Or is the bloke I spilt my latte on

[Rowanhart]

Getting on train today, when someone bumps me on their way past. I dropped my costa coffee (latte, 10 mins old) on table and some split on man's paper, sleeve of jumper and one splash on trousers

Me: oh god I'm very sorry'
Man: 'for Godsake'
Me: so sorry, are your hurt'
Man: 'No I'm messy'

Train bloke with trolley comes over with napkins.

Me: 'so sorry (takes napkins, starts cleaning up.'
Man: 'Can do it myself, stupid cow'
Me: 'okay, well I am sorry'

10 minutes later trolley man comes over and asks for mobile number, name and address as man has put incident in accident book. I ask if details will be passed to man and he says not sure so I refuse.

Then coffee man comes over and demands details. I still refuse. Pretend to get off at next stop and get back on 2 carriages down.

Trolley man comes down, spots me and again asks for details. I refuse and he says transport police may be called. They are not and I get off at destination.

Should I have given my details?

If I had apologised (and I would) for the accidentally spilled coffee and the person had then called me a "stupid cow" I most certainly would not then have gone on to offer money for dry cleaning.

I might have told him that I had been about to offer to pay for dry cleaning, but in light of his rudeness and abusive remarks I now wouldn't be.

You weren't wrong to withhold your details. They are not entitled to them and nor is twatty man.

You could have told trolley man that you were considering reporting the other man for abusive behaviour, as calling you a stupid cow was abusive.

Bit at the idea he should suck up having coffee spilled on him because he's a twat. The fault is the OP's for carrying coffee onto the train. Though I wonder if the train company would have any liability if she'd bought the coffee on the train.

Being split on IS annoying but what a total dick to call you a silly cow and be so aggressive.

You never know, maybe he was on his way to an important interview or pitch or something and so having coffee split on him was a massive deal - but if he had approached it calmly and requested money for dry cleaning it would have been much better.

Rosie, my jeans and jumper comment wasn't in response to you.

Do us a favour and lay off the 'I think that you will find' tone.

I would have asked for his details for harassment after you apologised and he called you a cow and then had the ball to come and demand details.

I love the idea of spilled coffee going in the incident book!

I would have been pissed off at having coffee on me-but more pissed off at an attempt to mop me up😅

But everybody carries coffee onto a train. Or nearly everybody (cue hundreds of people who don't even drink coffee angrily taking exception to this). I've haven't got on a train in the last 10 years without also holding a coffee - that's why every station forecourt in the land has at least a Costa in it.

This is just insane - the thread, the coffee bloke, the trolley guy, all of it. If trolley guy couldn't tell you that your details would not be passed on to a random quite volatile man you didn't know from Adam, then of course you shouldn't have given your personal information to him. And that was the question the OP actually asked.

I had coffee spilt down my neck/shoulders as I was on a train to London. Newly in the job - didn't know how to replace my suit jacket and turning up in a stained blouse and skirt wouldn't have gone down well. It cost me £450 to dip into a female boutique and buy another suit and blouse on my credit card (the cheapest I could find that still matched with my shoes, brief case and handbag)

Please say you're kidding? Otherwise- small tip, if you really need a change of clothes, pop to New Look or similar and get a white blouse (how can that not match your shoes, briefcase or handbag?). That should be fine if you're just in the office. If you have to be at court or in a meeting where you need to wear a jacket, I would head to primark/next. That is unless I needed a new suit anyway. But no way would I pay £450 for the cheapest one just to tide me over for one day. I used to be a lawyer and had to wear a jacket for court but would have been fine in a cheap one and I have never worked in any firm where you had to keep your jacket on all day.

My sincerest apologies if you are in fact an ITV news anchor or a member of the Cabinet who was appearing on TV that day.

I think I would sympathise with him if he hadn't called OP a "silly cow" and hadn't carried on complaining after she apologised profusely and helped clean up.

Having a splash of coffee on your jeans isn't the same as being soaked in the stuff, and certainly doesn't warrant a complaint to the bloke serving and the OP's address! How ridiculously OTT.

Rosie if you can afford to do that rather than nipping into Primark or New Look consider yourself extremely lucky!

stupid cow, not silly.

Very aggressive.

I know everybody always says that MN is going downhill, but there are some thick as shit posters on here these days.

The irony of village saying the OP wasn't paying close enough attention while failing to actually read the information about being bumped into by someone else has clearly escaped her.

No one says the man has to be happy but being rude and aggressive is not going to undo what happened.

Pmsl at the idea of calling the transpot police. They exist for actual serious stuff not because some bloke is having a strop about coffee spillage.

Wt actual f?!

Coffee man is a twat.

I wouldn't have given my details either.

I think you should have offered to pay for dry-cleaning... Or at least half of it (seeing as you were bumped...). But yes, the guy basically chasing you is too much.

OK, Rosie, but Debenhams suits do not cost £450 so you must have bought a more expensive replacement. Did you go to TM Lewin or something? It sounds in your case like the suit was more to boost your own confidence rather than a necessity. Fair enough, I would not go in the witness box soaked in coffee as an expert witness, but I probably would go in wearing a cheapo suit (but maybe that's just me). If I absolutely had to replace someone's clothes because I spilled coffee on them, I would never offer £450.

Course this wouldn't have happened in Business Class.

Some familiar posters on here I see.

But everybody carries coffee onto a train.

Sure. And everyone accepts the risk that, if they spill their coffee, if they cause damage they should compensate the person affected.

I would be miffed you'd got a bit of coffee on me, accepted your apology and shrugged it off. He sounds like an arse.

I'd complain to the train company about the steward.

Why?

Bloody hell I definitely wouldn't be giving my personal details to a sweary angry man!

So YANBU

What saddo can be bothered to log an accident report on a train over spilt coffee?!

If you're a rude person, you're a rude person whether it be morning, afternoon or evening! He hardly sounds like the type of person who would have laughed it off three hours later.

YANBU - he sounds like a right nob!

Pmsl at the idea of calling the transpot police. They exist for actual serious stuff not because some bloke is having a strop about coffee spillage

Yeah, they would attend if there was an altercation on the train though. It depends on the level of aggression but if someone is being subjected to aggressive behaviour by another passenger, they could certainly be called. I have seen them attend when someone refused to leave the train when asked. There was no violence or aggression, he just said he was not getting off, despite having no travel pass. The TP arrived and removed him. It all depends on how aggressive he was being.