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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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a parking one with a note from neighbour

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 13:42

This is the letter left on DP's van yesterday. We live at 215, attached to 213, then there's a road and then 211 where note writer lives.

I'm having to sit on my hands so I don't write a response. AIBU to think this is a bit passive aggressive or AIBU to park van there?

[Message from MNHQ: We've had to remove the attached letter as it was a bit too identiyfing. We realise the rest of the thread will make little sense now to anyone new to the thread, but we're leaving it up so the OP can continue to discuss with those already on board].

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 13:52

It's been there one day, the rest of the time has been between the hours stated above.

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Purplepicnic · 04/06/2016 13:53

You could just say that you understand it's annoying, you will try to park it somewhere else but there will be times you won't be able to and not to worry as you're only living there temporarily.

RaeSkywalker · 04/06/2016 13:54

Why can't you park the van outside your DM's house?

When are you moving? If you really can't park the van elsewhere, I'd go and speak to the owner in person, and tell her when it will be gone by.

mogloveseggs · 04/06/2016 13:54

What does your dm think seeing as she is the one who lives there and has to see the neighbours day in day out when you've moved out.

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 13:55

It's going to be between 2-3 weeks which she knows. She's on speaking terms with mum, she was asking mum if she had visitors as she saw my (new) car parked on drive. Mum told her about our situation, told her it would be for a month

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Mishmashpotatoes · 04/06/2016 13:56

Can both cars not be put on the street and the van in the drive? Does seem a little unfair on your neighbour imo.

TheWindInThePillows · 04/06/2016 13:56

I have a car sitting about at the moment waiting to go into the garage and my neighbour politely asked me if I could move it so he could park his van a bit easier. It's no trouble to me to move it, so I did. I think moving a large van about a bit so it isn't permanently outside one place is an ok thing to ask. They aren't telling you to do it, just politely asking if you wouldn't mind. I think it's an ok thing to ask, but my neighbours are all quite cooperative and don't mind shuffling about/letting people use their spaces/moving if annoying, so I wouldn't find this odd.

PinkFondantFancy · 04/06/2016 13:57

I don't understand how anyone has so little going on in their lives that they have headspace to be remotely bothered about a van outside their house. Weird. I wouldn't move it, it's a bizarre and ridiculous request.

HappyHeart87 · 04/06/2016 13:59

The underlining reminds me of those awful greetings cards that have a hideous message with random words in italics.

Owlytellsmesecrets · 04/06/2016 13:59

What on Earth does she look at over a 6ft fence!
She is totally batshit crazy. Looking at a van which 2ft above a 6ft fence!!'n she can see anything over the fence but sky !!!! Your van is ruining her sky!

Complete nightmare ... She knows it you, she knows it temporary ... Use the letter to start s BBQ when she's got her washing out!!!

mogloveseggs · 04/06/2016 13:59

I think I'd put the van on the drive then.

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 14:00

It's not blocking any driveways, their driveway is further up but they don't have a car. The front of their house overlooks the main road, the side of their house overlooks the side road, or it would if the fence wasn't there. They can probably only see 6" of the van above the fence, it's a 6ft fence and a Ford transit van so not huge

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MeAndTheMajor · 04/06/2016 14:00

OP - you've been asked a few times, why can't you park outside your own house?

It would piss me off to have a great whacking van filling my window every time I looked out tbh. In the interest of neighbourly relations, why not park outside your house or in different locations?

Peppassista · 04/06/2016 14:00

To me it sounds like a polite letter, making a fair point.
True, you don't have to comply, but do you really want to piss off your Mum's neighbours?

LongChalk · 04/06/2016 14:01

Why can't you leave it out front of your house? Or spread the misery and park differently each time.
Can you write back and explain that your are only there for a short while. Where will you park it at your new house? Are you likely to encounter the same objections?

Tbh, someone's van parked side onto my house the other side of a 6ft wall would be the least of my worries.

SanityClause · 04/06/2016 14:01

Do a polite reply back, saying that you will try not to park it there, during the day, if possible, and that, in any event, you will have moved out of your mother's house within the next few weeks.

But ask her to be understanding that it may not always be possible to park it elsewhere.

We lived in a cul de sac for about 6 months, and people there did believe that the space outside their house belonged to them. As we didn't want to fall out with our neighbours, we complied with that, if we possibly could.

WhisperingLoudly · 04/06/2016 14:02

Why can't you park outside your mums house?

Var123 · 04/06/2016 14:03

I think if you ignore it, neighbourly relations will become very strained because you've been politely asked.
The underlining is a bit much, but some people don't seem to be able to write anything without either underlining or using multiple punctuation marks instead of full stops, so it might just be her way. (Or it might indicate how frustrated the writer is feeling).

Is there anywhere else you can park, even just to mix it up a bit so its not always no. 211?

abigamarone · 04/06/2016 14:03

It's polite, but they're barking to have gone to the trouble of writing a note because it "mars their view".

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KinkyAfro · 04/06/2016 14:04

DM went round to speak to her when she got the note, it was pushed through the door addressed to her. She told DM it's soul destroying and ruining their enjoyment of the garden and weather. DP and I were at work when the note came through, otherwise I'd have gone round to reiterate it's only temporary

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ImperialBlether · 04/06/2016 14:04

You know the address is on there, don't you? Given the DM's attraction to MN threads, I don't think it's fair to post that on here.

Move the van. Who wants to look out of their window and see someone else's van there?

coconutpie · 04/06/2016 14:04

Why can you not park outside YOUR house?

Baanaanaa · 04/06/2016 14:05

Have to agree, it would piss me off too.

Var123 · 04/06/2016 14:05

Agree that the writer is overly precious. Its a shame there isn't someone in the writer's house who could've told them to get over it before the letter was written and posted. it is too late for that now though..

LongChalk · 04/06/2016 14:05

My new neighbour popped round on Thur to ask if the children needed to spend all day in the garden making a racket! She said she worked from home and in nice weather liked to work on the patio listening to her radio.

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