AIBU? Food, Weddings and other occasions (DH family etc)

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Hi (first of all, sorry for my English. DH is English, I'm not). Anyhow, I'm pregnant but before that I used to do quite a lot of sport. It included weight requirements, not just what I ate but also how much I weighed.

When I went to a wedding or was invited to a family lunch I asked what the food was, if I could eat it great, but I usually brought my own (there were work related exceptions for this.)

During the off season I could relax, eat piece of cake/a Sunday lunch. But during certain times this was not an option. I've never asked for special considerations to my diet, but DH's mum felt like she had to. She was also somewhat annoyed/hurt (she loves cooking & hates picky eaters),

DH thinks I should eat in a normal way, whatever his mum cooks, our friends cook, is offered in a restaurant, a wedding, the same things he eat at home, I'm not ok with this idea. I personally think being "relaxed" (eating like I do during the off season) is enough. The pregnany is a bit like an off season imo.

My MIL does not understand me still not eating what she wants me to eat. My DH kind of understands but thinks I'm crazy. and it causes tension between my DH and my MIL and also in our relationship.

AIBU? Do you have any advice?

I don't make remarks about food when invited (well, I'm sure I've said stuff like: ohh, that sounds tasty or something...?)

Restless sry if it feels like attacking. But... I guess people are just being brutally honest? I'm not sure. As I said, I'm sorry if what I do offends anybody (I seriousy and truly am).

Somebody sent me a message suggesting I should sometimes eat (like: "I especially planned so I could eat your meal"), then be enthusiastic how tasty it is, and from thenonwards saying with regret that I'd loove to eat her simply brilliant food (so I don't make it seem in any way like her food is bad or I want to hurt her). I'll try this one first, before just not going anymore...

Agree with HicDraconis

Do what you like - it's your body, it's your life and it's your health. I'm sure you're fit, healthy, baby is fine and will continue to be so for a long time without their input.

I agree with notthatgullible - it's your body, and what you put into it should be up to you. I choose not to drink alcohol at social gatherings - and it really seems to upset some people! But as previous posters have said, it's their issue, not yours. Carry on looking after that awesome body of yours!

And thanks for taking the time to answer. DH says we'll either find a solution or we'll all go less often to MIL (especially when the LO is here) according to him he wants to spend Sundays with both of us (LO + me) I'm happy he's so supportive.