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Original poster

a parking one with a note from neighbour

490 replies

KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 13:42

This is the letter left on DP's van yesterday. We live at 215, attached to 213, then there's a road and then 211 where note writer lives.

I'm having to sit on my hands so I don't write a response. AIBU to think this is a bit passive aggressive or AIBU to park van there?

[Message from MNHQ: We've had to remove the attached letter as it was a bit too identiyfing. We realise the rest of the thread will make little sense now to anyone new to the thread, but we're leaving it up so the OP can continue to discuss with those already on board].

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Original poster
KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 13:44

I should have said we're staying with mum until our new house is ready, we already have 2 cars on drive, van is too big to fit through

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gamerchick · 04/06/2016 13:44

I cant read that but the length says that someone is royally peed off.

ApocalypseSlough · 04/06/2016 13:45

It's not passive aggressive. It's a very straightforward polite request. What's stopping you from parking it outside your house?

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 04/06/2016 13:45

What's on the cotd side? (And can you post note in correct orientation?)

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 13:46

Van is too big to get on drive with the two cars on I meant to say. It's also only been there once during the day when DP was on nights. He does leave it there overnight so from 7.30 pm to 5.00 am.

Think that's it Grin

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Finola1step · 04/06/2016 13:46

So nowt to do with taking up a valuable parking space but blocking their view? The view over their hedge?

Loving the passive aggressive underlining.

ApocalypseSlough · 04/06/2016 13:46

When will you be moving? Can you tell him, 'sorry, I can see it's annoying- it won't fit on our drive but we'll be moving in six weeks'

blueskyinmarch · 04/06/2016 13:47

You could write back: “Thank you for your polite note. You are correct in stating that you don’t own the road. You also don’t own the view. I will continue to park my van where there is a space available. If the only space is outside your house then that is where i will park.”

ApocalypseSlough · 04/06/2016 13:47

Can you park a car on the road and put the van on the drive?

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 13:48

It's down the side of her house, there's a 6ft fence in between. Just says thanks and her name on other side

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SauvignonBlanche · 04/06/2016 13:48

Seems pretty polite to me.

WhisperingLoudly · 04/06/2016 13:49

It's not passive aggressive. It's maybe a bit OTT but I have no idea how close to her house your van appears to be when she's sat in the garden.

I personally think it's massively anti social to park a van regularly outside someone else's house.

frog51 · 04/06/2016 13:49

I would just carry on as normal, until she is polite enough to have an actual chat about it instead. Some people have nothing better to do.

AtiaoftheJulii · 04/06/2016 13:49

They can see the van from their back garden? What way round is this house? We need a diagram Grin You'd think the 6 foot fence was enough of a blockage to their view. And yes, let's see the other side too!

Shonajay · 04/06/2016 13:49

Does the van sit right in front of his house? If so, I'd complain too. We have a lovely light outlook with trees, and sometimes the local plumber, despite there being space outside his house, chooses to park outside ours.

This means we have considerably less light coming in, and a huge van plastered with his name etc on. There's also actually a deed in the properties saying no commercial vehicles to be parked in the street, I'd have no problem if he parked it in his drive, but we only had to politely ask him to move it once and he's not done it since.

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 13:49

Re the van on drive, we cant get the other car out if van on it, we'd be constantly moving cars around to get me, mum, dp out

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MeAndTheMajor · 04/06/2016 13:49

True, she doesn't own the road. However, why can't you park it outside your own house?

Purplepicnic · 04/06/2016 13:50

I think it's a polite request and it's not unreasonable of them to ask.

Up to you if you comply though - can you park it elsewhere without hassle?

PegsPigs · 04/06/2016 13:50

How temporary is temporary?

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 13:50

The van is at the side of their house, on the road that runs between 213 and 211

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IAmTheWhoreOfBabylon · 04/06/2016 13:51

Everyone I know in RL thinks it is rude to park outside another person's house only
MN thinks it is a free for all. I would hate a van stuck outside my house

pieceofpurplesky · 04/06/2016 13:51

You are in 215 though. I would be pissed off too.

Jenny70 · 04/06/2016 13:52

The note seems to say that the van is clearly visible over the neighbour's fence, and whilst they realise they don't own the parking space, it is an inconvenience and makes sitting outside less enjoyable.

To be honest, it seems quite polite to me and should it be possible to park the van elsewhere, or move spots each time I drove it home I would.

If you can't fit the van elsewhere and it's for a short term, I'd maybe return a note saying this - "This space is the only available space that the van fits in, and it is likely to be parked there for X months until our rennovations are complete. Sorry for the inconvenience."

BendydickCuminsnatch · 04/06/2016 13:52

It is worded politely but fuck me, who can be arsed to waste their energy caring about a van on the other side of a 6ft fence. Poor love!! It 'mars' her view :(

louisagradgrind · 04/06/2016 13:52

Yes, I agree it does seem a polite note and if it isn't a huge thing to comply with then why not do so?

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