To be fed up of feeling like I'm a second-class member of society

[Mummyme1987]

I had a serious car accident a few years ago, and have various medical complications too. I use a wheelchair. I'm fed up with this feeling that because I have mobility and medical problems, I'm not a full member of society. I overheard a now non friend imply that I was a drain on society because I don't work. Lately I've had issues with people talking over me, at a checkout I'm ignored and even though my hand is out for the change it's given to my husband. Little things like people moving my wheelchair so I'm facing the wall. Even moving me so I bash my toes. And then there is the parking issues, comments about being too young to have mobility problems, like being young stops car accidents. I've put on weight since the accident, so i get a lot of too fat to walk comments. Why do people do this? My family are fab, we have other disabilities in the family, and at home I don't feel this way. Im now finding I don't enjoy leave the house unless I have too. Im fed up with other people's attitudes. When I have talked to these people about the attitude, they always try to lay it at my feet with the dont be so sensitive, maybe you are depressed (I'm not), I'm actually really happy, I just am fed up with your attitude! Im not even sure why i am writing this but it has boiled ever today.

My powerchair is being somewhat temperamental since my damp weekend of camping, keep having random connection errors. So i'm stuck in the house apart from my scooter (fine for outside but not for going IN anywhere). Meh.

I'm in pain and i am irritable

Oh no, I'm camping next month.
Perhaps I shouldn't?

Nah it'll be fine - i got especially wet and muddy. It's been fine the other umm, three times i've taken it camping :)

has it dried out yetBishop?

Anyone have any experience of suction machines? I know mega expensive not something need b iften but scares crap out of me when I do. But from what I can gather even if you need a lot some areas don't give or only through certain charities

Yeah it's fine, thanks for asking

Was my birthday. My friend bought me Thorntons Chocs!

Went to a local shop and since I was there last they have sorted ramps.
take note thorntons

Very portable and very effective :)

Wonder how long take thortons to put a bell up as promised? Surely a week is plenty for such big company. My bet is they do sod all about it mind!

Don't see why they couldn't do those plastic moveable ramps

Couldn't see a bell today 😡

So not suprised mummy prob need permission from landlord .... Going take time never

Slow clap to my pound shop who managed block perfectly good aisle so it was impassable on both sides!! Ever other person in there has pram why would you do that? Luckily a neighbour arrived around the corner just after I took pic and between us we bumped it all over enough so least could acess one side!

Wonder how long take thortons to put a bell up as promised?

I could do it in 2 minutes:

30 seconds to order www.amazon.co.uk/Wireless-Doorbell-Portable-Indicator-Batteries/dp/B0129TILTG/ref=sr_1_1

80 seconds to insert batteries, and stick button on door frame.
10- seconds to place ringer somewhere sensible.

Given that Amazon can deliver that to me within 8 hours, I could guarantee having a working doorbell by 9am tomorrow.

I would accept 48 hours, if I got a discount.

There really is no excuse, That's if you really want to do something.

Exactly what I thought lurking if we give benefit of doubt that not one leasing manager, regional or store manager or any staff or previous customers had never noticed rolls eyes then we take at word they are sorry and will fix.

I be tempted print out adverts for wireless doorbell and stick on glass. If they do do it bet your bottom dollar it be 6 foot in the air!

I be tempted print out adverts for wireless doorbell and stick on glass

Personally I would not shop at Thorntons. But that's me.

she can't if she wanted too!

Posting again for a moan.

Used my wheelchair today (usually use a walker) as was in too much pain to walk. In sainsburys a man walked up to me and said, "the problem with you using that is that you're below my eye level - I don't notice you."

Never mind that that's actually a twatty thing to say, I mean why the fuck did he feel the need to accost me and tell me that? But it was all said with a smile and a chatty tone of voice. He actually though he was being friendly!!

I just smiled and nodded (why?!) when I should have told him he managed to notice children, dog shit, trip hazzards on the ground so why the fuck was it so hard to see me?

Or I should've shouted, "the problem with you is you're an arsehole!"

I don't know if the pain is making me be unreasonable or if it really was a twattastic thing to say? Comments like that just make me feel like I'm being a nuisance - getting in the way of 'proper' people who are trying to go about their day.

That's horrible!! You have every right to be annoyed FFS you are least 4 foot tall in a chair! If you were a tenner on the floor bet he have no trouble noticing you. He was prob trying be amusing..... Because telling people how much of a problem you are is always a side splitter!!!

I can never think of quick witted things to type out because I'm usually too gob smacked then get v annoyed at myself later.

Actual think people can't see anything else about you expect Disability so only thing can comment on. Which as inclusivity goes is just awful. It's like 1950s Britisn and wave of people from West Indians and the helpful friendly people at the bus stop can only profer "bet you don't like the cold" or other bizarre phrases based on skin colour.

Which I know I've said this before but society's moved on and race and culture and dress are just accepted as norm now for those who maybe moved here in last 50years. Yet Disabled people who have ALWAYS been here and ok so were historically hidden away more still battling to just not be noticed and accepted. Yet we still get the "we not used to you" attitudes with speech and behaviour where anyother minority groups it's other person who's expected to keep up with social changes and adapt.

Even very elderly people who may have held "normal" racist opinions are rebuked yet if you still want do silly jokes about Disabilites or not even put ramp up your tiny step yes thortons looking at you this is fine. Things take time to change you know!

It's a change in attitude as much as anything we need.

and a fucking ramp

How's everyone?

This thread has been really eye opening, I had no idea this was an issue. I'd like to think the poster who said it was people worried about doing or saying the wrong thing in a lot of instances, but clearly that's not the case in all. I think a camera is a bloody good idea!

I'm good mummy, getting everything sorted to go on holiday on wed. How are you and how's your daughter getting on?