a parking one with a note from neighbour

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This is the letter left on DP's van yesterday. We live at 215, attached to 213, then there's a road and then 211 where note writer lives.

I'm having to sit on my hands so I don't write a response. AIBU to think this is a bit passive aggressive or AIBU to park van there?

[Message from MNHQ: We've had to remove the attached letter as it was a bit too identiyfing. We realise the rest of the thread will make little sense now to anyone new to the thread, but we're leaving it up so the OP can continue to discuss with those already on board].

I was with them completely (vans block light sometimes) until you explained its not the front of the house AND it's behind a six foot fence! It sounds like they are the type of neighbours who feel everything in the vicinity of their house should be controlled by them. YANBU to park there and to ignore the note.

Perfectly polite request but I think she's being completely ridiculous.

Unless your van is painted with offensive language or images I can't believe the sight of 2ft of van poking above her fence is really that problematic for her.

I'd just ignore the note.

You go to work and leave the van behind??

Sorry, but until you tell us why you can't park outside your own house, I think you are BU!

Your mum will still be living here after you move so for the sake of harmony I would do everything possible to keep her neighbours happy.

If it means a bit more juggling for you then try to manage for the next few weeks. There may come a day your mum will need the help of a neighbour.

Even though it's polite, it's still quite passive-aggressive IMO. Why can't they come and talk to you personally about it if it's annoying them so greatly? A two page letter is a bit much.

Can't park outside the house, it's on a bus route and he'd be blocking the road. Opposite neighbours all park on road so isn't enough room to park our side too.

I stress again though, the van isn't at the front of their house, it's on a side road down the side of their house

Didn't realise address was shown, I'll report and ask to remove

Soul destroying? Ruining their enjoyment? How tall are she and her husband that six inches of van over a six foot fence is killing them? She is being very unreasonable. Get your DM to reiterate that you'll be gone in a couple of weeks.

WHY CANT YOU PARK CLOSER TO YOUR MUM'S HOUSE? I'm shouting cow you've gored this question multiple times.

No Var, we don't leave the van behind when we go to work. I cant see the address

I've answered the question above Var

Ok, fair enough then re parking outside your house.

Maybe neighbour's letter is a tad OTT, however it is clearly pissing them off. Would be it be such a massive deal for your DP to park outside different houses (including note writer's) on different nights?

It's soul-destroying to be able to see a couple of inches of van over the top of your high fence, at the side of your house?

Oh, to have such an easy life that this kind of shit seemed like an actual problem!
How the fuck does having a van on the road on the side of your house affect you in any way at all?

She's put the address in the letter OP.

I think she's being entirely unreasonable!!

If you dp moves the van at 5am every day I wonder if it is also bothering them when he leaves? At that time of the day a van starting up is quite noisy

I hate vans parked in residential areas. They take up too much parking space and are ugly to look at.

YABU - the least you could do is look at the ugly thing yourself and not inflict it on someone who hates it.

Put your cars on the road and the van on the drive.

Well they haven't mentioned that Nancy so let's not speculate

so she put the note through even when the van wasn't parked there? That is very highly strung.

Cant you paint some pretty picture on the van for her to look at

Would they let you use their drive for any of your vehicles?

A bloody great van parked outside my house all the time would piss me off to be honest. But if it's not parked there all the time and it's not outside the front of their house then they are being a little bit unreasonable.

Oooh yes, it's in the letter. And not hard to find on google maps yes I'm a creep sue me

Brilliant!

I had a neighbour tell me off for parking my car outside her house the other day. She told me that her sister had not been able to visit her because my car was there. There are always loads of spaces on the (very short) street. I can only think that her sister must not like her much.

I have reported