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Original poster

Visiting friend brought a man home.

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RevealTheHiddenBeach · 21/05/2016 07:39

Not sure on this one. I live with dh in a little 2 bed. Friend has been staying with us all week whilst in our area with her work. We've had a lovely week. Last night she went out with some other people and brought a man home unannounced.

I feel really uncomfortable about this and also like it's a real cheek! She leaves today. We were going to have a nice breakfast but I dont want to make idle small talk with strangers in my own house first thing!

So... aibu to feel this way and wibu to say something?!

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AyeAmarok · 21/05/2016 08:03

Wowzer, that's some brass neck!

Maybe he was just walking her home, rather than coming for a shag?

CuttedUpPear · 21/05/2016 08:03

Live walk of shame thread Grin

ShatnersBassoon · 21/05/2016 08:04

Imagine how awkward the bloke will be feeling now he's woken up sober in a stranger's house! He'll be working out an alternative escape route.

You might not have to face him, but you will have to tell her she was unfair to treat your home like a hotel. It must be so uncomfortable for you.

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RevealTheHiddenBeach · 21/05/2016 08:05

She's 26, we're 28-30. No kids, but still. I have to leave at 9 to go wedding dress shopping with a different friend. Wondering how much I can avoid them in a 2 up 2 down...

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Ditsy4 · 21/05/2016 08:05

No you're definitely not. What if she has just picked him up in a bar? He could be anyone...thief, axe murderer etc I'd be really upset with her. Text further up is a brilliant idea! Hopefully she will be mortified at what she has done.

You could always text " Is the man you. Brought home staying for breakfast our airbnb rate is £:)"

Ditsy4 · 21/05/2016 08:06

Oops!

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RevealTheHiddenBeach · 21/05/2016 08:06

Hugely entertained by live walk of shame idea but that would mean I have to see them!

I can hear a man voice.

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GrumpyMummy123 · 21/05/2016 08:07

OMG - just the thought of a friend bringing some guy back for a bit of nooky in my spare room would have me fuming!!!

Ha ha I think 'British it out' is a great phrase! Perhaps has to be done first thing this morning. Be sickening polite and annoying. But then after the random stranger has gone have a word to say no guests if stay again please!!

WutheringFrights · 21/05/2016 08:07

Take them both a lovely hotel style breakfast in bed - but remember to knock on the bedroom door and shout 'room service' first Grin

NotYoda · 21/05/2016 08:07

That's really really rude of her.

witsender · 21/05/2016 08:07

I would want to see them. With a right face on, make them squirm!

donajimena · 21/05/2016 08:08

Oh my God hope they don't start shagging. Or he doesn't do a big post booze number 2...

NotYoda · 21/05/2016 08:08

I like the text by Ditsy4

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RevealTheHiddenBeach · 21/05/2016 08:09

Sudden realisation that I will have to wash those sheets.

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Headofthehive55 · 21/05/2016 08:09

I f she usually requires breakfast I'd hide all the breakfast food. It's not a hotel.

FernCurl · 21/05/2016 08:10

Oh lighten up you old bores. That's hilarious. I'd invite him down to breakfast. Why does it have to be awkward?

Convoysandwich · 21/05/2016 08:10

Hmmm at 26, and with no children in the house, I don't think it's that bad Blush

I would probably make a joke of it, but say no strange men next time.

RabbitSaysWoof · 21/05/2016 08:12

My friend did that once, her parents moved away and she stayed with me while visiting friends in the area. I was at work in a pub, got back shattered and when I walked in they looked like they had been sprung by their parents or something.
I couldn't work out why I felt so angry but it really pissed me off. I thought maybe I was embarrassed and BU to feel annoyed.

DawgDawg · 21/05/2016 08:13

Your friend might be wondering who the fuck he is & be absolutely dreading getting him out the house. Blush

I think you both need to nip to the paper shop so she can throw show him out.

ExtraHotLatteToGo · 21/05/2016 08:13

Presumably you're not washing them by hand down at the stream?! Hmm

Just ask your friend to strip the bed & put the sheets in the washing machine if you're that bothered.

However, yes, it was rude if her yo bring some casual shag back to your house.

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RevealTheHiddenBeach · 21/05/2016 08:14

You're right convoy, the world has not ended, and it's not as bad as if there were kids.

However I'm 5-6 years past there being random men in the house first thing in the morning, and it's all a bit uncomfortable!

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Lweji · 21/05/2016 08:14

Don't avoid any of them. Just practice your disapproving look and your raised eyebrow. Let them sweat it.

peasofcake · 21/05/2016 08:16

I'd just tell everyone , humiliate her a bit as punishment. If your going to be cheeky enough to do this then she can take a bit of flack for it. I have to say I think I would find this funny especially if it was a friend who this sort of behaviour is out of character for.

Make sure you ask her to strip the sheets before she leaves and put them in the machine (that's not even un reasonable without the sleepover so you shouldn't feed rude!)

larrygrylls · 21/05/2016 08:18

Personally I think it is very rude. It is not her house to invite anyone back to. He could be anyone.

For me it would damage the friendship.

Obviouspretzel · 21/05/2016 08:19

This wouldn't really bother me at all. I mean, it is a little bit rude but I couldn't get worked up over it especially with no DC. I can understand why some people would be annoyed, but one poster said they'd never speak to their friend ever again! Really?

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