a parking one with a note from neighbour

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This is the letter left on DP's van yesterday. We live at 215, attached to 213, then there's a road and then 211 where note writer lives.

I'm having to sit on my hands so I don't write a response. AIBU to think this is a bit passive aggressive or AIBU to park van there?

[Message from MNHQ: We've had to remove the attached letter as it was a bit too identiyfing. We realise the rest of the thread will make little sense now to anyone new to the thread, but we're leaving it up so the OP can continue to discuss with those already on board].

Calling it hangup is a bit goady, I think.

Dislike, is what I would say.

No-one has yet managed to say what is wrong with showing a bit of ordinary consideration. What about the neighbour being considerate? She has already been told it is a very temporary matter. The van is there in the evening, at the side of her house, parked perfectly legally.

She has also moaned about a resident parking his motorhome on HIS driveway.

Can't she be considerate as to how people choose to live their lives/park their cars?

Plus, whether she objects to cars anyway is a side issue. No-one has yet managed to say what is wrong with showing a bit of ordinary consideration

Of course they have. "ORdiniary consideration" does not mean to do whatever anyone wants no matter how silly or irritating. Example: putting your wheelie bins away so your neighbours don't have to dodge them in the street would be ordinary consideration. Constructing a minature Taj Mahal out of plywood and polystyrene to house said bins to appeal to the aesthetic of a neighbour who asked for same would not be.

OP has already given ordinary consideration to moany neighbour, she does not need to do whatever neighbour likes just because she has a thing about vans anywhere near her house.

Goady? No that was last night.

I dislike cars with spoilers, lowered suspension and furry dice, would it bother me if it was parked on a road next to my house? Nope, because I don't have a hang up about it.

The problem with parking the van elsewhere is that the Op's DP has parked it where they thought it would cause least inconvenience.

At the moment, cross neighbour can only see the top of the van over her fence. She has form for complaining about other people's vehicles.
If they park it elsewhere, they risk another neighbour having to see the whole van outside their house or being inconvenienced in trying to manoevre round it.

I should say the cross neighbour has created more bad feeling among her neighbours with her attitude and her letter-writing than the van parking has done. The reaction of the Op's mum to the whole saga is telling.

What about the neighbour being considerate?

She has been. She's already had the van parked there a number of times. It's reasonable for her to think it's someone else's turn.

And I really don't believe that is the only space within walking distance of the house where the van can be parked without causing inconvenience. If it really is, the van is too big and would be subject to all the regulations about having lights etc.

She has been. She's already had the van parked there a number of times. It's reasonable for her to think it's someone else's turn

That just isn't how parking works. The van can be parked there all day every day if OP chooses, BUT its almost never there during the day, so she is still whining about nothing.

Genuinely bewildered as to why anyone cares about vans parked on the road outside their house? We are on a corner and the nice couple opposite have a gardening business and park their three vans outside my house. It's never occurred to me to care and if I did I would never be self important enough to think I had any business complaining as I do t own the road. Talk about first world problems!

AugustaFinkNottle Sun 05-Jun-16 11:02:14
There is zero evidence that she objects to car parking, and her note specifically referred to what she could see above her fence which ISTR was around 2 feet.

It's a Transit van, and I doubt you'd see 2 feet of it above a 6 foot fence.

In fact, looking across the road from me right now, my neighbour has his van on his drive and it's level, maybe even slightly lower than his own 6 foot fence.

Looking along the road, another neighbour has a transit van on the roadside. It's level with the top of a 3rd neighbour's fence.

Which is making me wonder if the OP's neighbour really can see the van over her fence or if she's actually complaining simply because she doesn't like the idea of a van behind her fence.

Rasberry I think you should go and measure your neighbours' vans and enquire whether they are complying with the regulations regarding weight, lights, tax and household insurance should their house burn down.

I don't get what people are arguing about. Yes, the van can by law be parked there all day every day. Yes, it's a strange thing for the neighbour to get worked up about. Yes, she may be exaggerating it. But the point is - how would it hurt OP's husband to start parking somewhere else now? He's had his stint of the nice convenient parking nearby arrangement so neighbour has had her turn, what on earth is wrong with moving to a different space? What's wrong with being, y'know, nice to people? Is that so outrageous a concept? Or if you won't do it for the sake of being nice, do it out of self-interest. OP's mother still needs to live near this neighbour, surely it doesn't hurt to keep on reasonably good relations for all sorts of very obvious reasons.

chipped

I cba to bother my nice neighbours on a nice day like this. And actually, their vans are not obtrusive, spoiling the view, or in any way causing an issue. The vans are just...there....

Oh dear. I drive a Transit van: except with seats in for the kids - does that make it OK to park on the road? It's actually not as tall as my old car with the roof box on. Is it ok because it's not a company van? WHERE IS THE LINE, folks?

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It's reasonable for her to think it's someone else's turn. Erm...it isn't up to her to deal out "turns"

It's a public parking space, she doesn't own the space, therefore anyone is free to park there.

He's had his stint of the nice convenient parking nearby arrangement so neighbour has had her turn, what on earth is wrong with moving to a different space? Why are you obsessed with turns? The neighbour isn't objecting to op's dh having had his fair share of "turns" she doesn't want anyone parking in that space at all by the looks of it.

If she needed that space, I could understand. But she doesn't, and furthermore, she doesn't like ANYONE parking anything anywhere, should it be larger than the average family car!

That's it exactly toomanyeggs. I was chatting to other neighbour who got the note last night and apparently note lady doesn't even like her daughter parking there. The woman has a driveway but keeps it padlocked

Chipped Can I borrow the tape measure afterwards for my NDNs monstrosity ginormous van outside my own house?

I don't think OP is being unreasonable in parking it where they are legally allowed, but instill don't think the neighbour was being passive aggressive in the note.

TheVillagePost mine is out the front, not the side, but it does irrationally pee me odd sometimes, especially when my illnesses flare up and I need that easy access. However, I know they are legally parked and I don't have a leg to stand on in law so I grin and bear it.

*off

Augusta there isn't an abundance of space otherwise it wouldn't be an issue

Ahhhh, but Snow is it a van or a camper? And if it's a van, is it a van with child seats or a van with a company slogan that's probably not paying tax. And don't forget we need to know how much it weighs too!

On a more serious note, if your neighbour is creating an access issue unlike the OP , could you have a chat with them?

Its not a van or a camper, its a highway maintenance truck. I think I'm going to need a longer tape measurer.

Seriously, OP? There is no space to park a van within walking distance? If that's the case, it's too big to be parked in a residential road.

Because Augusta other cars/vans also park on that road. Unless we park on someone else's drive or in front of their house, there's no other options

Hence why it's not been parked there every night, we've been here 3 weeks now and it's been 5 overnights

So park in your own drive and put a car in that space.