top me up after a day with most conversations resulting in someone wanting something or talking about themselves nonstop. I've learnt not to order anything for delivery when I get a day to myself, I can't relax properly knowing I'm going to be interrupted. Phone calls get ignored & I'm as happy as a pig in shit.

I hate housework when my OH is home, on my own I wouldn't say I enjoy it but I'm not dragging my arse. I often wonder why I have an OH...I love him but wish he'd piss off out more often!

Thing is old if you were to meet that special someone, you might find yourself wanting to see them more and more. Also maybe feel some resentment if they were happy to only see you once a fortnight or whatever. After all if it is that special, you would want to see more of them.

Human nature I think.

I'm in a LTR with someone who I see for just a few hours once or twice a week, I have a very low need for togetherness but it is nice to have a 'significant other' someone who'll be there for you, that kind of thing

I am the only loner in a very sociable family. I don't feel the need to connect practically every weekend like they do. I don't need to witness every millimetre their kids have grown by. It can be very aggravating because I feel like I'm in the position of having to regularly reject them!

I'm very introverted. I love being with my DH but the two of us can quite happily potter around doing our own things, not talking much at all. I just like knowing he's there.

I don't have many friends (or, to be honest, anyone I would call a 'friend' in the country I'm currently living in). I like lots of people as individuals, but I prefer not being around them. There's not really any nice way to say that though! It's my issue, not anything wrong with everyone else - I know it's me, and that's fine. I don't want lots of friends. I'm a secondary school teacher so I have lots of interaction all day, and although I love my job I'm very, very happy to have quiet evenings and weekends.

I'm currently twenty weeks pregnant with a very unexpected baby and quite worried about the impact that's going to have!

I like the Joan Armatrading song, 'Me Myself, I' where she sings about six days to be alone and only seeing people on Saturday. It sounds bliss. One day to keep in touch and the rest to do as you see fit!

I recently got married (3 weeks ago today). Until I met her two years 3 months ago, I was single, had very few relationships, I lived alone with my cat and my life revolved around my job, my mum (who died nearly three years ago) and a group of very close friends.

We are together a lot (naturally). But, sometimes I crave "me" time. Just to be alone, do what I want etc, tonight she's working (on a sleep night at work) so won't see her until 10.30pm tomorrow night. I love it, just like she said she likes having a day alone when she is off midweek and I'm at work and she watches Game of Thrones, stays in her pj's until lunchtime and plays games on the Xbox thing.

We both accept we need our own space sometimes.

I love it. I could happily live alone - and have in the past. DH has taken DS down to Yorkshire with SIL to spend the weekend with Pil (Fil not well). They went last night and I have loved it. I still have 24 hours to myself. The house has been silent, the bed feels big and cool, I have read, been on my ipad, gardened and sat in the sunshine with only the sound of birds chirping.

Totally love being alone, often read the threads on Mumsnet about people not enjoying their own company and feel sorry for them.

I do have a DH and DC but they frequently do their own thing and so I spend a lot of time alone, by choice. Like every Saturday day and night - total bliss and if they come home early I get mildly very irritated.

People often act 'sad' towards me as my DH is out so much or travels away - I am perfectly happy with the arrangement. Holidaying alone is something else I enjoy, I hate the endless compromises that family life involves. .

I do have a wide circle of friends and activities so people often think I am 'busy and sociable' but my favourite activity is being alone. .

I love my DH, my adult DD and my various friends and family and I would be lonely without them but the older I get the more I need time on my own. We recently bought a holiday cottage about 90 minutes from our main house and it is heaven. I can scoot down there for the odd day/night on my tod and still be back here for all my other commitments. I explore the new area (long bus ride through the dripping wet countryside to a town I have never visited before yesterday) have a quiet G&T in a new pub, sit on the beach with my kindle and generally chill. It doesn't even have a phone.

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Your post triggered a memory of being at my GPs house on holiday. Me, the GPs, my uncle and my cousin all in the living room together reading and the only sound was the clock ticking and the fire crackling. No need to talk. Just heavenly.

Hello fellow introverts! What a lovely thread. I would happily be alone nearly all of the time, I've always been this way but probably tried to hide it more when I was younger. I love Susan Cain's book and she is doing great work to show that the world is a better place for having plenty of introverts. I carve out little bits of time to myself - working from home while kids at school, staying up late when everyone is in bed, walking to work. I love kids and DH but am a much nicer person to be around when I get time alone. Last summer DH took kids away for a week and it was utterly bliss, I took the week off work so I didn't have to see anyone, it was fab, I still think about it and smile!

this is me !

I often come to bed (very) early just to be alone.

For weeks I have felt harassed , harangued, overwhelmed by noise, questions , demands, moans , tasks ....

And I just want to cry .

I love company of those I love .... I just wish that they could be with me in silence sometimes . Either they have the tv too loud or they are talking at me constantly. I find it so stressful it literally does give me tinnitus.

Liii I wish my loved ones had that skill!

I wish people would understand why I need complete isolation once in a while to charge my batteries. Some take it as a direct insult to them if I don't want to chatter for hours on the phone or go shopping for 'fun'. I don't judge people who can't keep quiet for 2 minutes and constantly need company.

An empty vessel makes the most noise😙

Arf. I had a notebook with the phrase 'still Waters' on the cover. I liked that!

I love the descriptions of families sitting reading with the only noise the ticking of the clock. I can just imagine it - utter bliss!

Luckily I tolerate my DH as he is pretty introverted too so we don't chatter endlessly all day. We can complete a car journey in companionable silence too.

I wouldn't like the group reading scenario. I'd be tense thinking that somebody might say something.