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To be fed up of feeling like I'm a second-class member of society

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Mummyme1987 · 29/05/2016 02:11

I had a serious car accident a few years ago, and have various medical complications too. I use a wheelchair. I'm fed up with this feeling that because I have mobility and medical problems, I'm not a full member of society. I overheard a now non friend imply that I was a drain on society because I don't work. Lately I've had issues with people talking over me, at a checkout I'm ignored and even though my hand is out for the change it's given to my husband. Little things like people moving my wheelchair so I'm facing the wall. Even moving me so I bash my toes. And then there is the parking issues, comments about being too young to have mobility problems, like being young stops car accidents. I've put on weight since the accident, so i get a lot of too fat to walk comments. Why do people do this? My family are fab, we have other disabilities in the family, and at home I don't feel this way. Im now finding I don't enjoy leave the house unless I have too. Im fed up with other people's attitudes. When I have talked to these people about the attitude, they always try to lay it at my feet with the dont be so sensitive, maybe you are depressed (I'm not), I'm actually really happy, I just am fed up with your attitude! Im not even sure why i am writing this but it has boiled ever today.

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Mummyme1987 · 05/07/2016 00:16

She's doing well. Seems to be coping with the job ok. X

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IcaMorgan · 05/07/2016 14:35

That's good to hear

NoHaudinMaWheest · 05/07/2016 15:06

Mummy glad dd is doing well.

I have some good news. Dd got her PIP (transitioning from DLA) enhanced care and mobility for 3 years. I had to read it several times before I believed it.
Was refused transport for 6th form though. However the PIP means we can buy a power chair for her which will increase her overall independence.

Mummyme1987 · 05/07/2016 15:13

That's fab news xx

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Mummyme1987 · 05/07/2016 15:16

Merilwen thanks for the support

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AphraBehnsPencil · 10/07/2016 12:35

I'm a serial name-changer so I'm upthread under a different name. I'm disabled and have found this thread hugely helpful (thank you Mummyme) because I've sometimes felt it was just me "not coping" rather than me being expected to cope with something that is uncopeable with.

If uncopeable is even a word.

I've just popped over to mention Euan's Guide which is for posting reviews of venues etc. for access. It's here and exists as a website and an app.

Looks like it's patchy across the country at the moment but we could help to change that?

Mummyme1987 · 15/07/2016 23:43

Yes I can! Have you seen the Paralympic advert? It's fab!

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Samcro · 15/07/2016 23:49

i saw bells mentioned so had to post.
our bank has steps....no ramp....they had a bell and used to have someone on a desk facing the door.
so you could ring the bell....or wave like mad and they would come out.
they discontented the bell cos kids kept pressing it!!
they moved the desk.....so the only way you could get help was to as a customer... so there is me and dd (in her wheelchair) in the rain waiting and hoping the customer remembers....
thank god for on line banking

Samcro · 15/07/2016 23:53
Mummyme1987 · 16/07/2016 00:01

It's so good, though I really don't fancy that ramp at the end! I have enough trouble with the wonky camber on the supermarket pavement.

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Mummyme1987 · 16/07/2016 00:01

That's shit about the bell. It's so degrading.

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Samcro · 16/07/2016 00:04

it annoyed me, as it was so silly....
the advert is brilliant

Mummyme1987 · 16/07/2016 01:06

Saw it on the last leg.

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